When I liked someone, I let them know, I can't see the point in beating around the bush..

yeah I get that a lot..

Same here, especially since I've never really understood the whole process and have no idea how it's supposed to be done....



I just ignore nudges from strangers now. They always turn out to be scammers.

I don't think anybody knows to be honest. I guess it's just thrill of the chase, ya never know till you try.

Yeah I got a few scammers too, so now I'm very careful who I make contact with.

You should let loose and see what happens. I'm sure you'll meet someone nice on here, if you just knock a few of them walls down. From what I've seen on here, there are quite a few ladies that have made it pretty obvious that they're interested in you.

Go for it!

I hear that whole thing about "they're making it obvious" from time to time, but I'm just not seeing it. I don't know if it's the Asperger's, or if I'm just naturally oblivious, or what. It just doesn't register to me. I see messages that are supportive, messages that are kind and considerate, but I don't see "interest," per se.

Of course, the bigger obstacle, even assuming anyone actually was interested, is usually the distance thing....

I can pretty much agree with this - never had a problem with this til recently....part of it may be being new to the area here in beautiful Columbus Ohio....I have been interested in a couple of people over the last two years but they turned out to be attached (one of them) and the other does not seem to reciprocate interest. So no, if I don't get a signal of some kind of interest I will not do anything, and I really prefer the man make the first move (after all the usual signal exchanges)if he does not I interpret that to mean he is not interested, and maintain that is generally the case....sure if u ask a guy out he'll prolly say yes to chance at a free meal & some booty, but if he is really into you- he will do something about it

The thing that was always hard for me was when friends would say "Didn't you see that girl flirting with you?" and I never had any idea of what they were talking about. I guess I just don't understand the concept of flirting.

Since I moved to Indiana, I almost never see anyone at all, so there's little opportunity for me to overlook any flirting, real or otherwise.

I pretty much ignore nudges from strangers, too. If they want to chat, that's cool, but they need to send an email to do so.

So, a woman asking a man out says that she's buying him food and having sex with him? Interesting.

Yeah, that's how I see it, too. They have to actually say something, otherwise there's no point. I don't want to have to do both ends of the conversation.

There have been some who have nudged me over and over and over. So I contacted them and asked them what was going on. They told me they didn't know what to say. Of course, there was nothing in their profile, so I didn't have anything to say, either.

I just don't see the point of contacting someone if you don't know what to say to them.

Exactly -- what's the point? Where do you go with that?

Most of the e-mails I get now are "Hi" or "Hello" or "How are you?" and that's the whole thing. I don't respond to those anymore. Sometimes I get the ones that say "Hey, I read your profile and I liked it! Where are you and what do you do?" and I don't respond to those anymore, either.

I'd estimate that fewer than 5% of my e-mails actually contain anything I can legitimately reply to....

Whoa..Good point!((((SexyLexy))))

I do not want to risk falling between the cracks of 95% and 5%
I will stick to the billboard idea.

OK, can you make sure the letters are really big, and maybe red or neon green? And there should be a picture of a llama on there somewhere....

eh it's just an example -more what a guy would prolly be thinking about (the sex particularly) rather than me saying what is actually going to happen. I think you tried to put words in my mouth there- as I see only a vague connection between what I said & ur response

I would imagine whether or not sex or food is involved is up to the people involved....depends on what u are looking for, I guess - but it pretty much boils down to the discussion we have had previously on what fits with your style or comfort zone.

but I maintain that if he is really into you- he will do something about it - and the ones who don't/won't - I would not be interested in, personally

w/e floats ur boat...

Yes.