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I think most women just have the gift of gab more than most guys.
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The guy appears just too dang intense for. I like 'em sane...more balanced. Doesn't play silly games.
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Hmmm, you really took offence at that? Did you miss the words “in general”? I’m not sure how you interpreted anything I said as directly pertaining to you. I was speaking in terms of typical. I guess I didn’t realize the need to explain that typical does not mean all inclusive. I didn’t forget to say “the women I’ve met” because this has nothing to do with my personal experience. It is based on research and yes, stereotypes. Nowhere in here did I say you personally did this or that, or that, because you are a woman you ramble on incessantly; I was merely offering an explanation aimed at his responses to you and measuring them against the widely accepted differences between the sexes when it comes to communication. My third paragraph was hypothetical; since I don’t know either of you and I am not privy to your emails, all I have to go on is the limited information you gave. So again, I was calling upon the research groups and their findings. (women talk to build relationships: men talk to report information) I was not in any way, shape or form finding fault or passing blame here, I’m sorry you took it that way and felt the need to defend yourself. Not really taken offense just the way you worded it was funny. And since I can't hear you and this is the internet you have to explain what you mean. Well typical could also mean "in your words/opinion" as well. What you're "used" to. Typical also ties in with certain stereotypes. I was just saying since the word of choice you've used more than others is "I" meaning you're deriving what you say from personal experience to offer advice from. It just sounds like it to me. What kind of research is this? Maybe a source would be nice. A link? A book? This could clear up the confusion in the beginning and make sure you were really being general as opposed to just offering your take on the subject. Which is great too. But you were bringing stats into this so it requires a lot more than you presented. Again, I'd like to see this somewhere. I want to believe this but for right now I'll view it as its just your opinion without facts. I just want to understand you better. Not feeling you passed direct blame. Just some of what you said may need to be slightly explained since I'm learning this thing as I go. ok here are just a couple of examples http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/07/13/AR2007071301815.html http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&frm=1&source=web&cd=6&sqi=2&ved=0CEUQFjAF&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.guardian.co.uk%2Flifeandstyle%2F2006%2Fnov%2F27%2Ffamilyandrelationships&ei=9GvzTtLhAam2sQKtvLSlAQ&usg=AFQjCNGB4vEWdbqmZ9R3ZM4HGrc2CPWe1A |
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Edited by
42BlackBBW
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Thu 12/22/11 01:23 PM
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Just curious, if a guy writes less than you do in emails does that mean he doesn't care to get to know you better? 
I admit to not having read previous responses but IMO, I don’t think so. I just think that this may mean that he’s more of a face to face communicator. I also don’t believe that his inability to write novels when communicating electronically makes him less interesting a person. I have found that a jerk’s a jerk whether he’s able to wax lyrical in type/text or not. |
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He only likes to talk at night it seems too. Just want to add that in there. 
Yeah. Its always around the same time too. Sometimes an hour later or so. lol I think its weird that I find that the most predictable. |
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He only likes to talk at night it seems too. Just want to add that in there.
Yeah. Its always around the same time too. Sometimes an hour later or so. lol I think its weird that I find that the most predictable. Not really. Never really thought about asking him anything. Just scared he's gonna play games again. |
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Edited by
MariahsFantasy
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Thu 12/22/11 02:35 PM
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Just curious, if a guy writes less than you do in emails does that mean he doesn't care to get to know you better?
I admit to not having read previous responses but IMO, I don’t think so. I just think that this may mean that he’s more of a face to face communicator. I also don’t believe that his inability to write novels when communicating electronically makes him less interesting a person. I have found that a jerk’s a jerk whether he’s able to wax lyrical in type/text or not. I find this funny because yesterday I was talking to my guy friend about this and he's all "guys are just guys." Of course I  Then he follows up with "well it could mean a number of things. Can't express himself, prefers chatting in person/phone, maybe he's more comfortable with other options." Maybe I am a little analytical but it is confusing when you're trying to get to know someone online. And I write a lot anyway, I always have; I write its what I do.
But communication via the phone doesn't always pan out. Sometimes I'll get the guy that just hates chatting on the phone and prefers conversations through texting or IM. Which is fine but if it works out I'll eventually want to talk on the phone and talk things further, you know?  All possibilities considered. 
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Just curious, if a guy writes less than you do in emails does that mean he doesn't care to get to know you better?
I admit to not having read previous responses but IMO, I don’t think so. I just think that this may mean that he’s more of a face to face communicator. I also don’t believe that his inability to write novels when communicating electronically makes him less interesting a person. I have found that a jerk’s a jerk whether he’s able to wax lyrical in type/text or not. I find this funny because yesterday I was talking to my guy friend about this and he's all "guys are just guys." Of course I Then he follows up with "well it could mean a number of things. Can't express himself, prefers chatting in person/phone, maybe he's more comfortable with other options." Maybe I am a little analytical but it is confusing when you're trying to get to know someone online. And I write a lot anyway, I always have; I write its what I do.
But communication via the phone doesn't always pan out. Sometimes I'll get the guy that just hates chatting on the phone and prefers conversations through texting or IM. Which is fine but if it works out I'll eventually want to talk on the phone and talk things further, you know? All possibilities considered.
It could always "mean a number of things"  .
I once dated this guy that could only communicate in text. We tried the phone and really struggled to maintain a conversation...funny thing is that we were absolutely fine in person - we could literally talk for England but on the phone, it was slow going and hard work. I know what you mean…I sometimes suffer from verbal diarrhea whether it’s in person or in print. This guy that I’m chatting to at the moment,sends me one msg and gets a book in return . He’s coping ok with it and hasn't said anything. I consider myself lucky because he writes enough to compensate so I’m not complaining.
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It could always "mean a number of things" .
I once dated this guy that could only communicate in text. We tried the phone and really struggled to maintain a conversation...funny thing is that we were absolutely fine in person - we could literally talk for England but on the phone, it was slow going and hard work. I know what you mean…I sometimes suffer from verbal diarrhea whether it’s in person or in print. This guy that I’m chatting to at the moment,sends me one msg and gets a book in return . He’s coping ok with it and hasn't said anything. I consider myself lucky because he writes enough to compensate so I’m not complaining.
At least he sounds like the real thing. Right? You guys are accepting each other despite small shortcomings. Always a good thing. 
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Hmmm, its happened again... lol
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Just curious, if a guy writes less than you do in emails does that mean he doesn't care to get to know you better?
Not necessarily. |
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Pascal, the french mathematician and physicist once said, "I would have written a shorter letter, but I did not have the time."
I believe being "terse" or concise and polished requires more effort and, therefore, is the hallmark of great care. |
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Pascal, the french mathematician and physicist once said, "I would have written a shorter letter, but I did not have the time." I believe being "terse" or concise and polished requires more effort and, therefore, is the hallmark of great care. I definitely agree with this. I think its harder to condense, least from my standpoint...I appreciate the insight just the same. 
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