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So, to get a man I need to dress modestly and be thrifty? Is that it?
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So, to get a man I need to dress modestly and be thrifty? Is that it? that hasn't worked for me yet TBH |
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So, to get a man I need to dress modestly and be thrifty? Is that it? that hasn't worked for me yet TBH I guess it depends on your definition of modest, but I think I dress on the "modest side". As far as thrift goes....no, I'm not the thriftiest person in the world, but I do stick to my budget. Mostly. 
Anyway, this hasn't worked for me either. |
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So do you consider yourself to be just one of the guys or just one of the gals? Careful how you answer because it is a gender identity thing. 
Honestly, I am quite the girl if you knew me in real life but I am protected and cared for by quite "the band of brothers". I guess that is the best way to phrase. I am very much favored and sheltered by them. BUT always treated as a woman. |
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Teadipper....In your profile( when asked to rate your profile) ,you had stated you were not even looking for a husband...or wanting children in the first place(but for some reason, you left that part out now in your update ). Which is fine if that is still your desire ( but I would suggest putting it back in your profile, so others may know what you are specifically looking or not looking for ).... But , does that then mean you still want a monogonous committed relationship with a guy anyway.....but , just without ever leading to marriage? But then that would mean, you most likely will be attracting a guy who is Not going to bring you home to momma then. So, what category would you fall under then.....? See what I am saying? 
Point being...let's not categorize men and women on here into groups....because each person is a very unique and special individual unto him/herself....including you.
People take my posts far too seriously at times. I throw out stuff to see what people think. I actually do not have an idea of a "manifest destiny" meaning I have not decided what I want. It does say it you read my stats that I do not have children and do not want them. I do not automatically say I would NEVER date a man with children. I have three cuss words not allowed in my house with regards to such things: don't, won't and never. One of my exs sexiest traits was his devotion to his children. I have no idea if I would remarry. I do not set such things as goals. |
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I know this one will probably backlash at me for stirring the pot amongst the more modern thinking women. Any thoughts? You are a 40 year old working woman who has chosen to be single...no? That would be along the lines of a more modern thinking woman.
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Okay this is what I meant by tramp and it's crude and offensive by my standards. My guy friends refer to certain women as "used Kleenexes" meaning everybody has blown their wad into them. Nobody wants to marry that girl. I did not want to use that terminology outright because it's graphic. I never said I didn't like sex. I have very fiery and passionate sexual relationships but I am into long term serial monogamy. How many men does a woman have to have sex with in order to be a tramp in your eyes? |
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Edited by
mg1959
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Sat 11/12/11 07:35 PM
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Personally I think that tea is being put under the microscope a little too heavily. I think she has presented a very good view of who she is. So much so that I can almost see her personality. It's an open forum so you all can do what you want but I would like to thank her for painting a picture of herself that has been a rare treat for me to see.
very nice job! |
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Edited by
MorningSong
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Sat 11/12/11 07:54 PM
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People take my posts far too seriously at times. I throw out stuff to see what people think. I actually do not have an idea of a "manifest destiny" meaning I have not decided what I want. It does say it you read my stats that I do not have children and do not want them. I do not automatically say I would NEVER date a man with children. I have three cuss words not allowed in my house with regards to such things: don't, won't and never. One of my exs sexiest traits was his devotion to his children. I have no idea if I would remarry. I do not set such things as goals. Actually Teadipper, IF what you wrote above is how you REALLY and TRULY feel, then I would suggest putting That in your profile , instesd. Saying you just don't know what the heck you want ,is fine.... nothing wrong with that at all ( heck, a lot of people don't know what they really want yet )  ....
so just be honest about how you really feel now. It's ok.
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Personally I think that tea is being put under the microscope a little too heavily. I think she has presented a very good view of who she is. So much so that I can almost see her personality. It's an open forum so you all can do what you want but I would like to thank her for painting a picture of herself that has been a rare treat for me to see. very nice job! I don't think she's being put under a microscope. She specifically asked for thoughts on her post. It ended with a question. It always amazes me that people get defensive (in this case mg, not Teadipper) when opinions are given after someone has asked for those opinions. 
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Personally I think that tea is being put under the microscope a little too heavily. I think she has presented a very good view of who she is. So much so that I can almost see her personality. It's an open forum so you all can do what you want but I would like to thank her for painting a picture of herself that has been a rare treat for me to see. very nice job! I don't think she's being put under a microscope. She specifically asked for thoughts on her post. It ended with a question. It always amazes me that people get defensive (in this case mg, not Teadipper) when opinions are given after someone has asked for those opinions.
I always wonder about that, too. She chose to give her opinion on here and asked what others thought. So of course people responded with what they thought and with questions for the OP. MG, did you expect people not to give their thoughts as well for some reason? |
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I asked my question about dress and thriftiness because I just don't believe that is all there is to it. That was really my point.
To the OP, my guess is that you have had many marriage proposals because you are a sweet person with a good heart and that is why men are attracted to you. However, it is not the number of marriage proposals one gets that is important, but the quality of the persons being attracted. I would rather be myself and find the one person who fits with me and me with him than have 100 men I couldn't live with propose marriage to me. |
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oopps
bad day ladies? |
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I asked my question about dress and thriftiness because I just don't believe that is all there is to it. That was really my point. To the OP, my guess is that you have had many marriage proposals because you are a sweet person with a good heart and that is why men are attracted to you. However, it is not the number of marriage proposals one gets that is important, but the quality of the persons being attracted. I would rather be myself and find the one person who fits with me and me with him than have 100 men I couldn't live with propose marriage to me. I asked about tramps, because of the way she wrote about them in her OP. I think it was a valid question, as she says guys don't like tramps. |
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oopps bad day ladies? Not at all. Why would you ask? |
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oopps bad day ladies? Not at all. Why would you ask? Perhaps some sugar with your tea? |
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oopps bad day ladies? Not at all. Why would you ask? Perhaps some sugar with your tea? 
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I asked about tramps, because of the way she wrote about them in her OP. I think it was a valid question, as she says guys don't like tramps. Yeah, I think what a tramp is will really vary from guy to guy. I knew this guy once who would take a girl on a date, bring her back to his place and if she had sex with him he would dump her the next day for being a tramp (because she slept with him on the first date). I always felt like that was a little unfair of him. |
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I asked about tramps, because of the way she wrote about them in her OP. I think it was a valid question, as she says guys don't like tramps. Yeah, I think what a tramp is will really vary from guy to guy. I knew this guy once who would take a girl on a date, bring her back to his place and if she had sex with him he would dump her the next day for being a tramp (because she slept with him on the first date). I always felt like that was a little unfair of him. And it will vary from woman to woman, I think. So, I was just curious as to what the OP thought, since it was such a big part of her post. And that guy sounds like he's awfully immature. Anyone who plays games like that is not someone I'd be into at all. I'm guessing he didn't think he was the male equivalent of a tramp, did he? |
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I asked about tramps, because of the way she wrote about them in her OP. I think it was a valid question, as she says guys don't like tramps. Yeah, I think what a tramp is will really vary from guy to guy. I knew this guy once who would take a girl on a date, bring her back to his place and if she had sex with him he would dump her the next day for being a tramp (because she slept with him on the first date). I always felt like that was a little unfair of him. And it will vary from woman to woman, I think. So, I was just curious as to what the OP thought, since it was such a big part of her post. And that guy sounds like he's awfully immature. Anyone who plays games like that is not someone I'd be into at all. I'm guessing he didn't think he was the male equivalent of a tramp, did he?  No, of course not. 
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