Ladies please.I have been on this site and other sites to find the "ONE"and yet I have Failed.1 I have two kids who live with me.Even thou they are 14 and 12 and can take care of themselves and me.They can cook,clean brush thier own teeth,have 140 IQ's.I am independant and have been in karate most of my life,I'm 54 and very active,still go to school,I'm starting to volenteer at the Veterens hospital a few hours a week to do my part.I'm a former Marine,and yet I'm not good enough for you.This really pisses me off.My last girlfriend was 24.We broke up a couple of months ago.I put her thru her last year of college,Talked her into trying to go into the Air Force.Remodeled her house.For Free.Yet being a nice guy is like a sickness.What do you all want?Someone who will treat you as a queen or someone who will fool around on you and when you find out beats the hell out of you?????

I am sorry, who held a gun to your head forcing you to take in a 20 something child and pay for her schooling? Did you ever think that someone a tad bit closer to you in age just might be done with that stuff and just want to have an adult relationship with you and not your money?

Sounds like you are mad because you give and give, doormat style, hide it under the title of nice/good guy and expect loyalty, love and controll in return. Not gonna happen these days. Sorry to tell you.

First post in 2 years, welcome to mingle.

hey there,
I guess anyone can have the same problem, but basically it boils down to us picking the wrong person, wait be patient and find someone who loves you just how you are.
If it doesnt work out then it wasnt the right person, Keep smiling and move on.
Life is good and there are some wonderful people out there, both women and men, you just have to find the right person, it does happen

What about difference in maturity levels? Yeah i need talk, about that. I think given both your ages, there's a big difference in life experience. Considering she was 24, she still had a lot of life to explore. With you being 54, you've already experienced a lot and are ready to hang up your boots.

You don't sound very emotionally mature. Perhaps if you joined the forums and let women get to know you, you might have better success.

Assuming that the reasons you listed are reasons for women to come running isn't the way the real world works. They have to make up their own mind.

What does this have to do with fake profiles?

It sounds like you were being too nice and were taken advantage of. Being nice doesn't mean paying for everything for a woman.

aha the pig knows we have brains

sorry to hear of your luck. the same thing could happen with a woman closer to your age so don;t let all that prattering about poor choices get you down. she was a user. that is her cross to bear. no one owes us their love. the reason we are on here is because we are looking....and want to be looked for. no matter how much u love someone, they are under no obligation to love u back (but they should not use you). if someone I am attracted to is attracted to me too - great. I mean I like lots of men but being attracted is another matter entirely. were there no signs that this girl was a user before you had invested so much? to me, the emotional investment is the real story

true

do u think he was trying to "buy" her?

being pissed off certainly isn't going to bring her back...personally if I were him I would not want her back

I think it's wrong to assume that there was anything wrong with his good deeds - any hidden agenda - it sounds like he was taking responsibility for his loved ones - my feeling is the lady should not have accepted kindnesses unless she herself was genuine - (what my mama taught me - "don't take presents from a man because he will expect to ...well YOU KNOW"

and perhaps in the beginning she was genuine. it all just seems sad

I'm gonna go with 54. Not sure why he would put 33 as his age in his profile. He certainly looks much closer to 54.

at one point I had 76 on mine...processing error - either on here or another site

I STILL got hit on by 20-somethings

yes I agree - it is difficult to know the true motives of either

I am glad to see you here - cuz this whole thing got me to thinking...fellas this is what can happen once you "find your queen"

at least some percentage of the time

All those "fake" profiles sure do make you appreciate the "real" ones though!

now from a mans perspective.......

Sure, but I don't even see where the OP was talking about fake profiles other than in the subject line.

I am really tired of hearing guys like you whine, stating that they are nice guys, and especially hate the reference to being treated like a queen. I met two or three proclaimed "nice guys" and they were the most abusive.

My experience so far is this, the guys who shout the loudest about what "great" guys they are turn out to be the most devious and when rejected, the meanest and most dishonest! It's not "Hell has no fury like that of a woman scorned", it's "Hell has no fury like that of a man scorned." I filed this under LESSONS LEARNED THE HARD WAY!!!!!!

Yes me too. I have chronic pain in the back of my neck from a nice guy that hit me and almost broke my neck. Its not a lesson I will ever forget as I will have this pain until the day I die.

That, Navy, is a very hard way to learn...I am sorry you had to suffer physical abuse; I am sorry you still suffer...Emotional abuse is equally as bad...sometimes worse...