This thread reminds me of a line from a song...Kenny Rogers I think..."You've got to know when to hold em and know when to fold em"....

Very true.......

love does not have to be conditional - I think it just is - if it is it is

what is conditional is what we let happen - whether a relationship can function is what is conditional

Thank you, if it's love then it's love. Some people do mistaken some other kind of emotional feelings for love, too bad

Yes, that has been my experience that there is always a condition especially in a relationship. We say we compromise but there is always a condition attached to the compromise.

Relationship is what we make of it and the success is highly dependent on who we're in relationship with.

It doesn't matter what we make of it; there is always compromise in a relationship as that is the only way it will ever work. Where I have the problem is when there is a condition attached to the compromise. I don't think there should be as if we just agreed to compromise that should have settled it.

he truth is we can fall in love with anybody that we like and spend time with and are intimit with.

when you enter a relationship the idear is to try to get along together. both wantin support and companionship and sex and happyness as a partnewrship.

that takes time and on the way you'll struggle like mad to stay together, fighting about all sorts of stupid and serious disslikes of eachothers personality.

if you both want and work at resolveing these issues and lern from eachother with a keen willingness to better yourself for the benifit of your partner.

then you will get a long lasting relationship.

if instead you scream and throw stuff because he/she left the toilet seat up/down, or if you lern that the one thing you want them to change, they just cant/wont.

then move on even tho its hard, because the truth is you'll be in the same situation with somone new before too long.

no, 1 way love doesnt work. how could it. if she leaves you... move on. it only stops hurting when your waist deep in a new partner. everyone needs to feel wanted on some level.

I agree with everything you wrote. This is exactly why I know I shouldn't be in a relationship as I get tired of fighting over the little things; tired of being controled, and tired of the expectations that is required of me. I just want to be who I am and not pretend to be a certain way just because a lover wants me to be that way.