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| Topic: How important is a good career to you & your potential mate? | |
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I don't generally care what a gentleman does for his living; as I support myself, but I just wish more people would take a chill pill when asked what it is they do for a living. After all if you do something forty plus hours a week it stand to reason it is a big part of your life and lifestyle . And to at least some small degree the lifestyle of anyone who has a relationship with you. If you want a smooth relationship and support for what you do it only makes sense to me to tell the person you want to date something about the kind or work you do. I am not talking about corporate secrets but if you want more than marginal acceptance than put some cards on the table. Work doesn't always define who you are. For some, it's just work. When the 8 hour work day is up, we forget about it until the next day. When someone asks me what I do, I'll tell them, but I have no desire to get into a big discussion about it, as it's just work. yep.. when someone asks me what i do for a living, i tell them i breathe |
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Edited by
oldhippie1952
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Sat 04/07/12 01:24 PM
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I became disabled prior to the first recession in 2002 or so and have a comfortable life.
To me, I need to work. I enjoy analyzing and solving things (my experience/job for 27 years) and now I attend college for an accountant degree. I should get a kidney within this next year and I would love to work again (cuz I think of it as fun). So work is important to me. Don't know how potential mates feel about it. P.S. If you don't have a job, women are reluctant to date you. So I got a double whammy having a medical condition too! |
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I believe a job or career is important for anyone...including yourself. Can't live on love and sunshine...
However, there are some females that are home makers (I'm jealous) and some men who are home makers too... that is ok as long as the couple has agreed that it is ideal for them. ..I am still jelly 
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I became disabled prior to the first recession in 2002 or so and have a comfortable life. To me, I need to work. I enjoy analyzing and solving things (my experience/job for 27 years) and now I attend college for an accountant degree. I should get a kidney within this next year and I would love to work again (cuz I think of it as fun). So work is important to me. Don't know how potential mates feel about it. P.S. If you don't have a job, women are reluctant to date you. So I got a double whammy having a medical condition too! This tells me that you are at least trying to make the best of your situation, and not just milking it and being a bum. And hopefully, some woman will realize this too, and be understanding. Best o luck to you brother. |
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I believe a job or career is important for anyone...including yourself. Can't live on love and sunshine... However, there are some females that are home makers (I'm jealous) and some men who are home makers too... that is ok as long as the couple has agreed that it is ideal for them. ..I am still jelly
Of course it's important. But HOW important is it to you? Would you rather be the stay at home partner while he provides, and be in a miserable relationship? Or be just scraping by, making ends meet, with BOTH of you working, and be happy & in love? |
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Well to me it is as important as I just said. I would not tolerate a unemployed person sitting around not trying to make an effort. It would not happen. I do not allow myself to be in a miserable relationship either. Scarping by is not a option for me.
Thank goodness I have a career and what I do in my life is enough to fulfill me. |
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Well, I am retired with a good pension and health ins. so I don't have to worry so much but I do know that I cannot totally support another person if I want a decent life.. He has to be able to contribute a little bit.. My husband died 5 yrs ago and left me a lot of debt..I have worked hard to pay everything off and in two more months, other than my regular expenses, I will be debt free..I don't drive a new car or live in a new house but I am happy, satisfied and proud of where I am today..
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I've come across quite a few couples in the RECENT years, that their marriage had ended after 20+ years, because they spent most of their married life trying to work to give their kids everything, then when the kids are grown, (and most of them ungrateful for the sacrifices their parents made for them) the marriage ends because their focus wasn't on keeping their marriage alive, they were focused on the material things to give to their kids. They had lost the connection with each other. Wow. You hit the nail on the head with that one. That has got to be the quote of the year for me.   13 years into the second marriage with her after five years of rehabilitation to deal with the four years of marriage to her then to be told you can leave now. Talk about feeling disposable. Wow. You mean I have served my purpose and my restitution for getting you pregnant twice is paid. Thank God that is over. Does that me I don't have to hide from your mother and try to act nice to them when they cut me down every time they come over? Free at last. Free at last. I have been to the mountaintop and my slave days are over.
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I've come across quite a few couples in the RECENT years, that their marriage had ended after 20+ years, because they spent most of their married life trying to work to give their kids everything, then when the kids are grown, (and most of them ungrateful for the sacrifices their parents made for them) the marriage ends because their focus wasn't on keeping their marriage alive, they were focused on the material things to give to their kids. They had lost the connection with each other. Wow. You hit the nail on the head with that one. That has got to be the quote of the year for me. 13 years into the second marriage with her after five years of rehabilitation to deal with the four years of marriage to her then to be told you can leave now. Talk about feeling disposable. Wow. You mean I have served my purpose and my restitution for getting you pregnant twice is paid. Thank God that is over. Does that me I don't have to hide from your mother and try to act nice to them when they cut me down every time they come over? Free at last. Free at last. I have been to the mountaintop and my slave days are over.
