I think people divorce when they imagine that they can change or control one another and then when they discover that they can't they act out their dissatisfaction. Some hopeless romantic people believe that if someone loves you then they will do everything to benefit you but in fact this is your own ego thinking of yourself. Maybe that person loves you but their love will never make you happy if you aren't happy to begin with.

Basically, I think divorce is caused when we expect too much of the other and not enough of ourselves.

As for me, I got divorced when I realized that my husband was an alcoholic and his abuse of me was not going to get better so I left him. When I wouldn't return to him because I didn't believe or trust him to be different then he divorced me. :) Even years after the divorce he has made attempts to convince me that he is different now but I just can't believe or trust that.

So. Here in america women (or men) no longer have to stay and be abused so we leave and we get divorced.