Topic: This Is Confusing
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Mon 09/26/11 01:58 PM


It is for me.

Lots and lots of goatified subtext there.



meh.
i think it's fine to end up alone.
just get a dog.


I'm pretty much resigned to ending up alone, anyway. And I'm OK with that, because I'm not going to settle for yet another domesticatrix trying to run my life.

Still, though, there's a part of me that wonders what it would be like to find someone who would accept me as I am. Isn't that what separates man from the animals -- our ability to imagine the impossible?

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Mon 09/26/11 02:09 PM



It is for me.

Lots and lots of goatified subtext there.



meh.
i think it's fine to end up alone.
just get a dog.


I'm pretty much resigned to ending up alone, anyway. And I'm OK with that, because I'm not going to settle for yet another domesticatrix trying to run my life.

Still, though, there's a part of me that wonders what it would be like to find someone who would accept me as I am. Isn't that what separates man from the animals -- our ability to imagine the impossible?



Yep, I am pretty much in the same boat. If a guy can't accept me for who I am; then the hell with it. I would rather be alone and be the person I was meant to be; rather than pretend I am something I am not just for companionship. I have too much self respect for myself.

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Mon 09/26/11 02:12 PM

I would think a lot of younger guys are looking for a mommy; so this is why they contact me. So tell the girls you want to be their sugar daddy or just their daddy. laugh


I figured the nerdy, bookish, librarian types would be totally drawn to an author. Wow, was I way off on that one....


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Mon 09/26/11 05:59 PM




It is for me.

Lots and lots of goatified subtext there.



meh.
i think it's fine to end up alone.
just get a dog.


I'm pretty much resigned to ending up alone, anyway. And I'm OK with that, because I'm not going to settle for yet another domesticatrix trying to run my life.

Still, though, there's a part of me that wonders what it would be like to find someone who would accept me as I am. Isn't that what separates man from the animals -- our ability to imagine the impossible?



Yep, I am pretty much in the same boat. If a guy can't accept me for who I am; then the hell with it. I would rather be alone and be the person I was meant to be; rather than pretend I am something I am not just for companionship. I have too much self respect for myself.


The thing that puzzles me is that they ALWAYS start out acting like they're perfectly in line with my agenda. And I, being a naive and gullible idiot, always figure "Maybe this one is different, let's try it and see what happens!"

And three months later, she suddenly decides "I NEED A BAY-BEE!!"

"Accept me as I am" -- that's the key. Apparently, there isn't anybody who can do that for me.

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Mon 09/26/11 06:26 PM
lol.......
laugh rofl

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Mon 09/26/11 07:39 PM
Edited by sweetestgirl11 on Mon 09/26/11 07:39 PM




rofl

I have no idea why you’re not getting any mail from the 30s age group. You’re a good catch.


I get plenty of mail from the 30s age group. That's not what I'm talking about!

shades

By younger you mean 20s?


Well, technically, by younger I mean "without kids," which is confusing because "without kids" is not really a number.

But in my extensive studies of this issue, I have found that there is a sort of cutoff point, an age by which it seems every woman on every dating site already has kids (usually at least three of them, followed by the mandatory "AND THEY ARE MY WORLD," followed by all the terrible things she hopes will happen to you if you're not into her and her kids as the inevitable "package deal").

Unfortunately, that age seems to be about 16, which is not very helpful for most of us.

Alternatively, I can still hang onto the slim hope that there could be someone out there, of legal age, who has not yet had kids, for whatever reason (she's a nun, the lower half of her body was eaten by a shark, she was abducted by aliens and sterilized, etc.), but I think this is will only be possible to find in a younger person.



also unlikely as a younger person she will want to find a man to have kids with, probably wants the little nose blowers by next week - ur outta luck and oopsssss gotta go I see my archangel on a cloud....everything looks white and the light...the lighttongue2

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Mon 09/26/11 07:41 PM

laugh
True!

