Men and women are complimentary to each other.
But still there are so many breaks up.
Why?
Lack of understanding , lack of love ,...........

Break ups happen as often as dates first get made...
Many reasons for two not working out,,,but to be real here,,
Its the KNOWING THAT CAN HAPPEN,,and taking THAT as the way they or you feel,,,and to be able to REMAIN friends after a break up,,,is a very good friendship to keep....Because most,,turn away?
AND THATS the sadness of loss,,,,not just because the friendship didn't work to be A LOVING ONE,,in Romance,,,but because the try at dating each other,,failed to the point that your friendships also parted through that...

why so many breakups? idk... i think its a multitude of things... lack of sincerity, honesty, understanding, communication, loyalty, etc... in some cases, all of the above. i think its sad. i love seeing these older couples, still holding hands at 90, been married 60-70 yrs type of thing, it restores my faith that it can be done!

lack of honesty,, with ourself, with our partner

lack of integrity to do 'right' by our partner,,,

what is hard for me is anyone who truly enters my heart, never really leaves,, even after its over,,,

If I...If We only knew!

it's too easy to do. people feel like they don;t need anyone - it's chic to be "indie"

so many on here - esp men IMO - have no sense of commitment nor do they value it - it's like a cuss word

people - not just men- seem to behave as tho something better is always around the next turn, but mostly I see this difference between my own 20 something sons and the guys on here in any age group - a total inability to commit that does not seem healthy

just observation from being here

and why I usually am not

Boredom and when the love just doesn't want to rekindle after a while. Lack of friendship is a big one I think. Especially if the sex was great but find that was really all there was to it. Where it might start off with compatibility but even that becomes hard to do. One can just fall out of love. It can get to the point where you don't even like the other person any more especially when you have to compete with others for that person's time. Where at first you might have felt you were at the top of their list you find out that you aren't even on the list any more. You can gradually grow apart from that person to the point that you can't seem to find anything you have in common with that person. It can seem that the person you felt that you could share anything in the world with you find that you could share with a perfect stranger easier than you could share with them. Instead of having discussions with them it comes to the only way you can communicate with that person is through arguments. It can even get where you want to prepare for the next argument because that becomes the relationship you have with that person. Where at times when the relationship was new intimacy was about sharing your all with that person but intimacy changes to information that changes to become good ammunition for the inevitable next fight. You get where you just want to shut down any communication with that person at all because it becomes like the Miranda where anything you say or do can be used against you. All is fair in love and war starts to take on a whole new meaning for you. Then one day it just evolves to the point that you are with a person you don't know at all. It can get where you feel you just woke up from a coma. You want to ask who are you and how did you get here.

Poor family values, seems life is more about "ME" than others & responsibilitys.

I agree and disagree. Family values have nothing to do with it...but the 'ME' thing holds true enough.

It also backfires when all you do is put everyone before you and you get neglected which will also lead to break ups. Fact is you have to put yourself first because if you don't people take advantage of you and walk all over you. When you are in a jam or have problems; you find very quickly that the person that says they love you won't be there when you need them and will bail. I found that out the hard way.

It is just Karma.

What will be will be. What will not be, will not be. We can only do our very best and hope Karma smiles on us all.

How true......Would add this, most of us are here to find that special person.....In order to do that, we may have to wade through a few (several?) wrong choices....I think we should give each other the benefit of the doubt and accept that "all is fair in love and war"....Sometimes it takes a little time and communication to realize that you have made a wrong choice...Put wounded egos to bed when you are "cyber" searching..

Adult site, be adult!

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Same here...in my heart forever

I believe it's alot of what others have already spoken of. Krupa said Karma...I like to think of it as Fate...how your life plays out. People just can't seem to be happy with what they have nowadays. They seem to think the grass is greener on the other side. Trust me ...it's not! Everything is a yin/yang....a balance...If you give up, it may take you longer to get. I say stick it out until you have given it your last breath. Try everything under the sun until you are so waisted that your brain becomes blank. I'm not a quitter. And when I get to the end of my road, I want to look back and know that I did the absolute best of everything in my power to make it work.