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Topic: What do you consider cheating?
Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Thu 03/22/12 06:37 PM
I don't know how sticking his wife up his sphincter would be cheating but i meant his wifes dildo not his actual wife. I don't think that would be comfortable/enjoyable for either one of them....

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Thu 03/22/12 06:37 PM
Lying to me to be with someone else instead of just coming out and talking to me. I was in a situation a couple of years ago with a cheating individual who I finally caught more by accident than anything to be honest. We were two different individuals with different ideas about life at the time, and as such I would have have understood if she had wanted to break it off, but instead she went about it in secret and in lying completely until she was busted. What bothered me more than the betrayal of trust though was the pleading and begging for another chance afterwords. I find this revolting and have little tolerance for it since I make it very clear about my views on the subject. Nice to see you back.

newg78 Joined Thu 03/01/07 Posts: 3672	Thu 03/22/12 07:54 PM
Everyone's got a different definition. Let's hear it I just feel it when something's wrong is going on. I have a very good vibe

SanneHan Joined Thu 03/01/12 Posts: 356	Thu 03/22/12 10:29 PM
Is there anyone who actually thinks masturbation or using toys is cheating? Well, there are people who say watching porn is... Because it is fantasizing about other people. I don't know about you guys, but when I masturbate, I don't just rub my twat,there is actually a whole lot more going on in my mind than in y panties... So... Following the old rule, Thesis, Antithesis, Synthesis - masturbation must be cheating for them!?

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Thu 03/22/12 10:58 PM
Depends on what kind of relationship are you in to me.

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Thu 03/22/12 11:09 PM Edited by prashant01 on Thu 03/22/12 11:09 PM
Action differing from commitment.

pyxxie13 Joined Wed 09/28/11 Posts: 3835	Sat 03/24/12 05:19 PM
Just make things easy for yourself and your partner. Tell each other what they view as cheating and you will not be caught in that bear trap.

Simonedemidova Joined Mon 11/15/10 Posts: 8952	Sat 03/24/12 05:51 PM
Is a woman using a dildo cheating? Is a man spanking the monkey cheating? Is a man sticking his wife or gfs dildo up his sphincter cheating? No to all the above.

samnkansah14 Joined Mon 03/19/12 Posts: 6	Sat 03/24/12 06:21 PM
i consider it as a bad behavior. the word is cheating which tells you that some thing is wrong somewhere. it is a sin so we should put an end to it.

peachtease069 Joined Thu 09/29/11 Posts: 1	Wed 03/28/12 08:03 PM
How is it not a form of cheating? A better question would be how is watching porn cheating? Well you're fantasizing about being sexual with someone other than your partner. You're cheating in a way, no? You're lusting over someone other than your partner, who should be the only one you have any sexual desire for. It's kinda hard to explain, if you don't see it the same way. How is encouraging yourself to desire others sexually not a form of cheating? i feel that cheating is sending n reciving personal text meseges talking online or via phone sexually being on dating sites claming to be single and all of the above. if u desire another then at aome piont ur harmless interactions will lead to personal/face to face meetings hurting all thats involved. yet there are some single sites that do have good porn n you must make an account to veiw. been here doing this. to desire another is natural but to act on it is another story so yes to me its all cheating

Lottierose Joined Sun 12/18/11 Posts: 97	Sun 04/01/12 11:17 AM
Cheating is when you have a exclusive relationship and either talk romantically or sexually to others, do cam/swap pics with others or obviously kissing on the lips or any other body part, obviously sex intimacy.their is also the other side when a person speaks /tries to speak to a person say on facebook who is 'in a relationship' either sext or with the intention of dating them thats cheating. One of my exes actually used a date site on the 2nd date i was like wah ! ;-(i loved him to

JERMANICUS Joined Sat 01/28/12 Posts: 597	Sun 04/01/12 07:22 PM
I don't owe any loyalty to any woman. No woman can make a commitment to me then why should I to her?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 04/01/12 07:24 PM
I don't owe any loyalty to any woman. No woman can make a commitment to me then why should I to her? If neither of you are making a commitment, then neither would be cheating.

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Mon 04/02/12 07:08 AM
I don't owe any loyalty to any woman. No woman can make a commitment to me then why should I to her? If neither of you are making a commitment, then neither would be cheating. Very funny but true. Commitment is the root cause of cheating. Expectation is the root cause of frustration.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Mon 04/02/12 03:27 PM
cheating involves deception and physical contact with another those two elements makes it cheating, in my opinion,,, if it is in the open, or if it does not involve actual physical contact ,,, I dont consider it cheating,,,

josie68 Joined Mon 11/22/10 Posts: 6270	Mon 04/02/12 03:34 PM
Bummer, I would.. Yep I am posessive, I like what is mine to be mine. If my man was wanting to have sex with someone else, or thinking about having sex with someone else, that would be cheating to me. If he was joking with a friend, that's fine, but actually wanting to be with someone else, then I would rather him go and be with them,

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Mon 04/02/12 03:58 PM
Most mature people have built in cheat meters and know their partner well enough to know if they would be cheating on them or not. I have an open book policy without hidden agendas which makes it easy to avoid the situation all together. For myself I don't hide stuff from my partner. Right and wrong have a way of reviling themselves with openness. I have found in relationships it's more fun to be selfless vs selfish and they both become one in a way. Oh, and believe me being open is plenty kinky when you trust someone to let it all out.

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Mon 04/02/12 04:04 PM
Most mature people have built in cheat meters and know their partner well enough to know if they would be cheating on them or not. I have an open book policy without hidden agendas which makes it easy to avoid the situation all together. For myself I don't hide stuff from my partner. Right and wrong have a way of reviling themselves with openness. I have found in relationships it's more fun to be selfless vs selfish and they both become one in a way. Oh, and believe me being open is plenty kinky when you trust someone to let it all out. I have to agree with this answer..... people should be open and honest..... if one feels the need to hide something..... it is wrong.... is it cheating??? Maybe not....but anything hidden from the other is usually precieved as cheating.