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Topic: Offline dating,first dates
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 11/07/11 08:03 AM
If you, the lady, ask a man out, you display masculine energy. Masculine energy is a good thing. Nothing wrong with that. If a man is too shy to ask a gal out, he displays feminine energy. Feminine energy is also a good thing, and if this energy is attractive to you, as a lady, you will never have him without making the first move. Its a very personal thing, this what-youre-looking-for-in-a-parter stuff. I don't ask men out because they're too shy. If they're too shy, I probably won't be interested in them anyway. But, if I'm getting to know someone and want to say "hey, let's go do ______ tomorrow!" I will do that, rather than waiting for him to ask me.

teadipper Joined Wed 10/19/11 Posts: 2732	Mon 11/07/11 08:04 AM
I do not reply to random nudges but if it's someone I know or someone who has written I do.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 11/07/11 08:06 AM
I do not reply to random nudges but if it's someone I know or someone who has written I do. I think that's completely different. I don't have a problem with those.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 11/07/11 08:18 AM Edited by navygirl on Mon 11/07/11 08:19 AM
This is 2011; not 1960. If you like a guy; invite him out to coffee as a friend. That way; there is no pressure on either of you. With equal rights and Feminism out there; there is nothing wrong with making the first move. Any intelligent man would find it flattering. If I had waited for men to ask me out; I would never ever have dated. People really need to get with the times.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 11/07/11 08:53 AM
If you, the lady, ask a man out, you display masculine energy. Masculine energy is a good thing. Nothing wrong with that. If a man is too shy to ask a gal out, he displays feminine energy. Feminine energy is also a good thing, and if this energy is attractive to you, as a lady, you will never have him without making the first move. Its a very personal thing, this what-youre-looking-for-in-a-parter stuff. I don't ask men out because they're too shy. If they're too shy, I probably won't be interested in them anyway. But, if I'm getting to know someone and want to say "hey, let's go do ______ tomorrow!" I will do that, rather than waiting for him to ask me. Yes, you've taken control, and are using masculine energy, which is fine, but thats what it is, imo. Is it masculine energy or just taking initiative?

Dexcky Joined Mon 11/07/11 Posts: 1	Mon 11/07/11 09:01 AM
Yes u wait or would take a date and check whether cool You should take the first incase i lost my love i am all alone in a lost world dont worry just happy do what ur mind tell u

Niceladyrealy Joined Sun 05/29/11 Posts: 279	Mon 11/07/11 09:42 AM
Im 39 and ive never asked a guy out. I always wait4them to ask me out. So i wonder what should a lady do when she planto make a first move?or is it besto wait4him to make a move first? And if he doesomething helpfull, isithat hes interested and available or maybe hes just a kind man helping people.hm iwonder what actions would really impress a guy and then you haveto figure out a way noto make him feel awkwrd,what ifyou ask him out and hes not intrstd,and not all guys wear their wedding rings. Start a conversation with him (email), if he participates in forums, read his posts, post to him, test the water......Nudge him....Once you have accomplished this much, learn to read between the lines. You'll know if he is interested....And be brave!...What's the worst that can happen?...Thanks, but no thanks....That's way better than a "What if" isn't it? Good luck! I think she was talking about a guy she met in person. I wondered, but it's still good advice for online, yes? So for offline, go for it babe, nothing to lose, everything to gain!! yes,mingle make it easy for us to date,here you know who is available for dating. Offline he could have a jelousteady girlfriend,i once was told noto lòok at a ladys boyfriend,and iwas merely looking athe tatoo hewas getting,iwas wondering howthey do it and if it hurts,and then the girl chased me away,and i was threatnd once by another woman,her partner was platonic friends with me,and i must look upthewordignity for if he says no..then again maybe its betr to live with rejctn than to wonder what if..and you aright we should expres our persönality for that is what will make a relationship work or not.i dont mind asking him out,its the maybe he have a jelous partner that makes me scared.so maybe iwill nevr have that great guy cuz im2scared.however thanx forthe great advice,its interesting to c how others view this.a today i got a job cuz iwasnt 2scared to ask..maybe nextime iwill get a boyfriend too!with some courage imight get brave and ask him out.they say comunication is only 45persent verbal.so itake it if hes body language isaying ask me out"i should.and if he wink and smile it means at least he noticed me.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 11/07/11 09:48 AM
If you, the lady, ask a man out, you display masculine energy. Masculine energy is a good thing. Nothing wrong with that. If a man is too shy to ask a gal out, he displays feminine energy. Feminine energy is also a good thing, and if this energy is attractive to you, as a lady, you will never have him without making the first move. Its a very personal thing, this what-youre-looking-for-in-a-parter stuff. I don't ask men out because they're too shy. If they're too shy, I probably won't be interested in them anyway. But, if I'm getting to know someone and want to say "hey, let's go do ______ tomorrow!" I will do that, rather than waiting for him to ask me. Yes, you've taken control, and are using masculine energy, which is fine, but thats what it is, imo. Is it masculine energy or just taking initiative? I tend to recognise masculine and feminine energy only when referring to relationships. If you mean 'taking the initiative' with a relationship, then its a masculine energy trait. Okay, I got you. I just never would have thought of making a decision whether it be relationship or otherwise would be considered using masculine energy. Interesting theory.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 11/07/11 10:25 AM
If you, the lady, ask a man out, you display masculine energy. Masculine energy is a good thing. Nothing wrong with that. If a man is too shy to ask a gal out, he displays feminine energy. Feminine energy is also a good thing, and if this energy is attractive to you, as a lady, you will never have him without making the first move. Its a very personal thing, this what-youre-looking-for-in-a-parter stuff. I don't ask men out because they're too shy. If they're too shy, I probably won't be interested in them anyway. But, if I'm getting to know someone and want to say "hey, let's go do ______ tomorrow!" I will do that, rather than waiting for him to ask me. Yes, you've taken control, and are using masculine energy, which is fine, but thats what it is, imo. Is it masculine energy or just taking initiative? Things have changed a lot from the past. So, I don't think it's masculine for a woman to take the initiative and ask a man out. Maybe it used to be, but not anymore.