Hi again! Hehe Ive posted a few threads now but I was just wondering about a question thats been on my mind lately.
Am I ready for the dating world and how can I prepare myself?

Im a young guy(21), whos just gotten into the dating world and is now looking for a guy to have a relationship with.
Ive never been with anyone before, havent even kissed a guy. A few friends have expressed that their worried for me as I tend to automaticaly think most people are nice guys.
But I want to finally get some courage going and start trying to meet a nice frendly guy.
Any advice I should follow?

Give yourself completely to the power of the Schwartz!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S25Zf8svHZQ

Hehe thanks buddy! Lol, remember watching that film! Loved it, plus that scene is epic for a reason! Who needs dating advice when you have a scene like that? High 5!

follow your head, not your heart. make rational decisions based on truths or facts you have gathered over time, as opposed to emotionally charged spur of the moment decisions (emotional decisions will come later once you have some experience dealing with people). it is very easy to get caught up in a players game, they are good at what they do. you may want to date in groups, that way friends will protect you from players. here you could chat on line for a bit before meeting someone, and if you do, there is always someone on line (day or night) who is willing to listen to you and offer some advise

The best advise I can give you is to read what the people say here then chose what is best for you.

My personal experience....love...REAL LOVE!...Ain't easy. You don't walk outside and find a diamond...you gotta get dirty and work for it. It is going through alot of people that you just don't get THE feeling. It is alot of lonely and frustrated nights.

You are actually in a position of advantage Kyl. You don't have the hurt and bitter reflexes built up that the rest of us do....so you are free to see things without scars on your soul. (I envy you)

Just be the person you want to be. When you are comfortable and confident in your own skin...it will show. When that person shines through...that is when someone is gonna notice you. When they do notice you...take the time to know them before you throw your heart on the table....Cause real love is very specific. Anyone can have just happy fun monkey style sex...(believe me...sex is AWESOME!!!)...but, for something to really last...don't expect it to hand it'self over on a platter. you will have to do every bit as much work as the partner you seek ...it can take alot of time and tears and sweat.....but it's worth it.

Damn...I yap alot.

Best of luck young brother. If you ain't a total dumbass...I think you will do just fine.

Very well said Krupa
Kyl dont look for it let it find you~
Take care sweety

Lots and lots of Tylenol.

Aww, you guys here are so nice! I just want to hug you all, hehe *Cyber Hug*! Lol!

Your all so wise, it really is nice to have people to talk to about these things. Feels good to have a cool little team here to help along on my quests! Yey! And they do say to just let love coem to you Lynn, maybe I shouldnt try so hard to get out there.

As for what you mentioned Krupa, its correct. I know it wont be easy and I know Ill have to get a bit of experience first in order to realise what it is Im looking for etc. I think if I could just meet one nice guy it would be a great first step. Someone I can trust!

My friends ahve warned me of players too, I can be a little oblivious soemtimes. But Im quite a smart guy so I shouldnt get into too much trouble. How can you tell a player btw just so that I know?
I do quite like being new to dating tbh, as I havent got any bitter memories or anything Krupa! Alot of friends I have stayed with as they cried about bad relationships and break ups havent got this luxury. Im grateful.

Maybe I should try to find a gay club so that I can meet people. Would be a bit better for building my confidence. Quite like online too as I can get to know someone first, feels safe almost!


Ps, Bulldog I love the fact you have Mr Potato head in your pic1 Toy Story is my favorite, yey!

Just have fun and find someone who matches you well.
There are no great preparations to make. Be safe and
smart and let things happen naturally.

Not a lot of GLBT around here though...Just sayin'.

Thanks Rhon...

:)

Now, for practical advise that this man can use...

1: Smile....A LOT! Everyone likes a smile and it helps put people at ease.

2: EYE CONTACT! Just meet eyes for no more than a full second (while smiling)...if you are interested, find a reason to stop (retie your shoe) and look at them again. Let them see for a moment that you looked back.

3: DON'T yammer on about your ex....oh yeah, you got that covered. (still very important)

4: Don't stand INSIDE thier arms reach unless they are drinking. (personal space...think about it)

5: Speak!!! Doesn't have to be anything elaborate or planned out....but make it cordial or complimentery. "Nice shoes!", "Just a compliment but, you got great eyes/hair smile", "How's it going?"

