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Topic: Friends with Benefits
sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 02/05/12 02:09 PM
I am not sure I see any criticism here but yes, I think it's great that we live in a time when we can do what works for us as individuals! I like your new photo Ladylid

whatssuup Joined Sat 10/25/08 Posts: 690	Sun 02/05/12 02:35 PM
I would like to know how men feel about the having a relationship called,Friends with Benefits. If you met someone whom you really liked, and you both agreed that intimacy would be between only the two of you for safe sex purpose, could you deal with a relationship like that and if not why. I have been offered that.... I also know myself well enough to know that for me that just wouldn't work I want to fill, as well as have all aspects of my life filled first to me sex is just icing on the cake..... and I want the best tasting cake first

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Sun 02/05/12 02:41 PM
I am not sure I see any criticism here but yes, I think it's great that we live in a time when we can do what works for us as individuals! I like your new photo Ladylid I wasn't necessarily referring to here, just to Emily's post in general. Thanks

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 02/05/12 09:16 PM
FWB relationships have a time and place all their own. Their not for everyone. I enjoyed mine and we did go out socially, we were friends, not drunk booty calls. It's not so bad when it ends if ya know what your going into in the first place. Different things work for different people. I think too many people look down on others for situations that don't work for them. If it was a positive experience, that's awesome. Eh, a lot of people criticize what they don't understand. It doesn't matter, we all get to do what we want. We're still friends, years later so yea...positive things came from that relationship, for both of us. That's awesome. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. You're right, though, people will criticize what they don't understand.

jaded72 Joined Tue 12/06/11 Posts: 1456	Mon 02/06/12 09:06 AM
There are as many types of relationships as there are people in the world... What works for some does not work for others, so talking it out is very important. My experience has been that FWB can be challenging because emotional involvement is not that far from physical involvement. Ongoing negotiations are important!

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Mon 02/06/12 10:03 AM
There are as many types of relationships as there are people in the world... What works for some does not work for others, so talking it out is very important. My experience has been that FWB can be challenging because emotional involvement is not that far from physical involvement. Ongoing negotiations are important! If FWB meant Friend (1) With Benefits It could mean a different situation entirely.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 02/06/12 10:13 AM
There are as many types of relationships as there are people in the world... What works for some does not work for others, so talking it out is very important. My experience has been that FWB can be challenging because emotional involvement is not that far from physical involvement. Ongoing negotiations are important! If FWB meant Friend (1) With Benefits It could mean a different situation entirely. What do you think FWB means?

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Mon 02/06/12 11:07 AM
What do you think FWB means? Oh singme you ask such difficult Questions...

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 02/06/12 11:30 AM Edited by navygirl on Mon 02/06/12 11:32 AM
What do you think FWB means? Oh singme you ask such difficult Questions... Actually; she asks a valid question of you as you seem to imply FWB means something else. What do you think FWB means? To me its friends that have sex with each other once in a while; thus that being the benifits. What is your idea of FWB?

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Mon 02/06/12 11:52 AM
One Friend with Benefits. Having sex with one friend and one friend only.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 02/06/12 12:03 PM
One Friend with Benefits. Having sex with one friend and one friend only. Well, that clarifies it. Never heard of that before. Now does this mean the person who is the friend only has sex with you or others as well? Most FWBs have several partners.

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Mon 02/06/12 12:08 PM
One Friend with Benefits. Having sex with one friend and one friend only. Well, that clarifies it. Never heard of that before. Now does this mean the person who is the friend only has sex with you or others as well? Most FWBs have several partners. I obviously lead a very sheltered life.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 02/06/12 12:10 PM
One Friend with Benefits. Having sex with one friend and one friend only. Well, that clarifies it. Never heard of that before. Now does this mean the person who is the friend only has sex with you or others as well? Most FWBs have several partners. I obviously lead a very sheltered life. Its okay. You can learn much on Mingles my dear.

Godiva Joined Tue 12/09/08 Posts: 5330	Mon 02/06/12 02:10 PM
No. It just does not interest me. For me personally, sex is part of an actual relationship, not something I share with friends, not even close ones.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 02/06/12 02:16 PM
One Friend with Benefits. Having sex with one friend and one friend only. I'm sure it can go like that, but I'm not sure that it usually does.

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Mon 02/06/12 02:45 PM
One Friend with Benefits. Having sex with one friend and one friend only. I'm sure it can go like that, but I'm not sure that it usually does. I class it as a live apart relationship as opposed to a live together relationship. Each have their own home and visit each other on a regular basis. No sexual involvement with other people.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 02/06/12 02:49 PM
One Friend with Benefits. Having sex with one friend and one friend only. I'm sure it can go like that, but I'm not sure that it usually does. I class it as a live apart relationship as opposed to a live together relationship. Each have their own home and visit each other on a regular basis. No sexual involvement with other people. Hmm, that sounds more like a relationship than an FWB.

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Mon 02/06/12 02:53 PM
One Friend with Benefits. Having sex with one friend and one friend only. I'm sure it can go like that, but I'm not sure that it usually does. I class it as a live apart relationship as opposed to a live together relationship. Each have their own home and visit each other on a regular basis. No sexual involvement with other people. Hmm, that sounds more like a relationship than an FWB. Lets settle for something in between.....a friendly regular shag..

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 02/06/12 02:59 PM
One Friend with Benefits. Having sex with one friend and one friend only. I'm sure it can go like that, but I'm not sure that it usually does. I class it as a live apart relationship as opposed to a live together relationship. Each have their own home and visit each other on a regular basis. No sexual involvement with other people. Hmm, that sounds more like a relationship than an FWB. Lets settle for something in between.....a friendly regular shag.. Yeah, I guess really thats what it boils down to.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 02/06/12 03:03 PM
One Friend with Benefits. Having sex with one friend and one friend only. I'm sure it can go like that, but I'm not sure that it usually does. I class it as a live apart relationship as opposed to a live together relationship. Each have their own home and visit each other on a regular basis. No sexual involvement with other people. Ah, then I'm talking about something completely different. A no strings attached, no commitment to each other type of thing. You're describing an actual relationship.