hi i was just told i had to choose between a guy n my cat and the reason he told me i had to is because he got an apt that doesn't allow pets well nor does where i live i have a prescription wrote up to have my cat and if i moved i would try n see if where he wants me to live would allow it but i just don't think they would but who knows but how many would give up there pet to be with someone?? or would you give up on that person n keep your pet or would you try n see if could have both???

this is my cat Noella would you if you were me give up on a cutie like her????
she's a mommas gurl n shes been through alot already she was throwin outta two homes the kids where i live tryed to kill her when she was a kitten n men hav abused her n shes doing so good with me...

tell the guy he can freaken leap out the door
the cat is like your own child
the child is there before any freaken man so is the animal

thanks queene123 i just want to see how many others have been asked or did something foolishly n r regretting or are glad they made the right choice

awwwww cute CAT an nope i wouldn't i used to have a cat an actually had a dog too but not at same time. if i could i would have a cat. but to give up something you really care for like queen said you treat it like it was your own child.

oh she's spoiled rotten i dont think i could ever have kids she is my baby she has two cat trees i spend over 340 bucks on n i do my best with her she is my baby n it hurts hearing i hav to choose her for some guy why when ill never let her go

heres' a few more pixs of her...
sorry for so many pixs she's just a mommas gurl...

Nope, I wouldn't give her up. He should be willing to find a place where everyone can be happy. If not, then he doesn't really care how you feel.

...so, hi. =)

I get the attachment to a furry creature, etc. -- those guys are the ones that will always be there for you, when the humans that you would think would be leave, one way or the other.

That said, let's add something new to the mix: everything is well between the two of you re: the relationship. He/she is affected, allergy-wise, by animal hair and/or dander. Now what? Do you break simply because of a sinus onslaught? =)

Just thought I'd throw that in for other opinions, and so on...talk amongst yourselves. =)

Darrell

no he grew up with cats n hes not allergic its the apt he found for himself dont allow pets n he wants me to move in well i brought up if i move she has to come with me im not goin to just give her up for no reason... so yes i know ur just throwing ur opinion out there n he wants dogs n all theses other animals so its like i think he was thinking he n i could live together n then later on find a place n then hav our pets but he needs to see that where i live at now i aint goin to hav my cat live with someone i dont know n then go n get her when we move some where else and we are not dating yet n the apt is only a 1 bedroom so i do see where your goin with what u said just letting you know its nothing to do with allergies we will be recently be meeting for the first time in augest we meet on plentyoffish.com n i dont know if he was maybe just joking i would have to choose him over her but it upset me telling me to pick cuz i wont choose ill stay with my cat no matter what.

it truly depends up upon the reason (lease restrictions are a pretty good reason) and how much of an actual long term commitment we were in


how does one get a 'prescription' for a pet,,,btw?

LOL...this is what I get for:

1. Stumbling into a conversation.
2. Doing so post-all nighter to get work done the night before. (Cue that I should take my butt to bed??? LOL)

So sorry that I misread this! =) But, I am in agreement with you; you shouldn't have to choose them or him. Not fair...I dated a gal back in the day that had 7 cats. I AM allergic and/or very susceptible to bad sinus responses from animals, but no way in hell was I going to tell her that she had to nuke them if I were to move in. One, that's not my place; two, I was kinda scared of her, but that's another story. LOL!

Now that I grasp the situation a little better, I think it's a give and take; if he's wanting to get all of these animals, etc., down the line or whenever, you shouldn't have to give up something that's already in place, to start, as well as the fact that they'll be there even AFTER you move to a new joint.

I hope that you two can get this sorted out; best of luck to you on that, sweetie! =)

Darrell

it depends if you have really bad anxiety and if you see a consular i know i might hav spelled that wrong sorry they can or your dr can write it up like ive been through alot of crap my cat is therapeutic to me she calms me she completes me some have them because the animal has helped them cope or deal with something n is the reason there gettin better is because that animal is n has been through alot already with that person or on its own n they both can relate n make the other feel better.

go to this site n read up on it they will help you more to read about it...
http://www.bazelon.org/issues/housing/infosheets/fhinfosheet6.html

Pet Therapy

Research has shown that heart attack victims who have pets live longer. Even watching a tank full of tropical fish may lower blood pressure, at least temporarily. A study of 92 patients hospitalized in coronary care units for angina or heart attack found that those who owned pets were more likely to be alive a year later than those who did not. The study found that only 6 percent of patients who owned pets died within one year compared with 28 percent of those who did not own pets.

