if a guy tells me he is nice I will believe him unless he gives me substanstial reason not to

I usually think the opposite, because the guys who are actually nice never have to describe themselves as such. The guys who have lower self esteem and can be whiny are the ones who tell me they're nice. Not really nice guys after all.

I honestly don't think about it at all. My response is more a reflection of my overall attitude about people

I think most of us have times when we are nice and some when we are not - depending on a variety of circumstances - some lean more in one direction than others

sure there are a few extreme examples who are mostly nice or not nice - but most of us fall in the middle somewhere I think

My response is reflective of the attitude of the "nice guys" claiming to be nice, then whining about it. It's just been my experience.

I do agree that most of us can be nice at times. That isn't the "nice guy" I'm talking about, though.

if a guy tells me he is nice I will believe him unless he gives me substanstial reason not to

Most nice guys I've met don't brag about being a "nice guy."

They are what they are and they treat women with respect.

They don't expect a pat on the back for being a "nice guy" either.

I expect people to be decent human beings without the thought of getting some reward or pat on the back.

Doing the right thing comes natural to grown up adult men and women.

Its time for all adults to stop whining about their past and start working on themselves.

This includes woman and men.

I'm 62 and I still have a lot of work to do on me. (I'm almost perfect.)

I've been here long enough for all to know I am a total whore. But a nice one.

Lucky you, then! I've gotten a lot of emails from those so called "nice guys" who didn't turn out to be so nice.

You are attracting the wrong type of guy

Thank you captain obvious.

However, this is just on here. I don't meet "nice guys" in person. So, I do think it has more to do with just being online, as there are a ton of guys who whine about not getting the girl, all the while telling us how nice they are.

Who was talking about hiding?

I asked you a question because I didn't know what you meant.

When you meet people face to face there is no hiding. Behind a computer screen a person could be any personality they want. Fake photos/fake information etc etc

Well, sure. However, that doesn't mean people in person can't hid anything. Nor does it mean that people online are hiding things.

Some do and some don't ,got to sort out the men/women from the devious