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Six years ago, I was back on the singles scene following the break up of a long term relationship. Although I have had relationships since then, I’m still single and I sometimes wonder what if I’m still single in my (insert number here). Knowing me as well as I do, I don’t think it would bother me too much but I don’t know… would I get lonely and I settle? Or would I keep looking for that special someone? Do you have a cut off age? Or will you keep searching? I gave up at age 50. I think 50 (or there abouts) is my secret cut off age. If I haven't found anyone by then, I’ll call off ‘the search' or the hunt (as I like to affectionately call it  ), and reinvest my time in other areas.
I guess great minds think alike. I have been reinvesting my time in my pursuit of education and hobbies. Honestly; I don't miss the dating scene and I at this point of my life I am set in my ways with no desire to change my living arrangments or my life to accomodate anyone. 
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Nobody should give up at a chance to be happy. I see some wonderful people fall in love and there is no age barrier. I know of a dating 89 year old couple. Love is remarkable. If you have a chance for it, take it.
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I've already given up on dating. If it happens it happens. Can I ask what made you give up? |
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Edited by
42BlackBBW
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Tue 10/11/11 10:48 AM
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I guess great minds think alike. I have been reinvesting my time in my pursuit of education and hobbies. Honestly; I don't miss the dating scene and I at this point of my life I am set in my ways with no desire to change my living arrangments or my life to accomodate anyone.
It certainly looking that way...maybe you have a bit of scorpion in you .
Like you, I am beginning to get a little set in my ways and I’m not sure if I want to change. The other thing that’s prompting a cut off date is that I am looking for a specific type of relationship that wouldn’t appeal to the masses. The guy that I’m looking for would know from the outset that I have no intention of living under the same roof as him. He would know that I have no interest in getting married and that I would only want to spend weekends with him not weekdays. He would also know that I would end the relationship than spend time worrying about whether he’s keeping it in his pants. Needle, meet haystack..
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Nobody should give up at a chance to be happy. I see some wonderful people fall in love and there is no age barrier. I know of a dating 89 year old couple. Love is remarkable. If you have a chance for it, take it.
I agree Pyxx. I don't think it's about "giving up" on happiness. It's about giving up actively looking for someone. ps: I would be worried if I relied on being in a relationship to be happy. |
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Nobody should give up at a chance to be happy. I see some wonderful people fall in love and there is no age barrier. I know of a dating 89 year old couple. Love is remarkable. If you have a chance for it, take it.
I am not giving up at a chance to be happy; just dating. One surely can be happy without being in a relationship. There are many things that make me happy on a daily basis. As for love; I love my family and friends which also make me happy. I don't know why people think you need to fall in love to be happy. Look at the sky rocketing divorce rates to see just how well relationships/marriage/love is working. |
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Nobody should give up at a chance to be happy. I see some wonderful people fall in love and there is no age barrier. I know of a dating 89 year old couple. Love is remarkable. If you have a chance for it, take it.
I agree Pyxx. I don't think it's about "giving up" on happiness. It's about giving up actively looking for someone. ps: I would be worried if I relied on being in a relationship to be happy. Damn I should have read your PS before replying as I said the same thing.
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Edited by
navygirl
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Tue 10/11/11 02:42 PM
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I guess great minds think alike. I have been reinvesting my time in my pursuit of education and hobbies. Honestly; I don't miss the dating scene and I at this point of my life I am set in my ways with no desire to change my living arrangments or my life to accomodate anyone.
It certainly looking that way...maybe you have a bit of scorpion in you
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Like you, I am beginning to get a little set in my ways and I’m not sure if I want to change. The other thing that’s prompting a cut off date is that I am looking for a specific type of relationship that wouldn’t appeal to the masses. The guy that I’m looking for would know from the outset that I have no intention of living under the same roof as him. He would know that I have no interest in getting married and that I would only want to spend weekends with him not weekdays. He would also know that I would end the relationship than spend time worrying about whether he’s keeping it in his pants. Needle, meet haystack.. You have a very unique way of looking at a relationship. I really like how you think. Scorpion? Do you mean as in the Scorpio sign, or just a scorpion nature? 
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I guess great minds think alike. I have been reinvesting my time in my pursuit of education and hobbies. Honestly; I don't miss the dating scene and I at this point of my life I am set in my ways with no desire to change my living arrangments or my life to accomodate anyone.
It certainly looking that way...maybe you have a bit of scorpion in you .