Keep it simple and DO NOT stand there to await a response...THAT creeps people out. If you make eye contact with a smile and a simple pleasantry, half of the work is done...If they are interested...they will find a reason to speak to you as long as you find a reason to hang around for a bit. The real key is to be approachable.


TOO GET LAID:

This is top secret ninja stuff so don't tell anyone.........

Fold the bottom edge corner of one side of a bill around a condom packet and put it in your wallet. When you see someone that you are interested in, offer to buy them a drink or just yank it out at the convenience store to flop a condom out on the counter between you two. Just smile and act embarrassed..."Must be fate"....then put it back in your wallet....it let's them know that protected sex is a viable option)

Just don't be pushy...unless you are really drunk. Drunks get laid more than sober people.

players are aggressive (unless you approach them first). you can't spot a player because players blend in (unless you want someone flashy). players say all the right things at all the right times (unless you want to be a hero, then they are vunerable). don't worry about spotting a player, they will spot you. just be yourself, and when you think you've met the right person, date someone else. the right person for you will understand and wait patiently for you. just be sure you are done looking, because i guarantee i guarantee the grass is never greener on the other side of the fence and if you keep looking for a bbd (bigger better deal) you will lose. (bulldog double guarantee - patent pending)

ps, i may have to get rid of the mr. potato head. (i was trying to attract a woman and you are the only person that noticed)

Thanks Krupa! Hehe you really are a cool dating ninja! Lol!
Yey, I now have some good tips to help me out. Dont think Ill be using your cool ninja sex trick much as Il be too nervous and getting laid isnt a huge priority for me right now.

Hei Krupo, can you alos give me some tips on how to spot a player/guy whos just looking for sex etc? Would be cool to know whome to avoid! Your like my guardian angel, hi5!

Oh Im sorry! Hehe its just that I know my Pixar characters! Lol

And thanks for the player advice buddy, helps out alot. So if hes quite aggresive and pushy, persuasive then its best to step away porbably! Great news!

And yes Ill wait a little while, makes finding a nice guy feel even better when I do! Yey!

No problem Kyl...I had a pretty successful carrer as a slut before I got blind sided by real love.

Sex is easy to get.

The love that all of us really want....that's trickier.

Aww, well I just want to thank you again Krupo! And if I ever have news on the dating front or need advice again I know that theres a cool ninja with good advice on here! Hehe yey!

And yes, love is trickier. Just to find someone who will like you for who you are, someone you can cuddle with and feel happy just being around...cant wait to find it myself! I hope you find real love also buddy, all of you in fact! Stay cool everyone, *Big hugs*!

And if anyone needs advice from me or anything please feel free to chat sometime1 Would like to help you guys out somehow also!

No problem Kyl...if he ain't threatening you...he is probably interested.

If he got a penis....he is probably interested.

If he has been drinking, he is probably interested.

If you turn around in line at the gas station and your friend has his pants down...probably interested.

Guys are easy and every last one of em gets horny. (you would be suprized how man drunks e-mail me thinking I am a chick and how many gay dudes just flat out compliment me) Don't sweat the player thing bro...you are too young to have much money so most players will pass you by based on age. But, they will definitely use you for the sex....I used to manage a porn store and the sugar daddies brought thier boys in frequently.

All in all, I gotta say that from what I have seen with my own eyes...the gays are far more honest and up front than most breeders.

Just trust your heart and enjoy your life bro. This may be your only one so enjoy every moment you can.

I dont know that you can necessarily generalise and describe what a player looks like or how he acts, apart from that he will be trying to get in your pants. But then a good player will probably make you think he isnt. You seem bright enough, just use your intuition.

I saw on your profile that you are Welsh. I would like to offer my sincere condolences.

Oh, I noticed.....

But I am torn between Ese's Potato Head and Dans budgie....Just hold your hand still...I will be finished in a moment.

:)

Well Kyl, I see some have taken you under their wings.
Great Advice from them all, Be Smart & use your head...The one between your shoulders & you will do just fine.
Time for Momma Bird to let ya Fly I'll check on ya but from now on...Reach for the stars, Never stop Dreaming & Keep Friends close for in the end You can almost always count on a Friend!