As for a comment on the topic.....I find I only attract under 20 and 50 plus now....I would really like someone in my age range LOL



I was also finding that too


so I adjusted my settings to prevent either extreme

I guess I should RE adjust them to include anyone still breathing...

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Mon 09/26/11 07:58 PM

also unlikely as a younger person she will want to find a man to have kids with, probably wants the little nose blowers by next week - ur outta luck and oopsssss gotta go I see my archangel on a cloud....everything looks white and the light...the lighttongue2


And yet YouTube is full of 20-something women who have made an infinite number of six-minute videos about how much they despise the idea of ever having kids.

Where are these people in real life?

Maybe these videos are hoaxes? Because it's pretty clear that there are no women out there who are capable of imagining a life without reproduction. It's just what people do, it's what we're all "supposed to do," you know....

shades


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Mon 09/26/11 08:05 PM


also unlikely as a younger person she will want to find a man to have kids with, probably wants the little nose blowers by next week - ur outta luck and oopsssss gotta go I see my archangel on a cloud....everything looks white and the light...the lighttongue2


And yet YouTube is full of 20-something women who have made an infinite number of six-minute videos about how much they despise the idea of ever having kids.

Where are these people in real life?

Maybe these videos are hoaxes? Because it's pretty clear that there are no women out there who are capable of imagining a life without reproduction. It's just what people do, it's what we're all "supposed to do," you know....

shades




and some cannot have kids

and some choose not

there are all kinds of people in the world - I would not choose a man based on his parental status - if I loved him it would not matter- I would want him - not his ability to procreate - not his desire to remain childless (whichever)

personally I love the little fryers
as long as they belong to someone elselaugh

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Mon 09/26/11 08:10 PM

and some cannot have kids


I've heard of this, but I've never been fortunate enough to meet one.


and some choose not


Again, I've heard of this. I've met one. Ever.


there are all kinds of people in the world - I would not choose a man based on his parental status - if I loved him it would not matter- I would want him - not his ability to procreate - not his desire to remain childless (whichever)


But I've dated enough women who had kids to know that it simply doesn't work for me.


personally I love the little fryers
as long as they belong to someone elselaugh


I don't really have any use for them until they're old enough to do laundry.

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Mon 09/26/11 08:22 PM
you have to go topless first and post incessantly in the intimacy
forum saying you will do anybody of the desired sexual orientation
above you and below you and that goes double for three-ways.

and for god's sake stay away from the religion, politics and cougar threads

laugh

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Mon 09/26/11 08:26 PM
Well I get a lot younger emailing me....but then again I am an old fart or so I have been told. Maybe we should switch the emails and I need the 'grandma' ones....grumble

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Mon 09/26/11 08:29 PM

you have to go topless first and post incessantly in the intimacy
forum saying you will do anybody of the desired sexual orientation
above you and below you and that goes double for three-ways.

and for god's sake stay away from the religion, politics and cougar threads

laugh


As unprincipled and unscrupulous as authors are, there are still several things that most of us won't do (I'm excluding Hemingway here because THAT guy would do ANYTHING):

1.) No topless pics

2.) No "holding-up-a-fish" pics

3.) No participation in the ubiquitous "Would You Have Sex In A Hot Tub With The Person Above You While Seven Midgets Throw Baked Lasagna On A Llama In An Adjacent Hot Tub While The Surviving Members Of The Bee Gees Sing 'Stayin' Alive' To A Hot Dog Vendor On 7th Avenue?" threads.

I, personally, prefer to stay out of the Politics forum, the Religion forums, the Parenting forum, and the Cooking forum. And the only cougars I'm interested in are the Chicago Cougars of the old WHA.

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Mon 09/26/11 08:35 PM
rofl Y'all are cracking this g'ma up!!laugh

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Mon 09/26/11 08:35 PM
Sometimes there is no 'why'. **shrugs**

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Mon 09/26/11 08:38 PM

Well I get a lot younger emailing me....but then again I am an old fart or so I have been told. Maybe we should switch the emails and I need the 'grandma' ones....grumble


Works for me!


