So I got cheated on by the love of my life with over 20 women. I was crushed and heartbroken. I want a real and honest relationship but I have no idea how to tell a genuine good guy from a fake guy. Any ideas?

go slow and take the time to truly get to know the next one...well, honestly it will probably take more than just one, but you get the idea

What exactly did his profile mention? Did he have a collection of pictures with shirts off, and "dolla bills" displayed? Not to say all "men" would do such a thing that may provide this sort of thing. However, I would certainly feel this would be a sure thing to look for as it should have flown a red flag.

All I could suggest is to look deeper into someone's profile when selecting whom you may want to meet. If the profile is vague, well you certainly should take what he has to offer will be the same.

I would also suggest that if you feel any... ANY signs of which that person may not be "the right one" from after messages or meeting them, run for the hills! There are too many of us "nice guys" whom get looked over due to we may not provide the "looks", however may make up for it within our ways of how to properly treat a woman. However, this may not be what you are looking for at this time? Looks vs. chivalry. It may be a difficult decision sometimes. It is all about what you really want within your future.

I truly wish you luck, and so wish you did not have to fall within the grasp of what we "good guys" dread that are out there scaring the hearts of women when we KNOW we could do and treat you such better. Such a shame.

I wish you luck!

- Josh

Find common ground between the heart and head. The heart can be too foolish, and the head can be too cautious, but using a balance of both will allow you to be open but careful not to be taken advantage of again. Realize that you deserve better, and your heart is worth protecting. Don't give too much of yourself too quick and easy.

Give yourself some time to heal as well.

Not sure if this website is a good place to find a new partner. As been proven. Some use this website to reel in victims, and use them. Before you know it, the victim is posting about it in a forum. Not that i wanna be there to pick up the pieces of bad guys. They are screwed up. This place attracts all types. Maybe go to new places.

Wow. Best advice ever, Totage. You rock!

Yeah I agree, Totage nailed it...

Hi and Welcome

Here are some, possible, signs that indicate that a man "may" be a player:

1. He is "to smooth" and is usually "to suave" in his flirting. Almost sounds like he's practiced his flirting.

2. He flirts openly and boldly. Men who are Players are really good at making eye contact. In contrast, most “normal” guys are a little shy about making eye contact.

3. He's a bit too "Interesting".

4. Guys who are players don’t want to waste a lot of time on developing any “emotional” intimacy: only physical intimacy.

5. He shows a lot of "Fake" interest in you.

6. He works at triggering "impulsiveness" in you by triggering your emotions.

This isn't to say that a guy showing any one of these characteristics is a jerk but if more than one of these show up at least proceed with caution. You don't want to shut down a real gentleman.

Now wondering if the Dos Equis guy is a player.........

You are 19, so don't worry, you haven't met the love of your life yet.

He sounds like a real piece of work, a guy can't cheat on you with 20 women and really be the man you think he is.

Use the time tested method: wait a long time before you'll do anything sexual. If he pressures you to have sex, he's not a nice guy.

I agree with Totage. Take time to heal. Approach your next possible relationship slowly take time to get to really know him before you become emotionally or physically involved. Take your time girl it will be worth the wait. :)

Maybe try dating a guy who has no girls working for him on the streets, turning in their hard earned cash to him in exchnange for hits of crack cocaine.

You don't know how to do this, you say. Well. Tell him, each of your potential boyfriends(*), before you do anything serious or physical, that your father or son is a police captain in the city you live in. That should very quickly separate the chaff from the wheat, the pebbles from the rocks.

You may even score a handsome income on the side, by continually taking "protection" money from him, if he believes your brother is the police captain, and you have a good relationhip with him. (Sexual or otherwise.)

Anyhoo. You asked, I answered.

Welcome to the forums, by the way, and I hope you will have fun with us, all of us, with the jokers here and with the serious ones, too.

And by "have fun" I mean, good clean fun. You know, togetherness, talking, laughing, that sort of things.

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(*) you have to tell this to each, but not necessarily at the same time. It would be hard to get all guys you're lilely to meet in your future to get to gather in one place so you can tell them all in just one single speech given.