QUESTIONS:
a.) How would you define "love"?
b.) How would you defines "infatuation"?
c.) What, in your opinion, is the difference between the two?

Love Is A "SWEET POISON"

Infatuation is based on short term and love is based on long term. The 2 can intertwine but don't always. Infatuation can take you to the threshold of love but can't make love a reality. Love is when you hand over your self to the other as equal to your own desired wants, infatuation is still back in the want stage. Love is becoming 1 where as infatuation is still 2.

Infatuation shouldn't be considered fact or proof of love, but it should be enjoyed for what it is without guilt or too many expectations.

infatuation is when you want to get to know them more.
love is when you want to spend the rest of your life knowing them more.

I like that

OK,,,I'm going to give this place a list of my thoughts to HOW can you tell if its a REAL LOVE....
Boy,,THIS I gotta see,


IF, they want to pamper you a bit or a LOT.
If, they NEVER mind your timing on your calls to them.
even IF it was in the middle of a really bad timed call to them.
If, they want to know always,,what YOU like or want to do.
If, YOU feel THEY are as giving back to you,, as what YOU GIVE THEM.
If, they can't wait to see you again,,just to be with you,,,nothing more,,just to give you a hug,,and a kiss,,and to be WITH YOU THEN.
If, something angers you,,THEY are truly concerned also about WHAT it is.
If, they can give you your time,,as THEY might not really want to,(at THAT time),but they gladly do,,just because.
If, they show you,,,YOU are as important as THEY ARE,,or maybe act like your MORE,,than they are..lol
If, after a long day doing things together,,you find yourself tired and drained,,,,IF they can find you STILL,,,perfect to them,,as they know your not up for more...
If, they are appreciative of all you do for them,,and show you,,not just tell you,,but they try and show you through their actions,,that they really cared about repaying your motives ,,,for doing for them..
If one kiss,,at any time,,,seems to always show an earnest to receiving IT,,,like they WANTED TO GIVE YOU THAT SMOOCH,,not because it was just exspected to be given..
If, they let little things go,,,even though you learned THAT one of them,,,bothered them MUCH,,,but they didn't have any issues,,looking past it,,for you then...
If, they treat you always with the (FEELINGS OF GREAT RESPECT) respect and love,,,,as in talking over ANY thoughts openly and in that kind fashion of care,,,as to not be a hard azzzz over something.
If, your still reading this,,YOU must really want his TRUTH,

Well, you don't just think about sleeping with them all the time, as that's lust. lol. You want to do everything with them. You're certain you'd marry them. You would know by the way you had butterflies everytime you thought of him. You'd do almost anything to make them feel happy and safe around you.

Very true,,,I like this!!!,,,and I forgot to say,,,They feel they would die for you if needed,,,lol but that was REALLY A DEEP LOVE there for that one,,,but,,LOVE never the less,,,,

:) Thankyou kind sir. Jmho.

when they put up with all your crap and still iove you till the end.

a.) I am unsure if I believe in the concept of 'true' love. I've always had a slight difficulty in believing that something like that truly exists. However, for love there's a couple things I usually look for:

The first being someone I can be myself around, someone who will stick around no matter what happens, especially when **** hits the fan. Someone who makes me laugh, cry and such, as well as someone who makes me really and truly feel alive. These aren't requirements for the relationships, as I'm more of a lover, then a fighter. However, I've seemed to hit something of a brick wall when it comes to this concept.

b.) Purely physical intimacy. Someone you've known for a couple weeks and have already placed them on a throne in their lives. Usually when I have encountered 'infatuation', it's usually physical and I don't really invest myself in the relationship, as I don't see it lasting or it not having a point.

c.) The main difference is the fact that one (to me) is purely physical whereas the other has a great deal of emotional commitment and investment in the relationship. As other's have said, put up with my BS and still love me.

I would define love as.....getting to a point where no matter what the other person may do, no matter what bad habits or flaws they might have, you just can't stay mad at them. You accept them as they are, you see past all the little things that may otherwise irk you about them, and see the beauty underneath, and they do the same likewise with you.

It's when you can have the worst arguments about any topic you could imagine, and when it's over, still be as close if not closer than you were before it.

It's when you feel totally at ease with yourself and can just be you around them, without any pretenses or needing to hide anything about who you are or where you've been.

This is love.

It's a deep soul connection that is the one of the most fulfilling experiences you will have in life. It takes time to build and foster such a relationship with another and the road is not always easy, but when you find it, you will know without a doubt. It is unlike anything you'll ever have felt before.

Infatuation by contrast is where you feel attracted to a person for one reason or another, but haven't yet really gotten to know the person on a deeper level just yet. That's where the difference between love and infatuation lies. Love is where you have seen all that the other person is, good and bad things alike and choose to love them. Infatuation is just an attraction, you can't love them without really getting to know them and who they really are. Love cannot be rushed.

wow!! that's an explanation ^___^
here's mine:

a.) LOVE ( what you KNOW )
- love is based on a well-knowledge of a person's strength and weaknesses.
- love is among other things, "long-suffering and kind". It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. LOVE NEVER FAILS.
- in love you have to a reason to be attracted to someone, and it's a good reason - not a selfish one.
- real love should grow OVER TIME. AT first you're a good friend. Then little by little you like what you have come to know about the person, and you start develop a feelings that you've never had before.

b.) INFATUATION ( what you feel )
- very much like crush
- it could also feels like love but love includes romantic feelings.
- infatuation stems from a superficial reaction to surface qualities. Also it is blind to other person's weaknesses and exaggerates his/her strength.
- It DOESN'T LAST LONG. Can be attracted to someone one day and then a month later you feel the same way toward someone else.

c.) LOVE can overcome obstacle, whereas INFATUATION tends to end as soon circumstances change or problems arise. It takes a lot of time to cultivate REAL LOVE.


P.S. 1st: ATTRACTION ( what you see )
2nd: INFATUATION ( what you feel )
3rd: LOVE ( what you know )

Love...all encompassing,transcends the bounds of physical needs

Infatuation...curiosity, lust, desire, longing, the search for some sort of fulfillment (even if only physical)

You sound like you have it all figured out. Smart and beautiful you must have guys chasing you around everywhere.

Nah! Not really Chezster

Sweet poison?? why is that so? cause when you had a broken heart it feels like you drink a pure poison to ease the pain?? hehe

Love is when a couple is sitting on the couch watching a movie, her laying her head in his lap as he gently strokes her hair....and then he farts. Yup. He farts and she just lays there and pretends that it doesn't bother her. Seeing this, the dude looks down at her and says, "Babe. I know Sunday is when the game is on tv, but how about we go have a picnic that afternoon". She smiles and says yes. Ahhhhhh. Aint love grand?

I wasn't going to say anything at all, but...

it bothers me to no end when someone as young, lovely and obviously intelligent as you... would post on their profile the following...

"I am a UGLY woman, SO WHAT??!!"

Why would you say that? (makes me wanna *lovingly* kick you in da butt)

The reason I *did* post this, is that just last night, someone chastised *me* in one of the forums, for making fun of myself in a negative way... I did explain that I was comfortable with myself and just having fun.

Maybe I should not have posted anything, but it bothered me... just sayin'... your profile is going to give the potential man of your dreams his first impression. (not flirtin', but you deserve these )

Yep that pretty much sums it up.