The therapeutic use of pets as companions has gained increasing attention in recent years for a wide variety of patients -people with AIDS or cancer, the elderly, and the mentally ill. Unlike people, with whom our interactions may be quite complex and unpredictable, animals provide a constant source of comfort and focus for attention. Animals bring out our nurturing instinct. They also make us feel safe and unconditionally accepted. We can just be ourselves around our pets.

Research has shown that pet ownership can:
bullet Reduce stress-induced symptoms.

In a study people undergoing oral surgery spent a few minutes watching tropical fish in an aquarium. The relaxation level was measured by their blood pressure, muscle tension, and behavior. It was found that the subjects who watched the fish was much more relaxed than those who did not watch the fish prior to the surgery. People who watched the fish was as calm as another group that had been hypnotized before the surgery. Other researchers have found that:


Petting a dog has been shown to lower blood pressure.


Bringing a pet into a nursing home or hospital can boost peoples' moods and enhance their social interaction.

bullet Requires Less Medical Care

A study conducted at UCLA found that dog owners required much less medical care for stress-induced aches and pains than non-dog owners.

bullet Add years to your life

In a study conducted at City Hospital in New York, it was found that heart patients who owned the pets were significantly more likely to be alive a year after they were discharged from the hospital than those who didn't own pets. The presence of a pet was found to give higher boost to the survival rate than having a spouse or friends.

We should point out in this connection that pets can be a source of stress to some people. They may worry who will take care of their pets when they die. In most cases, however, the need to take care of the pets give a reason for living to many terminally ill patients, prolonging their life span.

What Type of Pet?

It is surprising that it does not matter what the pet is to get the therapeutic benefit. It could be a dog, a cat, parakeet, a gold fish or anything else. The only thing which matters is that the animal is of interest to you.

However, it is important that the pet you have selected fit your temperament, living space and lifestyle. Otherwise it will be additional source of stress. So, look over the pet and see whether the chemistry is compatible before you decide to adopt one.

How?

It is possible that people who own pets may have different personality traits than those who do not. Research has found that complex, varied, and interesting daily activity is the strongest social predictor of longevity. Pet ownership may affect people physiologically through the soothing and relaxing effect of touch. And speechless communication with a pet, or simply watching a cat or fish, may produce a relaxation response with little demand on the patient.

Pet owners often feel needed and responsible, which may stimulate the survival incentive. They feel they need to survive to take care of their pets. (Many cancer patients with pets have lived longer because they felt that their pets need them!) Stroking a dog, watching a kitten tumble, or observing the hypnotic explorations of fish can be an antidote to a foul mood or a frazzling day.

Pets such as dogs and cats provide unconditional, nonjudgmental love and affection. And pets can shift our narrow focus beyond ourselves, helping us to feel connected to a larger world.

Keep the Cat!

ugh finely got the truth outta him he says he was joking well he better have been joking n i dont joke about **** like that

HEL NO! I will not get rid of ANY of my animals over a man. I've gotten that ultimatum in just about every relationship. I even have it written in my profile that if there is an ultimatum, he is gone. Animals have decently long lives, and the owner is responsible for it.

Noelle, I'd be really leery about his "joking" too. If y'all actually moved in you might come home one day and find the cat "accidentally" escaped and disappeared.

As far as allergies, there are medications and prescriptions. One can also wash the animals more frequently, and rinse in distilled water cuts the dander, which is where the allergy comes from. Though frankly, I will never understand why someone dates someone when they're allergic to the animals.

amen to that sista n i know i am leery cuz i dont believe the joking its not funny nor cute she's my baby n i do know they hav shampoos made for ppl who are allergic who own animals there allergic to n ppl who take medications so they dont have to give there animal up so i agree with you 100% n i told him im not goin to move in n that if he wants to joke like that to move on cuz i dont joke like that n told him what would u want me to say what u told me if u were the one in my shoes n were doing that n how would u feel if it was me sayin it to u

No !!!!!!!!!!!

You have this many pics of that boyfriend?