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How awkward is this really? Sex is amazing don't get me wrong, just imagine meeting someone for one thing and not wanting more. Especially if you're talking them, hence the friends part. Don't know where the benefits come in, personally I think people who can pull that off flawlessly, still baffles me. I can get behind being friends but having sex with them would make me feel cheap; like I was just a piece of meat to them. If I am going to have sex; there has to be romance involved. If a guy is a friend; then there is no romance between us. I guess for some; as long as they get sex; it doesn't matter whether there are romantic feelings. I can't have sex with someone I don't feel some kind of connection with. With FWB I always picture two robots doing it. There's something inhuman attached to it. Why would you assume there wouldn't be any connection? FWB: Sex without strings, no emotional attachment. That doesn't mean there will be no connection. Which is why FWB is pointless. Have you ever had a FWB relationship? I tried to. It was hard to continue the sex without saying how I felt. Apparently that's bad in FWB. Well, sounds like it was in yours anyway. Guess if ya couldn't say how you felt then ya went really friends. Can't base everyone's FWB as robotic, unhuman, unemotional, nonconnected and awkward cause yours was a bad experience. It's just not for you. Next! 
I think they are, least they can be. People eventually want a connection. I'd like to hear your version of a FWB? To me it was always black or white, no grey. I didn't think it was anything more than what porn stars get paid to do. Not saying people who do that are tawdry, I don't know what else to compare it to. I don't have sex with my friends either. I can't make an act of love with a guy without some romantic passion behind it. Commitment.. people eventually want a commitment. The connection is already there. I don't have a version, I have had an experience. porn star getting paid tawdy no emotion no expression Doesn't even sound like were talking about the same kind of deal..relationship. so..yea. What kind of connection do you pull from just having sex with someone? Being horny? |
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right here lady
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i've tried the FWB thing... it can cost you a friend
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fwb's
 since im too afraid of anything serious
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fwb's since im too afraid of anything serious
Just make sure you tell her up front that you don't want anything serious.
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fwb's since im too afraid of anything serious
Just make sure you tell her up front that you don't want anything serious.
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fwb's since im too afraid of anything serious
Just make sure you tell her up front that you don't want anything serious.
 I know how you feel. Hang in there. We'll make it.
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How awkward is this really? Sex is amazing don't get me wrong, just imagine meeting someone for one thing and not wanting more. Especially if you're talking them, hence the friends part. Don't know where the benefits come in, personally I think people who can pull that off flawlessly, still baffles me. I can get behind being friends but having sex with them would make me feel cheap; like I was just a piece of meat to them. If I am going to have sex; there has to be romance involved. If a guy is a friend; then there is no romance between us. I guess for some; as long as they get sex; it doesn't matter whether there are romantic feelings. I can't have sex with someone I don't feel some kind of connection with. With FWB I always picture two robots doing it. There's something inhuman attached to it. Why would you assume there wouldn't be any connection? FWB: Sex without strings, no emotional attachment. That doesn't mean there will be no connection. Which is why FWB is pointless. Have you ever had a FWB relationship? I tried to. It was hard to continue the sex without saying how I felt. Apparently that's bad in FWB. Well, sounds like it was in yours anyway. Guess if ya couldn't say how you felt then ya went really friends. Can't base everyone's FWB as robotic, unhuman, unemotional, nonconnected and awkward cause yours was a bad experience. It's just not for you. Next!
I think they are, least they can be. People eventually want a connection. I'd like to hear your version of a FWB? To me it was always black or white, no grey. I didn't think it was anything more than what porn stars get paid to do. Not saying people who do that are tawdry, I don't know what else to compare it to. I don't have sex with my friends either. I can't make an act of love with a guy without some romantic passion behind it. Commitment.. people eventually want a commitment. The connection is already there. I don't have a version, I have had an experience. porn star getting paid tawdy no emotion no expression Doesn't even sound like were talking about the same kind of deal..relationship. so..yea. What kind of connection do you pull from just having sex with someone? Being horny? You sure do make a lot of assumptions. I don't have sex with someone I don't have a connection with. Sorry your experience was so ugly. Learn from it, that's why we have experiences to begin with.
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You sure do make a lot of assumptions. I don't have sex with someone I don't have a connection with. Sorry your experience was so ugly. Learn from it, that's why we have experiences to begin with.
Such a wise woman. 
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You sure do make a lot of assumptions. I don't have sex with someone I don't have a connection with. Sorry your experience was so ugly. Learn from it, that's why we have experiences to begin with.
Such a wise woman.
I concur with that..
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How awkward is this really? Sex is amazing don't get me wrong, just imagine meeting someone for one thing and not wanting more. Especially if you're talking them, hence the friends part. Don't know where the benefits come in, personally I think people who can pull that off flawlessly, still baffles me. I can get behind being friends but having sex with them would make me feel cheap; like I was just a piece of meat to them. If I am going to have sex; there has to be romance involved. If a guy is a friend; then there is no romance between us. I guess for some; as long as they get sex; it doesn't matter whether there are romantic feelings. I can't have sex with someone I don't feel some kind of connection with. With FWB I always picture two robots doing it. There's something inhuman attached to it. Why would you assume there wouldn't be any connection? FWB: Sex without strings, no emotional attachment. That doesn't mean there will be no connection. Which is why FWB is pointless. Have you ever had a FWB relationship? I tried to. It was hard to continue the sex without saying how I felt. Apparently that's bad in FWB. Well, sounds like it was in yours anyway. Guess if ya couldn't say how you felt then ya went really friends. Can't base everyone's FWB as robotic, unhuman, unemotional, nonconnected and awkward cause yours was a bad experience. It's just not for you. Next!
