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I'm off balance and sometimes it feels bad....
This is very hard....reaching out, asking for help...It is new to me, doing it is a little scary, not doing it, even more scary....I am not sure I can "always" be the strong one... Since joining Mingle, I have had the pleasure of meeting some wonderful people...Intelligent, kind, ready to offer a helping hand to anyone who asks.....Well, I am asking.... Some of you who participate in forums know me, most of you know ManO...He is a long time member with established relationships here...In comparison, I am still a newbie... Jerry and I made a connection on the boards, we decided we wanted to take the next step and meet...We did....Our meeting went well and we began that walk down the difficult path a long distance relationship often creates.....We are learning as we go and sometimes we make mistakes, with each other and with fellow Minglers...Jerry and I don't know yet what our future holds, only that we want to explore the possibilities...We need to spend more time together...We need to find ways to stay close between visits... Because this is new and emotions rule I sometimes feel like I am wearing my skin inside out, like every nerve is exposed...I know I am ultra sensitive right now.....If I have made a misstep with anyone here, please accept my apology and be patient with me...I need your friendship and support... If there is anyone out there who has gone through, or is going through, a long distance relationship, your comments, your advice, and your personal experience(s) would be welcome because..... I AM OFF BALANCE AND SOMETIMES IT FEELS BAD... 
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Edited by
esebulldog
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Sun 02/12/12 06:35 AM
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(((  ESE ))).......Laughing and crying all at the same time... Forget about it!!....I'm trying!!...
Thank you!....
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No two LDR situations are going to be exactly the same, so you and Mano are going to have to work things out mainly for yourself.
Ive been through one and come out good the other side. We made it through total honesty and accountibility with each other. We spoke daily, and we saw each other monthly. I dont know where you both live or your financial situations. If you cant see each other regularly, it will be harder. You need real time together to build on what you have. Ultimately, and most importantly by far, one of you must be willing to relocate at some stage. If not, cut your losses now, it will only get harder. You also need privacy. Your entire relationship should not be posted all over the forums for all to see. Don't get me wrong, its a beautiful thing, but there should be a limit on what you share with the rest of us. I wish you all the luck in the world with it. |
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No two LDR situations are going to be exactly the same, so you and Mano are going to have to work things out mainly for yourself. Ive been through one and come out good the other side. We made it through total honesty and accountibility with each other. We spoke daily, and we saw each other monthly. I dont know where you both live or your financial situations. If you cant see each other regularly, it will be harder. You need real time together to build on what you have. Ultimately, and most importantly by far, one of you must be willing to relocate at some stage. If not, cut your losses now, it will only get harder. You also need privacy. Your entire relationship should not be posted all over the forums for all to see. Don't get me wrong, its a beautiful thing, but there should be a limit on what you share with the rest of us. I wish you all the luck in the world with it. Dan...Thanks, this makes so much sense to me...and I agree about relocating, sooner or later, one or the other must be willing to do it if the relationship is going to progress...Also KNOW you are right about privacy...I think it was way too soon to announce it because we already had enough issues to deal with...it is a beautiful thing, but it is also a personal thing...
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You've stumped me... The only thing I can think of, if you're feeling 'off balance,' would be to stick a roll of quarters in your left jacket pocket. If that doesn't work, try them on the right side.
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You've stumped me... The only thing I can think of, if you're feeling 'off balance,' would be to stick a roll of quarters in your left jacket pocket. If that doesn't work, try them on the right side. Why the heck didn't I think of that??!!!?? That solves the off balance part, any advice on best way to handle a long distance relationship?
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You've stumped me... The only thing I can think of, if you're feeling 'off balance,' would be to stick a roll of quarters in your left jacket pocket. If that doesn't work, try them on the right side. Why the heck didn't I think of that??!!!?? That solves the off balance part, any advice on best way to handle a long distance relationship?
Get unlimited minutes on your phone, and try not to think too much.
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Consider what exactly has you all anxious and share that with the manO. He probably has the same thoughts or at least understands where theyre coming from. Thanks Kic..
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((((Leigh))))
Well, here's what I know for sure. You haven't made any missteps with me and I love you to pieces.
Dan is right. When you are falling in love with someone you want to shout it from the rooftops. And, since we love our Mingle family we especially want to talk about it here. It's natural and beautiful. But, in reality, it's a bad idea. There are folks here who do not wish you well and jealousy makes people do mean things. Starting a new relationship is hard enough without having all that negativity thrown in. LDRs can be hard. But, in the famous words of Practical Magic's Jillian, "what wouldn't I do....for the right guy?". If you and Jerry think you have found something special, keep it to yourselves and only share it with your close friends. It's like winning the lottery. Announcing it brings out the wolves. I love you.
