What if she's just preparing to end things with me? I'm almost seeing this whole slowing down thing as a prep for worse news. Then do I got a reason to be upset?

Well I have been a bit nervous but that's how it goes in any relationship, but now amp it up with 5 years of history now and my first flight alone, the trip alone has me scared. I've been a great guy to her but still the possibility of her not liking me is there in my mind. Since Jan when we decided on this, I've had the most positive outlook on this relationship. Til she sprung this taking things slow situation, just makes me feel like she's having second thoughts on this whole thing

Did you tell her about the tickets to come visit before or after you bought them?

It's not a bad thing, it's a good thing. She is being serious.

She obviously wants to get used to you, without too many entanglements.

You said you both started of as friends. I'm sure she wants to to see that friend.

I told her before and after the fact that I had bought them. She'd cheer and sound happy when I told her I was planning on getting tickets. Again she cheered and was happy when I told her I had gotten them.

Just come right out and ask her what is bothering her. Tell her you have noticed that she doesn't seem as excited to see you as she was. She's probably just worried and you can step in and help alleviate her concerns.

With everything that you have wrote I would get a hotel room near by. She has something going on, you might be ok with it or you might not, but there is something going on that has her worried. She might have just been saying stuff because she never thought you would actually see her and now she is regretting it.

A hotel room would take off the pressure from her by not having a stranger fly across the country to stay at her place. Then she could come and stay there with you if she wanted to. It will be like her vacation also. Hope everything works out...

She better be serious cause I have been serious since way back in Jan when we decided to be together... all the passed 4 years prior has all been just friendship we got that base don't we?
I'm dead serious on this girl and am willing to move if needed.

Someone mentioned that they might've read this wrong, Idk if my writing was clear, let me rewrite it again really quick.

5 years ago I met a girl and we became online friends and then it turned into friends in real life. During this time we had no intentions of dating since we lived so far apart, still as friends we lost contact for about a year. She managed to find me on Facebook and Myspace and we got in contact again. Around Jan we decided to try the long distance relationship and things were awesome. Until April when she went through some stresses. 4 days away now (yesturday) she's saying how she wants to take things slow and not rush force anything.


I can understand that she's nervous or scared about meeting someone online, cause I'm feeling it too my friends/family have given me heat on going to see this person who can be a 'guy' for all I know.


When I go I plan on being a little affectionate like holding her hand, kissing, etc and I feel like I should let my feelings flow on this girl, tell her exactly how I feel that I love her

The only person that seems negative about this is you.

If anythings going to kill this, I have a feeling you will

i was the one who said that lol. i meant maybe i READ it wrong, that means i didn't want to say the wrong thing or guess at what u was talkn bout lol.

but what i think is...that she was all ready to give it a go and was all excited in the beginning, now that she met u and spent time with u...she's ready to take it slow! it just seems weird to me that she would do that. idk

I'm not negative about this, I got a little worried when she mentioned to take things slow and take things one step at a time and such. I only got worried when she said that which was yesterday.

Ok so either way, what do I do to avoid killing it? be calm and easy, listen and understanding correct? am I missing anything?

We haven't met yet, we are 3 days away from meeting for the first time though. It's like a movie romance isn't it? wouldn't a girl be liking this whole thing?

You listen well, I'm impressed!

Yes, those things are vitally important. If you are caring about her feelings, then you are caring about her.

And what's so bad about taking things a little more slowly?

She is a true romantic, if you ask me. I'd certainly want to take things slowly, if I had a lovely Girl friend.

Love is something that grows more and more each day.

Enjoy your time together, be her lovely Gentleman friend. Everything is magical, when you are with the one you love, so make a few fond memorys, for you both to enjoy, for a life time :)

..o.k very rarely do i give out my trade secrets,but in your case i'll make an exception..my reference comes from the movie FAST TIMES AT RIDGEMONT HIGH..

...

[the "five-point plan"]

Mike Damone: First of all Rat, you never let on how much you like a girl. "Oh, Debbie. Hi." Two, you always call the shots. "Kiss me. You won't regret it." Now three, act like wherever you are, that's the place to be. "Isn't this great?" Four, when ordering food, you find out what she wants, then order for the both of you. It's a classy move. "Now, the lady will have the linguini and white clam sauce, and a Coke with no ice." And five, now this is the most important, Rat. When it comes down to making out, whenever possible, put on side one of Led Zeppelin IV.



..follow these and you can't go wrong... normally i wouldn't reveal my sources ..but today is your lucky day..good luck..jk

..o.k very rarely do i give out my trade secrets,but in your case i'll make an exception..my reference comes from the movie FAST TIMES AT RIDGEMONT HIGH..

...

[the "five-point plan"]

Mike Damone: First of all Rat, you never let on how much you like a girl. "Oh, Debbie. Hi." Two, you always call the shots. "Kiss me. You won't regret it." Now three, act like wherever you are, that's the place to be. "Isn't this great?" Four, when ordering food, you find out what she wants, then order for the both of you. It's a classy move. "Now, the lady will have the linguini and white clam sauce, and a Coke with no ice." And five, now this is the most important, Rat. When it comes down to making out, whenever possible, put on side one of Led Zeppelin IV.



..follow these and you can't go wrong... normally i wouldn't reveal my sources ..but today is your lucky day..good luck..jk

I'm going to be in a tough spot being in her neck of the woods where I don't know nothing of. It's not going to be like where I live where I know where every store is and anything else I might need. I want to give her some romantic dinner but am afraid I just won't have the sources for it all, I'm thinking a pizza over a candle lit dinner? I want to be much more than her gentleman friend