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Mon 09/26/11 08:52 PM

OK, so I have seen literally (and figuratively) hundreds of posts in these forums where someone makes mention of the fact that they are constantly being contacted by much younger people here.

I find this puzzling, because -- as always seems to be the case with the sheer egregious perversity of the internet -- this never ever ever happens to me.

I get a lot of profile views, but a large percentage of these are inevitably from people who are old enough to be my grandmother's older neighbor. I never actually hear from them. Most likely, they died while attempting to read my profile.

The ones who do message me are slightly younger than the previous group, but still old enough to remember when there were only 36 states.

I do get a disproportionate number of e-mails from 22-year-olds, but these are always scammers. Those don't count.

So, what I'm wondering is this -- how does one go about being contacted by someone so "much younger" here? I'd really like to know....!

shades








i can just randomly stalk you if that makes you feel better?!

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Mon 09/26/11 09:25 PM


I'm pretty much resigned to ending up alone, anyway. And I'm OK with that, because I'm not going to settle for yet another domesticatrix trying to run my life.

Still, though, there's a part of me that wonders what it would be like to find someone who would accept me as I am. Isn't that what separates man from the animals -- our ability to imagine the impossible?



there are tons of what ifs,
but that's why imaginations are great.
just go wild.
p.s;
humans are animals.

navygirl's photo
Mon 09/26/11 10:01 PM





It is for me.

Lots and lots of goatified subtext there.



meh.
i think it's fine to end up alone.
just get a dog.


I'm pretty much resigned to ending up alone, anyway. And I'm OK with that, because I'm not going to settle for yet another domesticatrix trying to run my life.

Still, though, there's a part of me that wonders what it would be like to find someone who would accept me as I am. Isn't that what separates man from the animals -- our ability to imagine the impossible?



Yep, I am pretty much in the same boat. If a guy can't accept me for who I am; then the hell with it. I would rather be alone and be the person I was meant to be; rather than pretend I am something I am not just for companionship. I have too much self respect for myself.


The thing that puzzles me is that they ALWAYS start out acting like they're perfectly in line with my agenda. And I, being a naive and gullible idiot, always figure "Maybe this one is different, let's try it and see what happens!"

And three months later, she suddenly decides "I NEED A BAY-BEE!!"

"Accept me as I am" -- that's the key. Apparently, there isn't anybody who can do that for me.



Hey, I agree with you. I don't know why everyone seems to think they need to change you. If you can't accept me for who am, then go find someone else. I certainly won't shed any tears over that.

Every guy I meet wants to have a child but I have no desire to be a mommy. I like my freedom to come and go as I please as well I like being able to afford to go out or have a vacation. Kids cost too much money and too much of my time. I don't have pets for pretty much the same reason. They eat, sleep, and poop. When I can find a dog or cat that can do house work; then I will get one. Other than that; I have enough work to do without taking care of pets or kids.

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Tue 09/27/11 05:26 AM



I'm pretty much resigned to ending up alone, anyway. And I'm OK with that, because I'm not going to settle for yet another domesticatrix trying to run my life.

Still, though, there's a part of me that wonders what it would be like to find someone who would accept me as I am. Isn't that what separates man from the animals -- our ability to imagine the impossible?



there are tons of what ifs,
but that's why imaginations are great.
just go wild.
p.s;
humans are animals.


Agreed, but why is it that I seem to be the only one who isn't a slave to the basest of biologies?

I understand there's a built-in reproductive drive (in other people -- I certainly don't have it) -- but we, as humans, should have reached the point where we have the ability to see beyond simple animal instinct. We shouldn't be defined by our reproduction, by some need to be an adjunct to another person -- otherwise, we might as well be tree shrews.