So my name is robert (waves) and iv been out to my friends and family sense I was 9 yrs old.. And my current age is 25, so that means iv been out for a little over 18 yrs. But I have never been asked on a date, let alone had a boy friend. I go out a lot and iv even had others tell me to ask someone out. Well I tried that and I was stood up every time I asked someone. And the weird thing is I get more hate towards me from gays then I do others. Yes I have tattoo's and stretched ears but if I try to ask someone out to just hangout on a date and just enjoy each other company and I get this attitude. Yes I go out more then I should "lol"
So should I just stop going out and trying to meet others? Because I meet a lot of people from other friends, but it seems like they don't wanna be friends. So should I just give up and stay away from the clubs and stuff?

Oooo, I'm not good at advice... critiques, sure... not advice.
Hope that you find what you need...

Hi and Welcome.

Here is my question for you... How many friends do you have? Do you need more friends? Are the friends that you currently have good, true friends or just aquantences? If some of these friends are people hanging on the edges, maybe you should let some of them go and figure out who your real, true friends are. That is my advice. If you like to go out to clubs, ect. do not let other people influence your decision. Are these clubs the sort of places for pick-ups and hook-ups? Maybe you might consider new clubs with better people in them. Good luck.

The thing I've always noticed is that when I stop trying to meet people, I sort of meet new people. It's all good to look, though. But I personally have just stopped trying to look for a partner and such, and usually a nice person comes into my life.

I wish you all the best of luck!

Also, welcome.

When questions like this are posed, I often take a peek at the profile to gain a better sense of the person.

I noticed you listed Utah as where you live. Have you always lived there? Do you think your situation may simply be because of where you live? I've never been there, but from what I have gathered, Utah is not exactly the best place for gays to live. I think you would probably do better in my area, or say California, than where you are now. Just my guess.

Though I am not gay, I do know there are a number of gay guys that frequent the same bars I do, and I tend to frequent places where I have been employed. That's because I've gotten to know several of the customers over my time there. As a result, even if I don't know the gays, I pick up on some of their habits. Some are reserved (perhaps they want to be low-key). Others are very outgoing, and generally well-accepted by the bar patrons. Even they can be a bit stand-offish around a stranger though. Hence, like most other people, they all need a comfortable way to break the ice before they can relax. Perhaps that is something you need to develop?