The kids will always grow up and leave home, so you'd better focus on the relationship or you'll end up with nothing. |
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Edited by
RainbowTrout
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Sat 04/07/12 05:59 PM
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I've come across quite a few couples in the RECENT years, that their marriage had ended after 20+ years, because they spent most of their married life trying to work to give their kids everything, then when the kids are grown, (and most of them ungrateful for the sacrifices their parents made for them) the marriage ends because their focus wasn't on keeping their marriage alive, they were focused on the material things to give to their kids. They had lost the connection with each other. Wow. You hit the nail on the head with that one. That has got to be the quote of the year for me. 13 years into the second marriage with her after five years of rehabilitation to deal with the four years of marriage to her then to be told you can leave now. Talk about feeling disposable. Wow. You mean I have served my purpose and my restitution for getting you pregnant twice is paid. Thank God that is over. Does that me I don't have to hide from your mother and try to act nice to them when they cut me down every time they come over? Free at last. Free at last. I have been to the mountaintop and my slave days are over.
The kids will always grow up and leave home, so you'd better focus on the relationship or you'll end up with nothing. Whats that song? Nothing from nothing leaves nothing.
Billy Preston - Nothing from nothing 1975 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G_DV54ddNHE |
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Edited by
mg1959
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Sat 04/07/12 10:01 PM
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I am my job, and my job is me. I could not imagine having anything different or having a separate life from who I am. My 2 wives were that way as well so there was never any problem. However I am a disaster (so I am told) at relationships that have walls.
I have lived wealthy and I have lived on the other end. To me it is a non-issue. Money is one thing, who you are is another. |
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In someways it is important to me.
I don't wan't anyone else having to support me or my children. I don't like to save, and tend to spend anything I make on seeing my man, having fun and just enjoying my children. for now that's all I need. so for me a career is not so important, but the ability to support myself and my children is important. As for my man, Yep I like him to be able to visit and do things, but whether he has a career or not isn''t that important, as he can always work with me. 
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I don't generally care what a gentleman does for his living; as I support myself, but I just wish more people would take a chill pill when asked what it is they do for a living. After all if you do something forty plus hours a week it stand to reason it is a big part of your life and lifestyle . And to at least some small degree the lifestyle of anyone who has a relationship with you. If you want a smooth relationship and support for what you do it only makes sense to me to tell the person you want to date something about the kind or work you do. I am not talking about corporate secrets but if you want more than marginal acceptance than put some cards on the table. Work doesn't always define who you are. For some, it's just work. When the 8 hour work day is up, we forget about it until the next day. When someone asks me what I do, I'll tell them, but I have no desire to get into a big discussion about it, as it's just work. Exactly!!! Your job is what you do, it is NOT who you are. Or it shouldn't be anyway. I agree if you define yourself by any one element of your life. it is a recipe for disaster. Mainly because jobs come and go, sometimes with very little notice. But I still think it is a part of a person's life even if it isn't the most favorite thing in their life. I think every one hates theri job at one time or another even if it is a dream career or just what we do to pay bills. But someone who does not want to share about theri work life is probably going to be a poor communicater and bodes poorly for the potential of a relationship if a person wants to compartmentalize their job or any other major aspect of their life. I don't think you have to beat the entire day to death with your partner when they come home but a little common understanding goes a long way to building bonds and showing careing for your partner. As another poster notes is how relationships grow apart being sad and I think getting lost in your own stuff is how that happens. People fall in the trap of leading parallel lives with a partner rather than "with" the partner being compassionate about their life over all. |
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I am my job, and my job is me. I could not imagine having anything different or having a separate life from who I am. My 2 wives were that way as well so there was never any problem. However I am a disaster (so I am told) at relationships that have walls. I have lived wealthy and I have lived on the other end. To me it is a non-issue. Money is one thing, who you are is another. Not 2 wives Dada but 3 - pepper, your hair, baby girl 
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I am my job, and my job is me. I could not imagine having anything different or having a separate life from who I am. My 2 wives were that way as well so there was never any problem. However I am a disaster (so I am told) at relationships that have walls. I have lived wealthy and I have lived on the other end. To me it is a non-issue. Money is one thing, who you are is another. Not 2 wives Dada but 3 - pepper, your hair, baby girl
Oh, forgot, sorry! Pepper is sleeping on my hair right now lol. Can't move! |
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Edited by
newg78
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Mon 04/09/12 06:36 AM
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Not 2 wives Dada but 3 - pepper, your hair, baby girl
Oh, forgot, sorry! Pepper is sleeping on my hair right now lol. Can't move! So that makes pepper + hair as 1 lol, poor hair! |
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Not 2 wives Dada but 3 - pepper, your hair, baby girl
Oh, forgot, sorry! Pepper is sleeping on my hair right now lol. Can't move! So that makes pepper + hair as 1 lol, poor hair! Poor hair? Poor me, she snores. |
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I don't think its the job that's as important as the ambition. I mean a job is a job especially in today's economy. But to be honest if a guy has to flip burgers for a while til he gets something better that is fine but if all he ever wanted to do was flip burgers for minimum wage I'd say I'd have to pass.
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It's also important to me that the person I'm dating is not a workaholic. I like people who can enjoy life, rather than spending all their waking hours working.
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If she has to work as a stripper to support me...I'm okay with that.
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