I think they are, least they can be. People eventually want a connection. I'd like to hear your version of a FWB? To me it was always black or white, no grey. I didn't think it was anything more than what porn stars get paid to do. Not saying people who do that are tawdry, I don't know what else to compare it to. I don't have sex with my friends either. I can't make an act of love with a guy without some romantic passion behind it. I don't think it's ever really black and white. There's always going to be some sort of grey area, depending on the people. If you were actually friends with the person and close with them, you should have been able to talk about your feelings and how it was going. It sounds like you weren't very close with the person. It happens. It doesn't work well for some. |
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You sure do make a lot of assumptions. I don't have sex with someone I don't have a connection with. Sorry your experience was so ugly. Learn from it, that's why we have experiences to begin with.
Exactly!
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the more I read (and contribute) in this thread the more I begin to feel like we are chasing our proverbial tails trying to put a relationship into a nice neat box with a definition and say: "yes FWB is this, or no FWB is not that"
the only given is the friendship....so it's important (I conclude as I read this thread) to talk with your freind and set your own parameters if u want parameters if he/she tells u that a commitment isn't going to be part of it - don't go into it unless u can handle that I have known guys who insisted they wanted no commitment and then changed their minds and vice versa (and I have done the same while dating) - relationships are not static there are just too many variables except for the one constant of friendship - what the benefits will be is up to the couple some of the difficulty is that some folks, I wager, are misusing the term "friend" |
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the more I read (and contribute) in this thread the more I begin to feel like we are chasing our proverbial tails trying to put a relationship into a nice neat box with a definition and say: "yes FWB is this, or no FWB is not that" the only given is the friendship....so it's important (I conclude as I read this thread) to talk with your freind and set your own parameters if u want parameters if he/she tells u that a commitment isn't going to be part of it - don't go into it unless u can handle that I have known guys who insisted they wanted no commitment and then changed their minds and vice versa (and I have done the same while dating) - relationships are not static there are just too many variables except for the one constant of friendship - what the benefits will be is up to the couple some of the difficulty is that some folks, I wager, are misusing the term "friend" I agree with much of this. This is what I meant by it's never really black and white. Things aren't going to be the same from one relationship to another. Communication works best. If you're not sure what's going on, or what your feelings are, talk to the other person! |
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the more I read (and contribute) in this thread the more I begin to feel like we are chasing our proverbial tails trying to put a relationship into a nice neat box with a definition and say: "yes FWB is this, or no FWB is not that" the only given is the friendship....so it's important (I conclude as I read this thread) to talk with your freind and set your own parameters if u want parameters if he/she tells u that a commitment isn't going to be part of it - don't go into it unless u can handle that I have known guys who insisted they wanted no commitment and then changed their minds and vice versa (and I have done the same while dating) - relationships are not static there are just too many variables except for the one constant of friendship - what the benefits will be is up to the couple some of the difficulty is that some folks, I wager, are misusing the term "friend" I agree with much of this. This is what I meant by it's never really black and white. Things aren't going to be the same from one relationship to another. Communication works best. If you're not sure what's going on, or what your feelings are, talk to the other person!
Yes I agree - hopefully friendship always has benefits - the term itself is definitional in my mind! |
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the more I read (and contribute) in this thread the more I begin to feel like we are chasing our proverbial tails trying to put a relationship into a nice neat box with a definition and say: "yes FWB is this, or no FWB is not that" the only given is the friendship....so it's important (I conclude as I read this thread) to talk with your freind and set your own parameters if u want parameters if he/she tells u that a commitment isn't going to be part of it - don't go into it unless u can handle that I have known guys who insisted they wanted no commitment and then changed their minds and vice versa (and I have done the same while dating) - relationships are not static there are just too many variables except for the one constant of friendship - what the benefits will be is up to the couple some of the difficulty is that some folks, I wager, are misusing the term "friend" I agree with much of this. This is what I meant by it's never really black and white. Things aren't going to be the same from one relationship to another. Communication works best. If you're not sure what's going on, or what your feelings are, talk to the other person!
Yes I agree - hopefully friendship always has benefits - the term itself is definitional in my mind! |
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the more I read (and contribute) in this thread the more I begin to feel like we are chasing our proverbial tails trying to put a relationship into a nice neat box with a definition and say: "yes FWB is this, or no FWB is not that"
I've said it before and I'll say it agan..I despise labels. That's why. You label then it has to be what YOU think. We all process differently. The more I read and contribute to this thread, I'm wondering if what I did wasn't even a "FWB." My relationship just wasn't like anything I'm seeing here. There is risk involved in any relationship where you give of yourself freely...body or heart. We can take the risk or not. |
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Love is a risky business.
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Love is a risky business. If if works out there is no better feeling..
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Love is a risky business. Tom Cruise would agree. |
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