Thanks for reading and writing your comments

Am a female 26 yrs am looking for soul mate to spend my life. Am emotionally attracted towards female and am not sure if am lesbian or not. I once had sex with guy but I did not enjoy. I don’t know whom should I select as partner or should I be open in selecting a partner? I don’t want to get married to person who is not emotionally connected. If I get my soul mate after my marriage. What will happen for marriage? i don't want to hurt the person also so to avoid this how long can i wait for soul mate?

any idea?

Have sex with more guys! Some of us care a little more!

First of all you could be Bisexual or fully Lesbian but the fact you asked this means you yourself are not certain. Most men have no idea how to do anything but gratify ourselves. You only had sex once. He was a terrible lover. it is clear to me he was a "Pump and Jump" type. Spreading it around is not really a good choice but some people find fulfillment that way. You need to find a lover that is responsive to you, knows that hands are for more ethan just holding things, sex is an art, and after the first pass has more hang time than Mike Jordan has slam dunks! If you are lucky you might land a guy who has the gift of 'second wind' which means WE CAN GET RIGHT BACK TO WORK AFTER HAVING GOTTEN OUR ROCKS OFF WITHOUT HAVING TO DISMOUNT! Most men do not have that skill!

But like anything in life there are trade offs. I am great in bed, bad with relationships. The longest a relationship went for me was three years and I am still friends with that one but most of my past relationships ended VERY badly. Either I choose to involve myself with the wrong people or maybe life itself hates me. Don't know, don't care any more. My complaint is that most women have no clue what to do in bed or are so inhuibited adn fear motivated that the wole experience for me is trashed somehow by them and I have to make the best of it.

You are starting to walk on ground no one ever prepared you for and the truth is never offered freely. Don't let one bad experience ruin it for you. There is a certain amount of exploration involved in finding at least sexual satisfaction. You don't need a relationship to have sex. People say you do but the fact is YOU DON'T! Some women like to get theirs from where ever just like men do!

Don't convince yourself you are a lesbian when you are not sure. They are the most miserable brand of person out there becasue they become man hating man bashers. If you are Bi though and you get involved with a man better make sure he is good with you hjaving a lover and also if I was in that position if she can share you you can share her with me too. I am not about hypocrisy or double standards. Why should you have twice the fun and the guy not? It isn't cheating when everyone is concenting! It is cheating if you expect to have your caker and not share it with teh person you demanded loyalty from.

Wow very well sad andybgood!.. It sinked in to my mind. That helps me too. :)

Glad to be of some help!

Wow. Andy, that drifted to interesting places; all good stuff, though!

Miss LoveBoatExpress,
I can't add to what Andy said, but would like to back up a bit and cast doubt on some assumptions which I infer you made from your original post.

It appears that you must get married soon, and worry that the person you marry may not be your "soul mate", and may not even be the correct gender, as you are unsure of your orientation.

I'd like to suggest that you do not need to figure all this out anytime soon, and you certainly shouldn't be selecting a mate in a hurried fashion. I also wouldn't worry about finding your soul mate. The whole idea of finding someone to complete you, well... it's nicely romantic but my personal life philosophy is to be happy by myself, and to refrain from rooting my self esteem in the approval of others, if I can help it.

So my advice is to kick back, love yourself, invest in yourself, stay social, do good work, and be your own party.

"Wherever you go, well there you are."

I am very thankful for your suggestion Mr. Lowered.

I was once very ease with myself by thinking about relationship and Ever loved guy in my life but I had crash with teacher when was 13 I wrote her name in my hand but when I school I didn't have same feeling for her.

Is that love require a constant touch..

Am losing interested when person is not with me..
Even in my college I had crash with once of best friend but now I don't feel the same way.

They live only in my memory.

This attraction towards female has increased rapidly and now am watching lesbian movie which makes me like I should get one for me in life.

the way they fall in love with each other it is just amazing.

is sex all you want?

Am seeking for soul mate here and not quite sure if am lesbian or not. but still i enjoy being with male company only friendly manner and I feel am more attracted to female like crush. I want my partner to be my soul mate.

In India marriage is essential at one point of time with guy. But I feel is company all you need at the end and I looking for partner for my life before getting married to someone

Breaking up a marriage is really difficult and I don’t want hurt. Problem is if I find my soul mate after marriage.

My question is should I wait until I get my soul mate?

I had neighbors who were from India.
They had 2 kids from their arranged marriage.
Every single night, in frustration, the wife
would slam out the front door yelling
'I'm leaving!'
About an hour later, the door would slam
with her return.
She told me she hated the husband, loved the
kids and totally resented the 'arranged'
marriage in which she was stuck.
Apparently, it worsened in California when
it had been okay in India.

I miss the waft of curry in the evenings.

Oh Miss LoveBoatExpress!
Forgive me for not realizing that you were in India! I was in Chennai just last February, by the way!

My advice was tailored for the American culture! We North Americans have a very very limited support structure around us and many times have to rely on ourselves or our spouses for almost everything, and this can create enormous pressures. We also have very little family or community involvement in what happens inside the home, and so there is little outside influence over a spouse who is lazy, cheating, abusive, etc.

North Americans may also be under less pressure to marry or have kids. So please forgive me if my advice was misplaced. Your situation can be very different than what I imagine.

Pleaseeeeee be a lesbian ;]

you need to wait but can you stand it?

be sincere are you a lesbian?

Do you even have any clue what you really want in life?

Yes, I'm a gold star lesbian

I love to be lesbian
i really feel good when watching these movie I can't think straight, Elena undone, Loving Annabella , Pepa y silvia ( Paco man TV serial)
and some time feel that am lesbian and finding true partner real difficult and Even if like person i cann't stay with her. the relationship is totally abondon here. naming the relations is also quite difficult here. till my parent are alive i cann't go into that relationship. if i go with here they will separte me from whole family.in that way my half of life will go.
bcoz Indian culture does not encourage for same sex marriage like western culture.

all i want to have relationship .To live everyday, to share everything, do whatever we like and finally grow old and die.

Sure thx

so, do you truly believe that death is the end of your existence?