I went on a date the other day...although I thought that the date ended a little prematurely and despite the fact that his explanation seemed plausible, I kinda assumed that this was his way of politely backing out.

That was until he said that he was glad we met and started asking if my weekends were free, then I changed my mind and thought he was interested after all but it’s been almost a week with no contact...

Granted, I didn’t think that I’d met the love of my life but it (him/the date) wasn’t hideous...and although not devastated, I was looking forward to seeing him again and am more than a little annoyed that I was unnecessary and deliberately given the impression that he was interested when he clearly isn’t.

Am I jumping the gun? Or do you think something get lost in translation?

It's hard to call but one would think after a week, he wouldve made some sort of contact..yes that is frustrating as ive been ery through it myself a few times...you just wish people would be more honest...
truth hurts at times but id rather have the truth up front than be lead on....

Hiya and welcome Chrome...

You are right in a sense but the truth wouldn't have hurt as I had already assumed that he wasn't interested and his explanation as to why he had to leave early seemed genuine...I would just have appreciated him not leading me on..

Have you tried contacting him, or are you waiting for him to contact you?

I sent him a text after the date saying that I had a good time and that I was looking forward to seeing him again.

He responded with a similar sentiment.

The reason why he had to leave early was that he had an early flight - I believed him. We cancelled a previous date because he had to fly out.

I don't think only a week is
enough to get a negative vibe.
Remember, they are men.
Same species, but..

Relationships work when both
sides are in the same place
at the same time.
It can take awhile to get there.

this is very true.

He's a nice guy and I enjoyed his company and the date so I'm not 'bashing', just confused..(sometimes) my impatience gets the better of me...words of wisdom very much appreciated - many thanks Soufie

Sometimes we get busy and a week is a very short period of time. Relax.

I know a week isn't very long but impatience, thy name is Carolyn

Thank you for your comment.

Keep us posted.
Always interested in how he is treating you :-)

Will do but I've probably just nailed the lid shut as I don't think he'll appreciated this post.

Oh.
This is new information.
He is a Mingler?

A lurking one but yeah..not very tactful of me..but I've never been able to 'suffer' in silence.

So then you haven't heard from him in a week and he hasn't heard from you in a week? He may be wondering the same thing you are. Why wait around to contact him again?

Oh wow. So you wrote this before trying to talk to him? Yeah, might have been better to go to him first. Good luck, though.

Ahhhh.
Well I guess he knows you won't be muzzled :-)

Yeah...I know. This definitely wasn't one of my smarter moves...sometimes I start talking/typing before my brain engages. I think I'm a bit of a self confessed saboteur .

IMO, I haven’t given away his identity and never will, I haven’t ‘bashed' him and never will nor do I think I have been indiscrete - I was just expressing how I am/was feeling which is what I do from time to time.

I'm not suggesting that anyone else has said the above...I'm just thinking out loud.

Speaking as a guy; A week isn't that long of a time if you are busy
flying around. One day leads into the next. E-mail him, or call, and tell him you got a couple of tickets to the opera and ask if he'd like to join you.

I’m a bit old fashioned in some senses and I do like to feel like I’m being courted to a degree although I would quite happily buy tickets for the opera or a show if he gets in touch again...

Besides, I didn’t ask him when he’d be back in the UK, so in a way, the ball’s in his court.

I appreciate your comments though...thanks Motown