Im doing this for a friend she came to me for advice and I told her go ahead and post a forum so here I am: Shes been talking to a guy for two weeks, shes 19 and hes in his late 40s, he wants her to adapt her kids and make them hers, get married and all the happy go lucky stuff, she also has fallen for him but they have exchanged phone numbers or talked on messgners... I gave her as much as advice as i could i told her shed probably get more out here... So please give her your two sense, I dont want her getting hurt or falling into some trap....

omg tell her no way

Two weeks - is she nuts? Sorry, but two weeks of phone calls and e-mails is nothing to base a marriage on and for adopting someone's kids. She needs to think long and hard before doing anything. She needs to meet the guy, spend time with him and the kids, real time - not a week or two, she doesn't know anything about him. Marriage is serious business but adoption is even more serious.

She needs to slow way down, tell her to take a long slow look at what she is doing, and don't rush into anything. She is really young to get involved with a guy in his late 40s anyway. She should be with someone closer to her own age.

Now this is just my opinion but I think at 19 she is running too fast down the road of life. She needs to give herself the opportunity to experience life as an adult before jumping in with both feet. I'm not saying it wouldn't work but when she is his age (40), he will be 61. When she is my age (50), he will be 71. I know people say age is just a number, but that is a very large spread.

hes lookin for a bebes mama.. is she looking for a surgar daddy ? the social complication are hard enough with that let alone 2 weeks ?? wow !! carefull i say little one

that has a BIG TRAP and a controlling, abusive man, written all over it

this is a both frightening and dangerous situation for the young lady -get her outta there quick!!

she may be mad at you for a little while ,but when she comes to her senses she'll thank you!!!

The great thing about marriage is that you have the rest of your life to be married. What's the rush? Why rush things, why not take the scenic route and enjoy the ride; after all, marriage is a journey with someone you care about - not a destination.

WOW THANK U ALL FOR RESPONDING I TOLD HER I DIDNT THINK IT LOOKED GOOD CONTROLLING WRITTEN ALL OVER IT ESPECAILLY IF ITS BEEN JUST OVER EMAILS.... THANKS U GUYS FOR ALL THE ADVICE

how dose she get him to go away

She stops talking to him, block him, report him if he continues to harass her.

i AGREE MARIE HE DONT HAVE PHONE NUMBERS OR ADDRESSES SO BLOCKING HIM SHOULD GET HIM TO LEAVE U ALONE

hit nail right on the head Marie!!!!

Tell her MANDATORY....back ground check.

I met a guy who said somewhat the same. Except he told me he was 29 and lived in AZ. I checked his story out...he was 51 and lives in pensylvania....ahh busted.

im the girl all i didnt know how to say it that is y i asked girly to say it

Your 19 and ,,,,,,,,GOD girlly,,,you have SOOOOOO MUCH TO SEE AND FEEL YET..
OK,,you think hes all THAT,,and he has made you feel PERFECT,,,about him and YOU,,,
Hello,,,HE HAS SPECIAL POWERS to make you FEEL that he is everything,,,he has,,,EXPERIENCED LIFE ALREADY, and has talked to many,many,many,many,,,,girls and ladies and women to already KNOW,,,,what to say to you to win YOUR HEART...

NOW,,,the other flip to YOUR lives TOGETHER,,,,
When your 39 he will be OLD,,,,hello,,,,OLD,,,,
what 70 or close to it anyway if hes in mid forties NOW???

Go hang with ANY guy that is 70 NOW,,,and LOOK at him,,,CLOSE,,,see his age and weakness and his skin his winkles his hurts and pains,,,,,talk with him and ask that 70n year old man how is feels and he will tell you..
Then picture YOURSELF at 39 and in YOUR prime of life,,,,,?

You do NOT want this LOVE...and in the end,,,NEITHER WOULD HE..
At least tune 21 and be fully legal to see REAL older guys in the clubs and bars before making your lifetime comitment.,,,PLEASE!!!


That is what I would tell my own daughter,,I hope it helps her to REALLY SEE,,,,HIM....

NICE GOING INCOGNITO AND NICE PIC BY THE WAY I LOVE MONKEYS SORRY.... I ALWAYS DO THAT AND CHECK MINE UNDER OTIS ITS THE PRISON SYSTEM HERE IN MICHIGAN

she is 19 and he is 40? add this up 19+19=38+2=40

i thinks hes useing the kid thing to his advantege becase he know i lost mine

PLEASE, WE ALL NEED TO GIVE HER SOME GOOD ADVICE. DON'T LET ANY ONE TALK YOU INTO GETTING MARRIED OR ANYTHING SERIOUS AFTER JUST 2 WEEKS OF CHATTING.. IF SHE LIKES HIM, KEEP CHATTING ON HERE OR EXHANGE NUMBERS OR E-MAIL. SEE HOW THINGS GO. BUT, PERSONALLY, I HAVE A 19 YR OLD DAUGHTER AT HOME, AND I WOULD ADVICE HER TO STOP TALKING TO HIM. BUT, LIKE I SAID, IF SHE LIKES HIM, AND WANTS TO KEEP TALKING, THEN SHE NEEDS TO HAVE HIM CHECKED OUT AND JUST TAKE YOUR TIME, THERE'S NO RUSH TO LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST. SHE IS SO YOUNG, AND HAS HER WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF HER. I WISH HER THE BEST