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You've stumped me... The only thing I can think of, if you're feeling 'off balance,' would be to stick a roll of quarters in your left jacket pocket. If that doesn't work, try them on the right side. Why the heck didn't I think of that??!!!?? That solves the off balance part, any advice on best way to handle a long distance relationship?
Get unlimited minutes on your phone, and try not to think too much.
Done (unlimited long distance)....I'll schedule a frontal labatomy first thing next week... 
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((((Leigh))))
Well, here's what I know for sure. You haven't made any missteps with me and I love you to pieces.
Dan is right. When you are falling in love with someone you want to shout it from the rooftops. And, since we love our Mingle family we especially want to talk about it here. It's natural and beautiful. But, in reality, it's a bad idea. There are folks here who do not wish you well and jealousy makes people do mean things. Starting a new relationship is hard enough without having all that negativity thrown in. LDRs can be hard. But, in the famous words of Practical Magic's Jillian, "what wouldn't I do....for the right guy?". If you and Jerry think you have found something special, keep it to yourselves and only share it with your close friends. It's like winning the lottery. Announcing it brings out the wolves. I love you.
You are the best and I love you too....Very, very much....
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No two LDR situations are going to be exactly the same, so you and Mano are going to have to work things out mainly for yourself. Ive been through one and come out good the other side. We made it through total honesty and accountibility with each other. We spoke daily, and we saw each other monthly. I dont know where you both live or your financial situations. If you cant see each other regularly, it will be harder. You need real time together to build on what you have. Ultimately, and most importantly by far, one of you must be willing to relocate at some stage. If not, cut your losses now, it will only get harder. You also need privacy. Your entire relationship should not be posted all over the forums for all to see. Don't get me wrong, its a beautiful thing, but there should be a limit on what you share with the rest of us. I wish you all the luck in the world with it. Dan...Thanks, this makes so much sense to me...and I agree about relocating, sooner or later, one or the other must be willing to do it if the relationship is going to progress...Also KNOW you are right about privacy...I think it was way too soon to announce it because we already had enough issues to deal with...it is a beautiful thing, but it is also a personal thing...
Its been announced now, you cant take that back, and i wouldnt worry too much about having done it. Its not necessarily a bad thing to do, everyone knows you are both spoken for now and hopefully any previous competition will do the right thing and back off and let you two get on with it. I dont remember exactly now how we let people know, i dont think we made a thread specific to the cause, we were probably a little more subtle. But there is no specific right or wrong way though. I do remember though making a point of not being overly flirtatious or lovey-dovey in the threads though. I had seen many other 'couples' do this, and it led to their demise. Some people became jealous of it, some people were sickened by it, some people stuck their noses in and caused trouble, and some of these couples were not strong enough to survive it. But dont necessarily listen to me, do what you both want to do. This is a different, and much nicer site, to the one i was on at the time. |
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Forgive me for my over use of the word 'though'!
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Some people became jealous of it, some people were sickened by it, some people stuck their noses in and caused trouble, and some of these couples were not strong enough to survive it. I have seen this time and again as well. |
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Forgive me for my over use of the word 'though'! I'll try, but that was ridiculous. |
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You and I have spoken about this, Leigh.
(1) Constant contact. never break it. (2) Let the territorial, nay-sayers go.. wherever they go for new prey. (3) A relationship is NOT about Mingle2, keep it private, and about YOU two. (4) Copy Mingle2 pics of the jealous ones and throw darts at them. Or poop..depending upon their level of obsession. Some, will never care if you are happy or not. Keep close the ones who share your joy. And find a nice 'finger' emoticon. |
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You and I have spoken about this, Leigh. (1) Constant contact. never break it. (2) Let the territorial, nay-sayers go.. wherever they go for new prey. (3) A relationship is NOT about Mingle2, keep it private, and about YOU two. (4) Copy Mingle2 pics of the jealous ones and throw darts at them. Or poop..depending upon their level of obsession. Some, will never care if you are happy or not. Keep close the ones who share your joy. And find a nice 'finger' emoticon. She always says it better than I do. Binding spells also work.... |
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You and I have spoken about this, Leigh. (1) Constant contact. never break it. (2) Let the territorial, nay-sayers go.. wherever they go for new prey. (3) A relationship is NOT about Mingle2, keep it private, and about YOU two. (4) Copy Mingle2 pics of the jealous ones and throw darts at them. Or poop..depending upon their level of obsession. Some, will never care if you are happy or not. Keep close the ones who share your joy. And find a nice 'finger' emoticon. Thank you Soufie .....I'm going to do all four and at the end of the day, go to bed and "For get about it".....
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