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Topic: Women asking men out - question for the men
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 01/31/12 04:22 PM
A couple ladies were questioning women making the first move, so I'm bringing this thread up again.

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Tue 01/31/12 04:45 PM
I like a woman who is confident and able to make the initial move. Instead of waiting for Mr.Neanderthal (Me) to get around to it!

rille89 Joined Thu 01/26/12 Posts: 75	Tue 01/31/12 05:55 PM
Hmm. If a girl i did not know found me attractive asked me out. I first of all would take that for a huge compliment. She found me attractive, aka i am attractive (for someone) a compliment like that would made my day. If i allready know how she felt, and felt the same i would just be happy and think of it like a way to advance the stating relationchip. (however. If a girl asks to marry me. I would say no. Dunno why, just feel it.)

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Tue 01/31/12 06:01 PM
Hmm. If a girl i did not know found me attractive asked me out. I first of all would take that for a huge compliment. She found me attractive, aka i am attractive (for someone) a compliment like that would made my day. If i allready know how she felt, and felt the same i would just be happy and think of it like a way to advance the stating relationchip. (however. If a girl asks to marry me. I would say no. Dunno why, just feel it.) There go my dwreams

rille89 Joined Thu 01/26/12 Posts: 75	Tue 01/31/12 06:15 PM
Hmm. If a girl i did not know found me attractive asked me out. I first of all would take that for a huge compliment. She found me attractive, aka i am attractive (for someone) a compliment like that would made my day. If i allready know how she felt, and felt the same i would just be happy and think of it like a way to advance the stating relationchip. (however. If a girl asks to marry me. I would say no. Dunno why, just feel it.) There go my dwreams care to share :)

TBRich Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 8232	Tue 01/31/12 06:27 PM
I think it depends on the woman asking. If this is a problem, you should work on your flirting skills.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Tue 01/31/12 06:29 PM
Hmm. If a girl i did not know found me attractive asked me out. I first of all would take that for a huge compliment. She found me attractive, aka i am attractive (for someone) a compliment like that would made my day. If i allready know how she felt, and felt the same i would just be happy and think of it like a way to advance the stating relationchip. (however. If a girl asks to marry me. I would say no. Dunno why, just feel it.) There go my dwreams care to share :) Why do you have to be in Norway?? Hmm maybe if you were closer....

rille89 Joined Thu 01/26/12 Posts: 75	Tue 01/31/12 06:34 PM
Hmm. If a girl i did not know found me attractive asked me out. I first of all would take that for a huge compliment. She found me attractive, aka i am attractive (for someone) a compliment like that would made my day. If i allready know how she felt, and felt the same i would just be happy and think of it like a way to advance the stating relationchip. (however. If a girl asks to marry me. I would say no. Dunno why, just feel it.) There go my dwreams care to share :) Why do you have to be in Norway?? Hmm maybe if you were closer.... who knows. looks like i'm in sweden next year.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Tue 01/31/12 06:37 PM
Heartbroken twice dayum can't win tonight

rille89 Joined Thu 01/26/12 Posts: 75	Tue 01/31/12 06:46 PM
Heartbroken twice dayum can't win tonight ;) read the "what made you smile today" thread. I'm in my best day this week and it will only get better (i hope :) )

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Tue 01/31/12 06:51 PM
Heartbroken twice dayum can't win tonight ;) read the "what made you smile today" thread. I'm in my best day this week and it will only get better (i hope :) ) I have plenty to smile about today. Enjoying a nice rest of the day at the promenade. At my favorite cafe near the coast. Lifes good.

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Tue 01/31/12 07:44 PM
Nice to see ya! :) @ Urn77. If super girl went postal, maybe she couldn't afford her internet no more. @ RainbowTrout

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Tue 01/31/12 08:09 PM
I know you want a man's opinion, but I thought I would share. I recently had a man tell me basically what the previous poster wrote. Women should be sought after. He wanted to hunt her down, to woo her, to feel like he was the "man" and in control of the courtship. He said though he considers himself shy, he is "old-fashioned" in that sense. But I also know some men who love and want a woman to take control and have no problem with the woman doing the asking. THIS its about what each person seeks, I am attracted to 'take charge' type guys so I just wouldnt feel an initial spark with someone who needed me to initiate the contact and many men would likewise probably not feel an initial spark with a woman who didnt take charge,, its all about preference,, I prefer to be approached, its the first sign to me that a guy,, excuse the expression, 'has balls' same I see no problem with it for those who are comfortable with that style but it's not me - at least not for a first date - once we 've been dating I would definitely reciprocate! but before that point I agree with harmony - a man with that attitude or style would not be my type - my pref. is quiet confidence

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 01/31/12 08:14 PM
I like confident men, too. I just don't assume they don't have confidence if I happen to make the first move.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Tue 01/31/12 08:19 PM
I like confident men, too. I just don't assume they don't have confidence if I happen to make the first move. right. I getcha It prolly isn't something I am going to do for a variety of reasons, but I don't see anything wrong with it for those who wish to do so

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 01/31/12 08:22 PM
Everyone should just do what works best for them.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Tue 01/31/12 08:25 PM
Everyone should just do what works best for them. prolly true - I think sometimes it is fun to step outside of one's own comfort zone, but only by choice because they want to - not because they feel like they "should"

hpesohleahcim Joined Wed 01/18/12 Posts: 25	Tue 01/31/12 09:16 PM
For me, I wouldn't say it's a turn on or a turn off. If a woman were to ask me out, I would go with it. Maybe I didn't even know she liked me. Maybe, I wasn't sure if I was what she was looking for. It's nothing I would be intimidated by. It is a bit more forward than what I would be use to. But I would see what would happen and where it could go. There's no sense in wasting the opportunity of at least getting to know someone. It may be just what some of us need.

ajithvadakuzhiyil Joined Tue 01/31/12 Posts: 1	Tue 01/31/12 09:20 PM
You will never know true happiness until you have truly loved, and you will never understand what pain really is until you have lost it. .............

hpesohleahcim Joined Wed 01/18/12 Posts: 25	Tue 01/31/12 09:28 PM
You will never know true happiness until you have truly loved, and you will never understand what pain really is until you have lost it. ............. Though I don't disagree with you, You still haven't answered the question.