I am not skinny either and I know how hard it is to feel pretty when everything around you says otherwise. But in the end its all on you. You have to wake up one day and say phuck them. I am hot! cuz chances are if you dont believe it, no one will.

I'm not saying that every man has accepted me for who I am and that weight doesn't matter. I'm just saying that there are men out there who aren't so picky about weight.

hah. There was even someone today who got mad when I said I wasn't giving him my phone number when he asked immediately. He told me I was fat and ugly and I should just be happy that he said hello. So yeah, there are those guys out there, but I've found that a lot more men these days aren't into the super skinny girls as much.

Again; I wish I could believe that but guys my age want the real skinny girls here. Mind you; I am just going from my personal experience living here for the last 15 years. My best friend always tells me that I look good and fit but he is the only one and I think he says that just to make me feel better; however it works. He does know how to cheer me up when I am down. I am glad to hear though that you and the other ladies on this site have felt attractive. Me, I have never felt attractive. I have felt smart, confident, and fearless especially when a gun was pointed at me; but never felt attractive. Guess we all have our weakness.

I guess being attractive to me means a lot more then a skinny body. The way you walk, the way you move, the way you speak, look, smile, touch. All those things play a big if not the biggest part on my perception of attractiveness. Those things are what I value most in my mate. Feeling smart, confident and fearless probably made you very attractive in the eyes of someone.

I think 'fit' is attractive, as a rule

more so than overly voluptuous or overly bony/skinny

this woman, to me, is gorgeous and she is not SKINNY At all,, she is healthy and fit

and this one

Hmm, I never thought of those traits of mine would make me attractive to others. You certainly have given me something to think about. I always thought those things just scared men away as has been my experience.

and this one

and this one

Yeah, I would tend to agree that fit should be attractive but I never got to feel that way from the guys that I have dated.

Well I think you are a beautiful woman! Men who thought diferent = losers.

Thanks, its nice to hear from people that understand what I am going through. I appreciate the thought.

Thanks, to all ya'll. Even KC.

I agree. If, I like/love who I am, no amount of what others think of me, will have an effect.

Sometimes, it helps to be acknowledged as "perfect just as I am".

I read this thing today and didn't get analytical(sp).

I went with how it made me feel and passed it on hoping, if there was some woman out there who hasn't been validated in a long long while and it touched their soul, then, great.

It did it's job.

how does this honor all women?
o.O
seems to me like the story,
not the op,
puts down 'mermaids.'
i don't get the threads on sizes and shapes and colors or whatnot.
why bring any attention to it at all if it doesn't matter?
meh.
i don't get it.

I could say a lot about being heavy, because I am myself. No one could know what it feels like unless you have been there. I like the post. Not everyone is strong, but whenever you can support in a positive way I think that's great.

coming from a skinny chick (been one all my life. I take after my dad) the grass isn't greener on the other side.

My sister is heavy and has always fought against that. I've always been skinny and wished I was built more like her. We both had problems. We both ended up with eating disorders for various reasons. We had to learn the hard way that we are who we are. When this confidence came, it made it easier for us.

And trust me....I've heard as many skinny jokes (if not more) than my sister heard fat jokes.

I still get skinny jokes

she is beautiful

and tho thinner I am def jealous


hmmmmmmmmmmmm?

What I don't get is why is there so much negativity toward something that was meant to encourage others that might need encouragement in this area. It does matter, that's why bring attention to it. There are women out there who don't like themselves for various reasons.

And it wasn't to honor all women, because all women are not heavy. It was to encourage heavyset women not to feel bad about their appearance.

yes - surprised tho I am..I found the same

fast machine - motor clean

knockin me out with those american thighs

ahhhhh...I need to get my arse back on the music threads