On another dating site I signed up for, the people can say what their self-confidence level is. I noticed that it's very common for the men to rate themselves as having high or very high self-confidence. Honestly, I avoid the ones who say they're "very high" in this area because I assume it means they're arrogant and condescending. Maybe this is just because my own self-confidence is average at best for most things.

Where is the line between very high self-confidence and arrogance?

I'm not sure there's really a precise line, per se. More of a nebulous gray area which shifts around a lot depending on who's doing the assessments.

I mean, I get called "arrogant" a lot, usually by people who have read three or four sentences I've written somewhere and who don't have any inkling of the context. And that's fine, I really don't stress over conclusions reached by total strangers with insufficient data.

I do consider myself fairly self-confident, but I don't think that makes me arrogant or condescending. Sometimes people just see what they want to see.

I think arrogance sometimes is a sign of low self confidence.

But....I like being arrogant. It gives me something to do besides being condescending or holier than everyone else.

:)

I kid.

I am bashful and shy.

My dad used to say "It's not bragging if it's true." I guess the same applies to self-confidence.

But I do need to point out that self-confidence and arrogance are different things. Self-confidence is feeling one's own power, arrogance is the belief that other people are inferior.

Arrogance is common. Narcissism is when it becomes a problem.

I have very high self confidence as I have had a lot of successes in life. I feel like i can always "do it."

But I seek advice from my peers, so I am not arrogant as I value their opinions.

Yes, well said!

A lot of people say that. However, if it's true and you have confidence, there's no need to brag. Those who brag tend to lack confidence. And because of that, they sometimes exaggerate.

if you're bragging,
you're an arrogant son of a *****.
when is bragging pleasant?
never.
if you're really as amazing as you think you are,
others will notice it without the need for you to point it out.
self confidence doesn't need to be exuded.
it as,
after all,
for yourself.

Well said!

well my view on it:)
A confident person accepts their weaknesses or faults, even though they may not like them.
An arrogant person can be cocky and difficult to reason with, making conversation difficult and bothersome.
Arrogance is often underplayed by insecurity. An arrogant person tends to be arrogant to compensate for areas of weakness that distress the individual.or also may just Criticise others about spelling or typing perfect cause they are arrogant and think they are the best lolllll but a confident person is humble and don't Criticise but has respect in others and listens and helps:) but is still very confident but kind not laughing at others in a Arrogant way but states a fact in a well mannered way also
A person with confidence will also understand others maybe stronger, and that each person is a complete package of strengths and weaknesses so will remain humble in both. An arrogant person will often neglect to acknowledge weakness in light of playing up the strengths.

This.

Very impressive b.

There is a huge difference between thinking great about yourself, and a total other in rubbing it in others faces.

You are talking about what I consider the average level of self-confidence. What would be a high or very high level, compared to this, that was still not arrogance in your view?

I'm not allowed to be near workshop tools.

^ that

I agree. And kind, gentle humour, as well as an ability to not get upset.

Very confident people with a very high level of self-confidence can go into the pit where two pitbulls are fighting, and separete them, no problemo. They have a smell, these people. High-convidenced men and women can take a shoulder-bone away from a hungry pitbull, and the pitbull will lick the person's hand. Or else tear him or her to pieces, according to how his has been so far.

I think if you have it.....others notice it....
therfore there is no reason to tell anyone you...
have it!!!!
This being true for men and women!!!

no my friend cause high self -confidence and arrogance are just 2 different things :) people can have low confidence but be arrogant too:) see everyone is different there are humble people that have high self-confidence and also agree if they are wrong but arrogant people always mostly say they are right:) Other benefits to achieving a high level of self-confidence are:

* You will able to succeed at more things in life
* You won’t be bothered by negative things that others might say about you and your activities
* Your mood will be overall better
* You will have more energy
* You will go into a situation with a better attitude:) now arrogant> Some people think that they have “special” abilities that allow to be “better” than other people. Don’t do this because it will lead you to a lot of failures and disappointments. It’s also annoying from a personal standpoint and you can lose several friends from being too arrogant:)))))) but too my friend there can be arrogant people that are to self -confident too it can go both ways its depends on person not the subject:)

Exactly why I won't talk unless asked. What I've done is done, it is what I do now and the future that counts (to me). And believe me, I've made some dooesy of mistakes but I always bounce back!