Hi Everyone,

You all know I prefer to date from what I call "the pool of the living", meaning people I know in reality not cyber space.

In cyber space, I get so many judgments about my bipolar. They have met one bipolar and think they know them all and that is not the case. Or they find out I get alimony and assume "gold digger" which is so not true. I took so little in the divorce and also was with him 20 years and he does not begrudge me a dime. They assume I want to run off and marry them for their imaginary money (mostly guys with no jobs, etc.).

It is getting really old being discriminated against on stereotypes by guys I would never date anyway. I am not willing to relocate. I love my life here. Why do others feel the need to put me down to build themselves up?

I have so many scammers write to me it's made me wonder if there were any 'real' people on here at all. I think what you experience is not uncommon, I wonder why men bother with women half the time, they are sexist but at the very bottom of that is a fear of women, they don't understand us. I have three sons so am getting to run my own lab at home (he he ha ha ha).

Mingle is fun though, I have talked to some interesting people.

Do you really need to mention your alimony or bi-polar to anyone if you are never going to get close with them? Its nobodies business unless you tell them. As soon as you divulge information about yourself people are going to have their opinions, rightly or wrongly.

i have to agree with sally jesse raphael on this one. have as much sex with as many people in as many positions you want

People always want to know what I do for a living, etc. I do not hide the bipolar or the alimony because it comes out eventually. I do get guys who want MY EX HUSBAND AND THE AMERICAN SSDI SYSTEM TO BE THEIR SUGAR MOMMA when they are accusing me of being the money grubbing one. I tell them they can commit to somebody for literally half their life and put them through college and buy their underwear and make their dental appoints, etc. for 20 years and get their own damn alimony which my ex does NOT begrudge me and they can get their own chemical imbalance which rides on the same gene as the 170 IQ after decades of paying into SSDI as a personal assistant and have to take medication and THEN they can have the same deal. Otherwise, get your own damn life and money and PIZZ off. Why do guys assume the life they are in is better than mine? That I would want to up and run away to escape it? I love my life.

(((Terri))) I didn't know you were bi-polar.

I think it is good you put that out there. It helps those of us who love you to get to know you better and be a better friend to you.

Don't worry about what anyone thinks. And, if they give you a hard time about it....just let me know. I know people in Palmdale who can "take care" of folks like that.

Oh, and since you're getting alimony....you're buying when we go out to lunch, right?

Love ya, girl. Tell all those creepazoids to eff off.

I don't want to bring drama to forum but it has happened again. A real great guy in real life all interested in me until he found out. Obviously NOT such a great guy. Most people in real life have NO idea because I am manic 95% of the time and not psychotic. They think I am ADHD. It just hurts really really bad esp. because before I went on SSDI I was extremely successful. More successful than these creeps who reject me and even poorer than I was married, I still have a better life and nice home, etc. But they reject me.

You're not bringing drama to the forums. You are just talking about what's botherin you.

They reject you because you are bi-polar.

They reject me because:

I'm 44.
I have 3 children.
I'm overweight.
I have Lupus.
I am Catholic.
I practice magick.
I am not rich.
I'm friends with Soufie.

The list goes on and on.....

Hang in there. I know it hurts.

Oh I am totally into energy work and stones. I listen to music and such that is supposed to align my chakras. I did burn incense, and smudge sage and burn sweet grass but I don't do that now that I rent.

Would you like me to come over on Valentine's and make you and girls my famous roasted chicken and matzo ball soup???

YOU are a really funny, cool, witty, woman Terri.
And your someone I very much respect and call my friend on here.
And THATS all you ever need to be seen as,,a REAL FRIEND to KNOW.

I burn sage and incense and I rent. It's never been a problem for me. And, I rented at the same complex you are in now.

Thank you so much for the offer, but I'm working Valentine's Day/evening and I don't have the girls. But, we will all be around next weekend if you want to stop by and meet us.

If having an autistic child has taught me anything, it's that sometimes those who are different offer more to love.

Terri, if their is one thing I have learned from my own disorder, it is to be more tolerant and open-minded about the disorders of others. Now that my own struggles make sense to me, I have a better understanding of how another's disorder may affect them. In retrospect, I always had that ability for empathy. I simply did not use it to its full potential.

Ignore the "small minds". Rant if you have to rather than bottling it up. I think you are smart enough that you already realize that the man you choose to be with will be the one with the right level of empathy: not so much that it turns to pity, and not so little as to be judgmental. You may be flawed, but so is everyone else. It's all part of the puzzle. You can't solve it without the right pieces. Keep searching, and you'll find them. I have faith.

I have an easy solution. Don't give a rats azz what anybody thinks. Just do your thing.....

Feynman "What do you care what other people think?"

I try not to take rejection personally knowing good and well the real reasons most people reject you is becuase you do not fit the profile that the evolutionary impulses are compelling them to accept.

When the reasons are genetic programming and the person in question cannot free themselves from these impulses long enough to love what isn't driven by a need to reproduce then I just dont give a dam.

It becomes a wonderful thing when you encounter one of the small % of folks that can break free, and knowing that it is statistically unlikely to find them makes it all the more special to have found a free thinker and not a drone.

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hahahaha

You laugh but you-know-who deleted me from Facebook for being your friend.

You should be very, very glad :-)