I have a male friend who wouild "Do Me" if I'd let him...
Unfortunately, I'm a mind "phucker". If the brain is stimulated-
the body will follow. He is a nice guy. But his mind doesn't turn
me on. I've posted ads on cl for him-givien him links to single dating sites...and yet...he can't find a woman to meet for drinks or coffee. What gives? He's average height/build/weight/looks/shaved head..................what should he do to meet FWB or get that Human Touch?

Become a realfriend to 'A' HER first, and see if that might be ok with her THEN,,,for fwb don't advertise,,,thats like,,
DO ME,,whoever YOU ARE? I have never had one made here..
I tried some relationships that one could SAY that was all we had,,But no,,its in the heart,,or its just a date or lust or fwb.
So trying to see if two people are good with each other,,,doesn't make THAT a FWB...
So,,tell him to join the many who feel lonely and try meeting a lady as JUST a friend before he would think SHE LIKED HIM,,in THAT WAY.. Just my thoughts?

question,,,if he is your friend,,and even if he's not your type?
Would it be an issue for you to be that with him,,as,what you think>and what you really FIND,,might be two different things completely?
I mean,,if already friends and you did make love with him..
Then,,you could fully say he'snot your type,,but to never share that with each other,,many books are far better reading ,,than just looking at their cover??

I think its very hard not to find women that would be interested in FWB these days. There are sites like adultfriendfinder, bangmatch, hookup.com,,which specialize in just that type of no strings physical 'touch'

Probably most of the women he meets have a similar reaction.
They wish him well but don't want a relationship with him not
even fwb. I have not met many who would recommend a fwb situation
in any case and that is likely part of the problem too.

Only solution is to meet lots of women until he finds a better
match.

most women know that most men would "do" just about anyone woman who would let him. that's a pretty big turn off. If you don't find him attractive, other women may not either.

I am the last person to disagree with FWB relationships (have one now going quite well)!

But, advertising (especially on CL) for one is just like saying I want casual/NSA sex. FWB...IMHO, only works if there is a pre-existing friendship before adding "benefits", i. e. sex! I'd say his approach has much to do with it. He needs to find others with similar interests (hobbies, activities, etc), build a friendship and then ask for benefits if he is not seeking long-term relationships.

I have been friends with quite a few women in my time. I have been "Best friends" (their words) with some. In almost every case when the subject of a physical relationship has come up, they say either "I am not interested in you that way" or " I am afraid it will ruin our friendship".

When I met these women I was attracted to them and wanted to get to know them better. I talked to them when I saw them out, asked them out for a drink, eventually asked them out to dinner, etc. As we became closer and talked on a more frequent basis they became very special to me and I was hoping it would turn into more than a friendship. However they at some point had determined that I would never be more than a friend.

I have heard it said that a woman knows within a very short time if she will sleep with a man. A woman also knows in a very short time if a man will sleep with her. Perhaps I am just old fashioned, or an idiot when it comes to woman, but I always thought that getting to know someone and developing a physical relationship usually involved becoming friends with them first.

What do you do when you find out that the physical relationship is never going to happen. How long can you remain close friends with someone you care about and have grown to have feelings for while you watch them start having a physical relationship with someone new.

And a question for the ladies, If this friend is such a nice guy but you aren't attracted to him that way, but you know he is attracted to you, do you really think he want's to hear about it? Does he really want to know about how the guy was such a jerk if it doesn't work out?

Sorry if I went off on a little tangent there.