I start this topic cos it is the very experience I am going through now. How do you survive the days after the only love of your life breaks your heart and kicks it aside without remorse. How do you go through these days as a normal cheerful person to the world around you so you don't have to explain the ugly experience. How do you think to start again & explain to family & friends who are on their toes to celebrate your union. How do you manage a man who is a Catholic, knew along u are an active pentecostal and accepted u dat way only to insist in a very tempting way, at the verge of getting married that you turn Catholic? How do handle such a man when you try to explain how that might not be easy turns cold on you and within a twinkle have a new 'catholic' girl to love but still denies it. How do you live through the days of withdrawing yourself from a man you have built your world around only to expose yourself to the uncertainty of getting another man that could truely stick by you? How do you? Share with me & everyone who gets to read this perhaps, it will strengthen us to be better people & not revengeful to the next innocent man/woman coming our way. It is well with the good hearted.

Ahh, all very tough stuff... sorry for ya' in all that.
We all have different ways, but that you're up, awake and engaging with people (here), makes me think that you're off to a good start.

Hi and Welcome.

thx 4 d heads up, though i must confess my situation as pushed me to sort of focus on online minglin & all though might not produce any major benefit relationship wise but i had let d illusion keep me a while b4 i snap out of it. U takia

Baby, life is an illusion... as is happiness.
Sorry that more peeps haven't made you feel more welcome.
Do as u must... hope that you stick around a bit but if you feel the need to move... Nafurahi kukuona
(sorry, more famililar with the east than the west...)

You just move on! That's what u do when a man prefer another woman 2u, b'cos men are subject 2change they never really luv with their heart but their head.

One thing that 've work 4me through d yrs, whenever i part with a reletionship no matter how close we are, i believe he is not best for me.

Never let yourself get in that situation to start with.

I tend to agree with Joy ... it IS heartbreaking, but you have to realize that it was not meant to be. Take time to grieve the loss, but don't drown yourself in sorrow. Keep busy, do something for yourself. Learn to love yourself again. Move on.

thx all 4ur responses. I am particularly excited dat pple dat dont even know me r ready to take a bit of their time& invest on advicin me. Believ me wen i say i tak every word here to heart. Thx! Howeva, there's a dev.t. Yestady, he called explaing & even swear dat there's no other woman in his life & wat i saw aint it, dat he had blanked bcos he didnt kno hw 2explain &was worried hw he wud handle my reactions blabla. I sort of believe he was just been stupid 2try dat game cos he aint d type but i am choosin nt 2indulge it cos i'm hurt. He's comin 2c me friday. Here's one of 2things i plan 2do. Either i lash him, give him a chunk of my mind & ask him to leave or i play d gullible, say i'm cool & all is ok but strip him of good money (which i've previously bein helpin him save) for about a month & walk away. Anyone with a beta advice. Need 2make up my mind b4 friday. Thx

thx all 4ur responses. I am particularly excited dat pple dat dont even know me r ready to take a bit of their time& invest on advicin me. Believ me wen i say i tak every word here to heart. Thx! Howeva, there's a dev.t. Yestady, he called explaing & even swear dat there's no other woman in his life & wat i saw aint it, dat he had blanked bcos he didnt kno hw 2explain &was worried hw he wud handle my reactions blabla. I sort of believe he was just been stupid 2try dat game cos he aint d type but i am choosin nt 2indulge it cos i'm hurt. He's comin 2c me friday. Here's one of 2things i plan 2do. Either i lash him, give him a chunk of my mind & ask him to leave or i play d gullible, say i'm cool & all is ok but strip him of good money (which i've previously bein helpin him save) for about a month & walk away. Anyone with a beta advice. Need 2make up my mind b4 friday. Thx

If u still luv him or ever luved him u can't play trust me, u never want his money right, so let him go.

thx joy4gud. All noted

thx joy4gud. All noted

thx joy4gud. All noted

Sorry to hear of your pain! it sure is a tough world sometimes!

I have no real answers, but having passions like art and music to dive into sure helps save my sanity! I honestly have no idea how I could survive without these... distractions/passions/old friends.

If you have any hobbies, passions, desires, or dreams maybe this is a good time to explore those possibilities! Couldn't hurt and you may discover a whole new you, or at least get a little further down the road to inner peace and personal growth. It's the only thing I know...

Best of luck, one and all!



FantasyArtMan

going through that myself, feel the pain, sorrow, anger, joy, etc. time heals and life goes on even though you feel like it should end. getting easier for me as time goes by (about 3 months now) i just keep telling myself it has to get better and i am sure it will. listen to the song "only god knows why" by kid rock, makes sense now that i am where i am.

not sure why it posted 3 times?

The magic of living is simple for it consists of the only thing which matters , YOU , We come into this world alone , although we have help , yet the magic of life is alone once we master the job of being alone only then can one have something worth sharing with anyone else , We are com plete in every way , made perfect in every way , yet somehow most people search for something to complete them , its not a void you need to fill to be complete its the magic of completeness which we have the need to share . Find yourself and you will find healing. Jesse