I think the concept of the "silent treatment" is just ridiculous past the age of pubes.....and usually want to talk it out...TO A FAULT. I have been wrong on several occasions.

Guys don't know WHAT to say?
Girls are pissed but have the maturity to chill and just don't want to talk?

Just one scenario I guess. I dunno.

When, in disagreement, should we talk it out or just take an adult time out?

Take an adult time out. Anything you say can and will be used against you.

First give her some Wattteeerrrr......., let things cool down.........if you
Can't work things out ..... just throw Water on her & walk away .... sorry I couldn't help my self.

BEACH!

Silent treatment and pouting is for kids.
I'll talk things out when it's in a calm manner and constructive ~ that may take some cooling off time in come cases and I usually sleep on it before broaching anything too deep.
And ... no, I don't wanna talk about "it" forever, talk, move on, carry on, go forth and prosper, all that happy horse crap.

Talking it out is always better as long as both can be calm and understanding. If not......wait till ya calm the F down!!!!

Depends what the problem is.

Sometimes attempts to "talk it out" just makes it worse.

time out does not mandate an indefinite silence

I think people should always talk things through, but that they should time those conversations so that it doesnt happen in the moment that they are feeling the hurt or pain or whatever

calming down and THEN talking it out,, is what I think is best

well if 2 people are hot tempered lolll talking it out would be screaming it out lollll so just say we both need to relax and have a bit of time and think why it started then talk it over in a quiet natter and hug and make up lollllll

You and me both, sister.

I finally learned that counting to ten before speaking was not NEARLY long enough to cool me off when I was angry. So I began allowing myself to take as long as it took, and it worked much better. In fact, to my shock, sometimes after the anger went away I was actually able to see another side to the problem.

This depends on how much anger is involved. If you need an adult timeout to cool off let the other person know that with words. Just said I need some time alone to cool off. No random silent treatment.

Sometimes, you need time to cool off, and that's all there is to it, you just move on. Sometimes you need to talk it out. Sometimes you need both. It depends on the circumstances and situation is all.

It is hard to say really..because some people take it the wrong way. I believe you should do what is best for you.

The silent treatment usually makes things worse and is often someone just being immature. Needing a little time to cool off is fine, but if you're unwilling to even say what's wrong, that's not cool.

Being ignored just ends up pissing me off. If someone is that mad, at least say something about it, so that I don't have to guess at what the issue is.

Hey Bench, i'm ALL EARS!!!

Always said "There is no punishment like silence for a fool." If someone says or does something major foolish I am more likely to just cut them off than go through some verbal drama of telling they are done as a friend, lover, ect. You are not going to convince anyone who is dishounest, disruptive, self absorbed ect.ect. that they are wrong so why waste your breath?

I do think the silent treatment can be very effective when people do disruptive things such as curseing, gossiping, abuseing the phone, or any number of obnoxious behaviors. People are generally social creatures and will adapt theri behavior rather than be excluded.

In a relationship sometimes the silent treatmen is actually better than saying things in anger that you can not be take back. Partners know how to wound the soul better than almost anyone so it is really dangerouse to force and issue that sometimes is better left to cool of or be forgotten or just resolve itself.

Well it kind of depends on what the situation was about........ most people need to resolve things because ....... problems can't just be swept under a rug and forgotten ...... if I was in a relationship & my guy wouldn't talk to me about whatever the problem was....... and if he gave me the silent treatment........ well that's just childish so I really wouldn't put up with it......... maybe that's why I'm single ........ I don't put up with much....... Life is too short!

I think the silent treatment as a form of punishment is childish. It ends up being used by people who cannot effectively communicate what's wrong, so they go that route, rather than work on the problem.

Oh I agree if The silent treatment is a "form of punishment" . Whenever the other partner is decideing "punishment" is appropriate then relationship is really sick and probably demands abandonment.

I do think sometimes though demanding to talk something to death when it is clear where everybody stands on a given issue is not going to resolve anything.

What concerns me is when conversation is forced and one side or the other just submits and sometiimes lies that they agree to what they really don't agree to then later have it only amplify the arguement at a later time.

While I do NOT. repeat DO NOT, agree with physical violence in relatioships I have had far too many interviews in domestic violence situations where one or the other said "they just would not shut up". People were fighting for hours and exhaustion, inibriation, and insults set in and self control goes out the window.

Sometimes it is better to just agree to disagree , go to bed, move on, and realize your mate is not going to be a clone and agree with you on how you should feel, react, act, or believe about everything. Some disagreements just do not have a resolution.

I've been given the silent treatment before and had no idea why. I don't think asking for an explanation is being too demanding. If things are handled by ignoring, rather than discussing, I tend to lose respect for that kind of person.