I've done a little planning there is a dominos and an italian place close to her and a florist. So I want to order the pizza and have a candle lit dinner waiting for when she gets home from work with a bouquet of roses. I'll tell her to come home after work, but I don't want to ruin the surprise.
As far as my good qualities, I've been showing her how good of a guy I am with plenty of sweet things that started since we started dating. My luggage is full of little gifts for her, no one could get her a Tim Burton autograph but me! she's nuts about his movies. Would it be wrong to tell her that I love her during my 2 weeks there?

Winner! :D

Nice one mate! ^_^

I'd love to join you for that pizza, but I will let you, and the Lady, enjoy this one :)

Hehe, All the best to you!

I'm sure I can find some candles near by somewhere at a store. Keeping her room mate from spoiling things could be tough though. She'd be appreciative on the fact that I'm traveling across the whole country pretty much I'm thinking at least. I won't stop there. Would it make things worse or better if I told her "I love you?" seeing that things are going the right way?

Leave her and make new friends

Wow! You are asking me that! :D

It's only wrong, if it feels wrong, when you tell her. If it feels right, then, you can tell her, if you like :)

Wow! she's a lucky girl!

I'm not leaving her, she's a keeper.

A little jealous are we?

That's what I sort of figured. Just needed to be sure after her "taking things slow and taking things a step at a time" remarks. If she's saying she wants to go slow, that isn't exactly being slow really is it?

There is nothing wrong with telling someone, you love them.

Time makes no difference in your feelings. I'm sure she won't be offended. You should definately tell her if you want too. She should respect your feelings, as much as you respect hers. There is a difference between respecting, and accepting. So, you are well in your rights to tell her :)

Can you cook at all?

If you can, get some bread crumbs (preferably Panko), some olive oil, a couple chicken breasts, a lemon and salad fixings and make Chicken Milanese. It's very simple to make and you'll knock her socks off with it.

Google the recipe and make it a couple times over the next few days. That way you can make it perfectly and know exactly how long it takes to make, so it's ready when she gets home.

Most the things I need for the dinner are within 5 minutes of walking distance, the dinner should be pretty easy to do

No I can't cook, I can maybe make that dish for her one of days I'm there. I'm going to be without a car though and won't know where the grocery stores are at, I'm looking at map of her neighborhood now though. She is really picky on what she eats too, so I'm not totally sure what she'd really like and not like.

You sound much more positive then you sounded earlier.

Happy days to you both!

If you can follow instructions, you can cook. It's hard for a woman to not be impressed by a man who can cook well. It's like how you would feel if your girlfriend rebuilt your transmission for you.

I don't usually lack confidence, I'm a pretty positive guy. Things haven't been the same lovey/dovey between us since we first thought of doing the long distance relationship.

She says something's been on her mind for a few months and that it's complicated so she'll tell me when I'm there. I knew something was on her mind just can't figure out what it is nevertheless I've stayed confident until yesturdays curveball on taking things slow.

Yikes I just saw a recipe for the dish. I don't want to go in there and make a mess of her kitchen haha. Is there something easier than this?

http://gourmetfood.about.com/od/fishandseafood/r/chickenmilanese.htm

Boxer, I didn't read through all of the responses. My best advice for you is to first calm down for a second and think about this without all the influence of your doubts and insecurities. I can understand how after 5 years, you are ready to jump in head first. You might feel rushed as if this is the only opportunity for things to work out that way. I encourage you to give a little more balance of control here and respect her space. It is normal for most women to feel cold footed when making big changes, while guys face it with a "no fear, jump right in" attitude. She probably wants the same things that you do, but just not all at once so quickly. The two of you are at a disagreement about the pace, not the relationship itself, you are lucky she is letting you visit at all! Most women are looking 4 a guy who can b supportive of her ideas as well as his own, so find some balance between respecting her wishes & getting what u want. U r getting some of what u want by being allowed 2 visit, now return the favor!

Yeah I'm defintely calming down and do understand her view point on all this... I get how she might be feeling, I've told her that I do understand and she's says she feels better that I understand, she was worried that I'd be upset or hurt on her telling me this, so this is a good sign that she's caring about me right?


We have been talking about me going back after this first visit, I told her I'd come out for halloween and we've played around on some costume possibilities, so future visits are likely.

I read some of the replies and yes guy, SLOW THE F DOWN!!! Look at yourself getting all excited and planning and dictating how your perfect romantic encounter is going to be. What if she wants to make some of the plans too? You're not even giving her that chance. She is becoming unsure because you are smothering and taking all the control and no one likes that. You have the rest of your life to prove yourself to her or get what you want, no need to attempt to do it all in 2 weeks. My advice is that if you havent said ily yet, dont do it during your stay unless she does first. My advice was learned the hard way and I wish you the best of luck and hope you succeed where I have failed.

I am getting excited I know this, why go without a little enthusiasum though? I'm looking at it in a good positive way. If she wants to make plans then I'm all for it, a candle lit dinner would only happen once or twice while I'm there. We have 2 weeks to do what she and I want. I'm making plans and the initial moves cause from my experience women like a man that takes charge over things but still I'm going to give her the chance to make plans, she wants to take me to the boardwalk while there, that's something