Does sex realy matters in a relationship

only as much as we let it

what I mean is that SEX as an activity is not a requirement, it is a desire

but there are many other desirable things in a relationship that, if fulfilled, can more than make up for a deficiency or even absence of sex

communication and connection are key, and people can find ways other than sex to fulfill both of those key elements,,,so Id say sex only matters as much as we make it

we tend to put all our eggs in the sexual basket, but if we spread those eggs (no pun around) around to different activities and interaction,,,sex does not seem nearly as significant to the health of the relationship


at least not for me,,,


not to confuse sex with TOUCH though, I think touch is very important

penetration,, is not,,,

Sex is great but in my opinion COMMUNICATION is the key to a successful relationship.

it's a big focus if you aren't getting enough or enough of what you want.....

I have a great relationship with my dog and we haven't had sex even once. The same thing goes for all of my relatives. But then I can relate with them. I have a lot of friends that I haven't had sex with. We seem to be getting along great. I think there could be many keys but I think that sex is just one of them. A lot of businesses used to have a thing called a master key. You could take that key and open up almost all the doors. I think for security reasons a lot of businesses did away with the master key. Then you would get this person who had this set of keys that he was so proud of. A lot of people would go to that person. Then they had this person who had a security clock. The keys would be along his route and he would turn the key in the clock he would carry. That way management could tell where and when that person was at any time. In the clock there was this graph paper that he would take out showing all the places that person had been and where. When that person got off work he would give the clock to the next person who would relieve that person on the next shift.

I think so.
Because.
If you are really in love, you get the
emotions that propel you into..lovemaking.

If you don't like someone, you are NOT
in the mood.
Like, ever.
Sex can recharge, reclaim, and reassure
a partner.
It is a venue to show love and affection.

It's really going to be different for different people. But yes, sex absolutely matters in a relationship.

Sex is not the glue that holds a relationship together, its more of a perk than anything else. I think it does draw two people who are close to one anothers hearts---closer together. But I dont think a relationship should die over not having enough.

If a person is complaining and only wanting that all the time and not considering the other activities in your life, than they are probably an addict or just using someone for sex.

Well you asked two questions here. One in the title "Is Sex the main key in a relationship" and the answer should be no. If it is, it's not much of a relationship.

Then in the OP you ask if sex really matters in a relationship. The answer should be yes it does. If you are communicating and connecting, sex is the icing on the cake and deepens the connection.

Just my two.

Sex a few times daily is great for cardiac, prostatic and
psychological health!

In a relationship, if sex is not happening enough, there are probably reasons for it. Someone getting sex enough is not going to be complaining about it. If they're not getting it as much as they'd like, both people should be looking to see why.

For Soulfie and Singme--

Is it a determining factor though whether or not a relationship can last? what if one say is injured an no longer able to perform...would that mean the relationship has to end because it matters?

Yeah, enough (sex) is a strong variable though who determines what enough is? Sometimes stress or hormonal change can cause one to slow down in their daily activities.

Everyone is different.
With infinite ideas of tolerance.
I don't see a necessary correlation
to ending a relationship though.
That would have meant the whole
story was about sex.
Rarely so, I would think.

whoops, i read your reply wrong so my post did not concure, my bad

Sex is crucial to a relationship. It certainly can make a relationship
go well or ruin the relationship if there is a severe enough sexual
incompatibility. Sex is one extremely important part of the equation.

I agree if two people are not sexually compatible it can make a relationship suffer especially if you are in the first year of your relationship...better to identify that issue right away. . Not like right away(if you know what I mean) but....

I think sexual attraction is important in a relationship for significant others. However every relationship is different. I wouldn't think it would matter so much in just a friendship relationship.

But I don't think any of us would be in our current relationships if we weren't attracted to our S.O

Sex is also part of the ultimate form of intimacy where you are no longer sharing words but sharing passion in closest most primal state.

Now I don't believe it is everything in a relationship its like a good portion. Like 1/8 or so where belief structure,interests,communication,emotion,past,present,and career all play roles in a relationship. The one thing that is the actual glue in a relationship isn't sex but communication.

The question was, does sex matter.
For those to whom it does, only
they would know to what extent.
I would like to think love would
rise to the occasion.

I would hope that if two people were JUST friends, SEX would not be a factor at all....thats rude