Humm I'm still for just blowing it off like it nothing happen if they dont want to talk about it must not be worth it

Thanks, they say the dress brings out my cute little mustache!

Wer Muden der Juden Atragen!

*ahem* sorry, turrets...yeeeeaaaah

Yeah, communication is key, but if it is just a one-sided guilt trip there is nothing to fix.

I like to think of it as moving from problem orientation to solution orientation.

The final solution.

Okay, thanks!

Silence, ah the quietness and loneliness, and what one thinks that ensues when someone is silent. If there is nothing to be guilty of then the silence can be a meaningful and delightful way of observing how one acts and responds to delicate situations. If someone seems to be giving me a silent treatment, I take the time to observe actions. Mostly by leaving the situation alone, a person can be silent because of reasons that don't include control of a situation but rather they don't know what they are feeling, or don't know how to express what is going on inside. A little time will tell one way or another and haste is not the answer when one needs time. In love, many emotions can follow a conversation that even perhaps brings up old wounds that one does not know one carries around. This can astound a person into silence and into reasoning with his or her own feelings before sharing with another. I hope this gives a new perspective to the matter.

Okay, so I decided not to be silent, I called and texted her until she talked, so now what?

What did she say????? Talk about what's bothering her and tell her you know something is and you want her to be honest about it!!!!!

what did you talk about???

she answers the phone....what, damn that caller ID, I said we need to talk, she said...about what, and then I was stuck?

"What's bothering you and I know something obviously is because you won't talk to me...So juast be honest so we can work it out!!!!!!"

Saying something along those lines might open your communication!!!

oh geeezzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!
about the need to communicate!!!! duh
how you want to work it out!!!
want to know what is bothering her or why she is upset!!!

493.7 years...give or take.

communication with a woman is so simple am surprised there was anyone who did not know it, just shut up and let her rant all she wants to.

Go figure...*sigh* this is why patience is a virtue.

Look, if you "want to talk about something", make sure you know what it is. Fact is, they get more words than us in a day, so they can talk circles around us.

Besides, you should never yell, getting emotionally involved in the argument makes you lose credibility. My advice is, at this point...write out what your issue is, and don't let her know that you wrote it out before hand. Then, while you are talking, take notes on what she says...that way you make sure you are listening. And not just to what she says, but to what she is saying by either omission or tone.

It's either that or apologize for blowing up at her

That,s way to complicated, I,m but a simple man!

LOL, then you should have taken the simple advice before, nyuck nyuck!

J/k man, we've all been there, or else we wouldn't have our own stories to share.

Why don't you do this then.

Step 1...buy her flowers.

Step 2...give her the flowers saying, "What I wanted to talk about is it seems something is bothering you, and I want to know if there is something I can do to help you out. You don't have to go it alone you know."

Step 3...She will talk...at length...and all you have to do is listen, nod your head, and give her a hug and a kiss when she's done.


3 steps, 20 bucks, and problem solved, promise.

that does,nt seem practical.

It seems to me that both of you don't seem to communicate very well!! If you are lost for words then you both are in trouble. She seems like she wants to bull when she is mad, you seem like you want to talk, but then when it comes down to it~~you don't know what to say!!
I know without communication you are going to have some problems.

Pepper, how did your conversation go after she said "about what?"

unsure, damn...you always go for throat!
massagetrade, when she asked about what, i was at a lost for words, because i don,t know whats up her but, so I decided to leave it alone, and if she don,t say something in the next 3 days, i,m ending it!

Pepper...I am not going for the throat!!! I am just telling you that you had your chance when she asked you what you wanted to talk about. You seem like a very open guy..why didn't you just say??
Oh by the way...nice picture...we finally get to see what you look way!!!