10 DATING DONTS FOR MEN AND WOMEN.(MUST READ)

10. NEVER MAKE A PERSON FEEL LIKE YOUR JOB IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN HIS OR HERS..(WHEN YOU DO THIS IT MAKES HIS WORK/CAREER AND ACHIEVEMENTS SEEM INSIGNIFICANT AND INFERIOR TO YOURS. YOU HAVE ELIMINATED THE STATUS OF EQUAL PARTNERS AND CAUSED THE RELATIONSHIP TO BE BASED ON HIERARCHY)

9. "WHAT YOU DON'T DO THE NEXT ONE WILL".(CONTRARY TO WHAT YOU MAY BELIEVE WHEN ARE GIVING ULTIMATUMS ABOUT YOUR PREFERENCE YOU HAVE ALLEVIATED SPONTANEOUS AND CAUSED DOUBT IN THE OTHER PERSONS MIND ABOUT YOUR WILLINGNESS TO BE FAITHFUL AND GROW AS A COUPLE).

8.OVER THINK A SITUATION. WOMEN ARE MORE EMOTIONAL THAN MEN AND TEND TO "MAKE MOUNTAINS OUT OF ANT HILLS". IF YOU HAVE A QUESTION OR CONCERN BRING IT TO THE TABLE IN A NON-CONFRONTATIONAL MANNER. ATTEMPTING TO DEBATE, REBUTTAL AND COUNTER ANSWERS THAT YOU ARE NOT SATISFIED WITH USUALLY LEAD TO ARGUMENTS AND SEPARATION. REMEMBER OPINIONS ARE NOT FACTS. FEELINGS ARE PERSONAL AND ACCUSATIONS WITHOUT FACT HAVE NO MERIT AND SHOULD NOT BE EXPRESSED AS POINTS OR HAVE VALIDITY).

7.NEVER MAKE A PERSON FEEL LIKE AN OPTION.( ONCE YOU HAVE INTRODUCED THE POSSIBILITY IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT ONE MUST COMPETE TO GET RELATIONSHIP PERKS IN AN ALREADY ESTABLISHED COMMITMENT YOU HAVE ENSURED THE OUT COME. THERE IS NO LONGER TRUST, LOVE, RESPECT,UNDERSTANDING, PATIENTS OR RESPONSIBILITY. THE WHEELS HAVE ALREADY BEEN SET IN MOTION TO FIND A BETTER SUITED REPLACEMENT. THE IDEA ALONE OF SHARING INTIMACY OF A MATE WITH ANOTHER PERSON IS MENTALLY EQUIVALENT TO CHEATING).

6.COMPARE YOUR MATE TO AN EX.(YOU HAVE LED THEM TO BELIEVE THEY ARE A MISTAKE.WHEN YOU SAY THIS THEN YOU HAVE INSINUATED THAT THEY ARE BROKE AND UNFIXABLE.YOU HAVE LED THAT PERSON TO BELIEVE THAT THEIR FATE IN THE RELATIONSHIP WILL END UP AS THE PREVIOUS ONE THAT CAUSED PAIN AND DISPLEASURE..SEPERATED!).

5."WHAT YOU SAY DOESN'T MATTER"(WHEN YOU HAVE DISREGARDED YOUR MATES FEELINGS ESPECIALLY AFTER AN INTIMATE CONNECTION HAS BEEN MADE YOU HAVE CAUSED A FEELING OF WORTHLESSNESS AND WITHOUT THE FEELING OF WORTH YOUR MATE CAN NOT FEEL AS THEY HAVE ANY VALUE OR OPINION IN THE RELATIONSHIP).

4. KEEP EX LOVERS IN THE PICTURE.(THE FACT THAT YOU DISCUSS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH PREVIOUS LOVERS IS A ISSUE. REGARDLESS IF THAT PERSON HAS MOVED ON NO PERSON WANTS TO BE INVOLVED WITH A MATE THAT KEEPS EX LOVERS INVOLVED IN CURRENT RELATIONSHIPS. THE TRUTH IS IF THEY ARE A EX THEN THE RELATIONSHIP DIDN'T WORK..WHY WOULD YOU SEEK ADVICE OR OPINIONS FROM A PERSON WHO DIDN'T HAVE THE KNOWLEDGE TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WORK).

