Heartbroken - block him, you are headed for trouble with him. YOu are too young, you have your life ahead of you. You deserve to have a good life. Stay with people your own age and enjoy yourself. You just lost a baby and you need time to grieve and heal. Take care of yourself and be safe.

i ended up loseing 2 babys

ive been griveing for a year and a month
all i want is love

honey we know you do alot us do but u know he would have just hurt u and hes seeing u as this lost little girl its so much better to have him blocked and reported youll be better off in the long run trust me u will, it might hurt now but thats okay we all greive

Heartbroken - then take the time you need to grieve them and heal. You need to heal your heart, and then you can move on to a relationship. Take care of you first. Don't let anyone use you or hurt.

Yeah he wants to adopt her kids alright...Until she meets him and sleeps with him and then he either disappears OR she finds out he's married...After 2 weeks...NO WAY is this guy sincere!!!!!!!

Sorry about the loss of your baby's heartbroken..Yes he is definitly using his kids to manipulate you...Think about it...You have only talked over e-mail...It's obvious he wants something...BUT marriage and adopting his kids isn't it...trust me on that one...You can't make up for the loss of your children by replacing it with something or someone else...Grief has to be worked through in stages and this is the worst time to start any relationship especially for the wrong reasons..Take time to heal and then look for love!!!!!!!!!!

Wise old monkey says: Native and Marie are right, it takes a lot longer than 2 weeks to develop any kind of lasting relationship. Take your time and get to know this guy before you jump into anything you might later regret.

Oh and if he gives you any trouble, a large accordion to the snout is always a good solution. I just happen to know an accordionist who'll do the job for 5 ripe bananas and a pan of strudel... :)

NO WAY NO WAY , IF SHE DOESN'T WANT TO GET HURT ,THEN SHE BETTER LET THE GUY GO. BECAUSE IT SOUNDS LIKE HE IS ONLY USING HER FOR SEX ONLY .BECAUSE THINK ABOUT IT. HE IS 41, AND SHE IS ONLY 19 . THE GUY IS USING HER ( BIG TIME )

Ill be the first to tell you ,in my opinion,age is only a number but,what could a 41 yr old man possibly have in common with a 19 yr old girl? besides socks older then her! LOL

Just say NO!!

well, i know the situation from the guys point of view. im not going to get into it on here and im not going to bad mouth anyone b/c i like both ppl involved. just stop all contact with him hbb.

The only thing he sees in her is being 19 , young . Because the guy is 41 he might have been having SEX with someother girls now. And that 19 year old don't know nothing about it. And another reason I would let him go is : she is only 19 and he is 41 but lives far away plus with 2 kids already . Think about it why can't he fine somebody around his area ?

btw, this is personal stuff that really should not be aired. his side of the story is very different than hers. ok, im done.

he told me he told his kids about me and he wanted to know if i was ok with them calling me mom his kids are 14 and 15 im 19 scary how clos in age they are

sweet jesus, i thought i was the only nut on here.

viva you arent a nut

and i agree with winnie,

apologies for my previous post.... i think its personal and we need to hear his side of the story and leave it between them

There is always three sides to a story, her side , his side and the truth......I have read her side on here...I have heard his side....and only they know the real truth.

This should never have gone this far in the threads....you should block him if he is bothering you...then he won't be able to contact you....

Anything further should be taken up outside of the threads or deal with it elsewhere (where the two of you have been talking)

But this was totally uncalled for!

its been delt with

GREAT NOW IM GOING TO HAVE PPL MAD AT ME YIKES SORRY ALL ... I DIDNT KNOW HIS SIDE OF THE STORY

Heres the problem, someone brings this type of situation to the threads and then someone gets upset about it. Obviously she wanted everyones opinion...and that is her right to ask for help!
I think you should talk to this person and just tell him how you honestly feel about it. If you don't think you should then just say no. You are 19 years old and you should be able to speak your mind by now! If he doesn't seem to want to listen...then block him!