Like you, I am beginning to get a little set in my ways and I’m not sure if I want to change. The other thing that’s prompting a cut off date is that I am looking for a specific type of relationship that wouldn’t appeal to the masses. The guy that I’m looking for would know from the outset that I have no intention of living under the same roof as him. He would know that I have no interest in getting married and that I would only want to spend weekends with him not weekdays. He would also know that I would end the relationship than spend time worrying about whether he’s keeping it in his pants. Needle, meet haystack.. You have a very unique way of looking at a relationship. I really like how you think. Scorpion? Do you mean as in the Scorpio sign, or just a scorpion nature? The Sign..I may revise that once I get to know ya
Having read some of your posts, I'm definitely starting to recognise a kindred spirit. "unique" probably explains why I'm still single 
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Edited by
navygirl
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Tue 10/11/11 03:04 PM
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You have a very unique way of looking at a relationship. I really like how you think.
Scorpion? Do you mean as in the Scorpio sign, or just a scorpion nature? The Sign..I may revise that once I get to know ya
Having read some of your posts, I'm definitely starting to recognise a kindred spirit. "unique" probably explains why I'm still single
I am actually a LEO but probably have some Scorpio traits. Yep, I too am unique and single; but its because I speak my mind. I hate the mind games and the BS that goes on with dating and relationships. I don't like being put down or treated like I am some weak little girl. Its insulting to me as a person and I let the guys know that. Fact is if I can't be accepted for who I am; then the hell with it. Life is too short for these silly games that people play. I won't put up with the crap out there. |
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People will get away with only what you allow. Be yourself, have fun, and if you find that person then great but at the very least go through your life being happy and making the most of what you want it to be.
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People will get away with only what you allow. Be yourself, have fun, and if you find that person then great but at the very least go through your life being happy and making the most of what you want it to be.
Exactly; I am going through life being happy as a single woman. |
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Six years ago, I was back on the singles scene following the break up of a long term relationship. Although I have had relationships since then, I’m still single and I sometimes wonder what if I’m still single in my (insert number here). Knowing me as well as I do, I don’t think it would bother me too much but I don’t know… would I get lonely and I settle? Or would I keep looking for that special someone? Do you have a cut off age? Or will you keep searching? I gave up at age 50. I think 50 (or there abouts) is my secret cut off age. If I haven't found anyone by then, I’ll call off ‘the search' or the hunt (as I like to affectionately call it ), and reinvest my time in other areas.
Why not invest your time in other areas while also dating? Can't you do both at the same time? |
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Shshsh as far as looking I gave up long time ago.....But I did not close my mind to finding someone if it was to happen.
Been over a year since I had met someone and ended up meeting someone just out of the blue lately.... It does not hurt to stop looking and take time to look within and do things you want to do yourself. Just one should not close their mind or heart to what could be..
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Why not invest your time in other areas while also dating? Can't you do both at the same time? I could..I‘m just don’t want to. If I happen to meet someone as I’m getting on with my day to day life, then great. If not, c’est la via. I just want to be able to fully enjoy my life without actively seeking a relationship via membership(s) on websites etc. |
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I am actually a LEO but probably have some Scorpio traits. Yep, I too am unique and single; but its because I speak my mind. I hate the mind games and the BS that goes on with dating and relationships. I don't like being put down or treated like I am some weak little girl. Its insulting to me as a person and I let the guys know that. Fact is if I can't be accepted for who I am; then the hell with it. Life is too short for these silly games that people play. I won't put up with the crap out there. This is starting to get scary...great minds and all that. You’ve expressed exactly how I feel about the dating game. I’m not bitter and twisted and I don’t think all men are dogs etc. I’m just tired of the...make me some coffee. No, I want it black. You’ve made it too hot. Now it’s too cold. Did you forget the sugar? No, that’s too much.. I can’t drink it...Make me some coffee |
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It does not hurt to stop looking and take time to look within and do things you want to do yourself. Just one should not close their mind or heart to what could be..
Another great mind
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I am actually a LEO but probably have some Scorpio traits. Yep, I too am unique and single; but its because I speak my mind. I hate the mind games and the BS that goes on with dating and relationships. I don't like being put down or treated like I am some weak little girl. Its insulting to me as a person and I let the guys know that. Fact is if I can't be accepted for who I am; then the hell with it. Life is too short for these silly games that people play. I won't put up with the crap out there. This is starting to get scary...great minds and all that. You’ve expressed exactly how I feel about the dating game. I’m not bitter and twisted and I don’t think all men are dogs etc. I’m just tired of the...make me some coffee. No, I want it black. You’ve made it too hot. Now it’s too cold. Did you forget the sugar? No, that’s too much.. I can’t drink it...Make me some coffee Yep, that is how I feel to. I have no bitterness with men and hold no grudges. I am friends with all my ex-boyfriends; even the one that hit me. I can't stand the demanding type that you mentioned in your last reply. At that point; they would be wearing the coffee.
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