3.YOU AIN'T ****! ( THE BEST PART OF A RELATIONSHIP IS BELIEVING THAT YOUR MATE WILL SUPPORT,ENCOURAGE,PARTICIPATED IN ALL VENTURES NO MATTER HOW SMALL. IF YOU LEAD YOUR MATE TO BELIEVE THAT HE/SHE IS NOT AS AWESOME AS THEY THINK THEY ARE THAN YOU HAVE INFILTRATED CONFIDENCE AND MORAL. NO ONE IS WILLING TO KEEP A PERSON AROUND WHOM DOES NOT HAVE FAITH THAT THEY WILL ACCOMPLISH THEIR DREAMS AND ASPIRATIONS).
. . 2.TALK ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH OUTSIDERS.(WHEN THIS IS DONE A FRIEND IS ONLY GIVING ADVICE FROM YOUR POINT OF VIEW WHICH IS UNFAIR TO THE MATE..TYPICALLY BECAUSE A FRIENDS MAIN PURPOSE IS TO SUPPORT AND PROTECT YOU AND THAT MEANS YOU ARE POSSIBLY GETTING ADVICE FROM A YES MAN WHO IS PROTECTING YOUR FEELING AND ENCOURAGING YOU TO MAKE DECISIONS BASED ON YOUR PERSONAL FEELINGS WITHOUT KNOWING BOTH SIDES OF THE STORY).

1. NEVER CONTINUE TO HAVE THE SAME IDEAS,LIFESTYLE,OPINIONS,ATTITUDES, THOUGHT PROCESS OF A SINGLE PERSON.(YOU IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT DOESN'T MEAN CHANGE WHO YOU ARE IT ONLY MEANS YOU HAVE TO HAVE CONSIDERATION FOR THE OTHER PERSON INVOLVED. EVERYTHING THAT YOU DO HAS AN AFFECT ON THE MATE.YOU MUST SHARE EVERYTHING IN ORDER FOR TRUST TO BE PRESENT.NO SECRETS.YOU ARE NO LONGER A SINGLE BUT A PAIR AND WHAT GOOD IS A PAIR IF IT DOESN'T MATCH?).

PLEASE BE AWARE OF THESE 10 DON'TS IF YOU ARE PLANNING TO BE OR IN A RELATIONSHIP. THIS KNOWLEDGE COULD BE THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HAVING SOMEONE IN YOUR LIFE FOR A REASON A SEASON OR A LIFETIME.

YOU CAN NOT KNOW EVERYTHING WITHOUT LEARNING SOMETHING! -ANTHONIO VICI

psssst... all caps make it harder to read.

He is demonstrating a practical example.



& I got a hint




DON'T SHOUT

Agree with singme.... I had to stand on the moon to read this.

This is what happened with the last guy.

I'd add another to that list:

If your new partner has kids (whether they're grown up or not) NEVER try to come between them. Always show a united front even if you don't agree with your partner's stance. If you disagree with they way they've handled something, tell them in private, Never infront of the kids.

Psssstt.............

Is it really made of .....cheese?????
Did ya see any of the Astronaut's footprints????

Wow......amazingly enough I would do all those things just to make him cut and run from the get go......what I read of it that is....seems like you are sure of yourself.......and assuming she cares where you go or what you do......personally i will do what I want when I want and if he doesn't like it he knows where the door is.......ciao

This was not a must read for me. Really just a list of what should be some common sense reminders.

between the font and the caps......
all I got was a.......

Headache!!!!

I agree with the opening post, but the title should have read:

DATING DONTS FOR MEN AND WOMEN.(MUST be able to READ)


For instance, I was not able to read it, because of all caps. Impossible. Also, the points were too long -- the author should read up on some examples, like the ten commandments. "Don't kill your date" is very easily comprehensible, or "Respect your date so you have a long life on earth."

These quotes are right to the point.

On the contrary, if I read:

8.OVER THINK A SITUATION. WOMEN ARE MORE EMOTIONAL THAN MEN AND TEND TO "MAKE MOUNTAINS OUT OF ANT HILLS". IF YOU HAVE A QUESTION OR CONCERN BRING IT TO THE TABLE IN A NON-CONFRONTATIONAL MANNER. ATTEMPTING TO DEBATE, REBUTTAL AND COUNTER ANSWERS THAT YOU ARE NOT SATISFIED WITH USUALLY LEAD TO ARGUMENTS AND SEPARATION. REMEMBER OPINIONS ARE NOT FACTS. FEELINGS ARE PERSONAL AND ACCUSATIONS WITHOUT FACT HAVE NO MERIT AND SHOULD NOT BE EXPRESSED AS POINTS OR HAVE VALIDITY).

then I get confused and angry over the sexist tone, over the fact that you must bring issues to the table, but not debate them, and not rebuttal them, which is a noun, but in the sturcture of the sentnece it ought to have been verb. Aside from that, there are no facts, or empirical truths, aside from "I am," as per "cogito ergo sum".

I am not arguing or countering the op's point. I am not even rebuttaling them. I am saying it does not comply with the standards which provide the effectiveness of the good old, tried and in practice proven, commands of the past.

If we can't learn from history, what can we learn from?

Who is -ANTHONIO VICI?

Did you get that from the Rules? Wow. You must be an avid reader, Ruth.

I am more of a fetid reader. Or mind.

agree to much there to read too lollllll like a book

6 Ls on the lol this time! How high is that on the laughter scale?