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Oh for sure, 
But it is wierd I get so many 20 year olds mesaging me, saying they like older women.. what are they just trying to remind me that I am older, or do they seriously think I am interested.. Do i have desperate written across my forehead// 
I am in my early 30s and 20 is too young for me. Haha |
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What do you do ladies with the men who react badly when you are trying to be careful when first meeting or dating them? Personally, I let it go. I figure if he cannot understand that it isn't personal when I am careful in the beginning then that signifies later problems. What do you do? Yeah, I let it go to. I know one guy got mad when I wouldn't let him pick me up at my house so he wouldn't go out with me. This is a dangerous world we live in and one can never be too careful. 
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What do you do ladies with the men who react badly when you are trying to be careful when first meeting or dating them? Personally, I let it go. I figure if he cannot understand that it isn't personal when I am careful in the beginning then that signifies later problems. What do you do? A man who reacts badly might be a bad man. No man should take it personal if a woman he wants to meet is careful about who she hooks up with. I would think that would be a good thing. It would be a sign that the woman is smart and sensible rather than desperate. I met a man from Denver who was a private investigator and he hired me to transcribe an interview for him. He came to pick me up in his "surveillance van" which had no windows at all. Before I would get into the van with him I asked to see his drivers licence. I made a copy of it and left a note on the table for my mother about who I was with. He did not get mad at all and in fact, he completely understood the precautions. Getting into a van with a total stranger ... never a good idea. Be safe. Always. |
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What do you do ladies with the men who react badly when you are trying to be careful when first meeting or dating them? Personally, I let it go. I figure if he cannot understand that it isn't personal when I am careful in the beginning then that signifies later problems. What do you do? They are obviously afraid of being rejected. A friendly explanation why you'd like to do things slowly and want to exchange emails or go on Skype first should tell them that you're still interested, but make sure you communicate this. If they need more reassurance and keep pushing for a meeting regardless, well, then I guess they know they're not interesting enough. Bad reactions get ignored by me, that's the beauty of the internet, there are DELETE buttons and I'm not afraid to use them. 
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What do you do ladies with the men who react badly when you are trying to be careful when first meeting or dating them? Personally, I let it go. I figure if he cannot understand that it isn't personal when I am careful in the beginning then that signifies later problems. What do you do? They are obviously afraid of being rejected. A friendly explanation why you'd like to do things slowly and want to exchange emails or go on Skype first should tell them that you're still interested, but make sure you communicate this. If they need more reassurance and keep pushing for a meeting regardless, well, then I guess they know they're not interesting enough. Bad reactions get ignored by me, that's the beauty of the internet, there are DELETE buttons and I'm not afraid to use them.
I like what you said there, it makes me feel alot better. I always want to email for awhile first, than talk on the phone, than meet them. Guys always make me feel like im taking too much time doing it this way. And now, you just helped me realize, that its ok to take it one step at a time. Thanks. 
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I think I'm a pretty good judge of character even over a few emails and I would have no problem meeting someone for coffee or lunch as long as I don't have to drive 50 miles.
I still would never get into a car or van with a total stranger or invite them to my house. |
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When meeting someone local from a site like this, how long do you all wait to meet?
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I think I'm a pretty good judge of character even over a few emails and I would have no problem meeting someone for coffee or lunch as long as I don't have to drive 50 miles. I still would never get into a car or van with a total stranger or invite them to my house. How could you pass this up? 
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When meeting someone local from a site like this, how long do you all wait to meet? I don't or never will have anything against meeting in a public place with a decent crowd. 2 weeks or less would be for me. Or if on the weekend and she seems nice enough I'd love to spend more time with her and make it an all day date. If we are clicking. Us males have to be cautious too. I saw ''Monster'' 
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What do you do ladies with the men who react badly when you are trying to be careful when first meeting or dating them? Personally, I let it go. I figure if he cannot understand that it isn't personal when I am careful in the beginning then that signifies later problems. What do you do? They are obviously afraid of being rejected. A friendly explanation why you'd like to do things slowly and want to exchange emails or go on Skype first should tell them that you're still interested, but make sure you communicate this. If they need more reassurance and keep pushing for a meeting regardless, well, then I guess they know they're not interesting enough. Bad reactions get ignored by me, that's the beauty of the internet, there are DELETE buttons and I'm not afraid to use them.
I like what you said there, it makes me feel alot better. I always want to email for awhile first, than talk on the phone, than meet them. Guys always make me feel like im taking too much time doing it this way. And now, you just helped me realize, that its ok to take it one step at a time. Thanks.
Oh lovely, glad I could help!
There are a lot of people out there who assume that we must all be desperate, because we're trying to find a date online. They think we're easy prey and no effort is necessary cos we're gagging for it anyway. Well, either they realise their mistake quickly, or they end up getting ignored.
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Thats funny you bring this up.... I just got an email, from a georgous "23" year old man. When I told him I was "flattered", and "thank you" but he was too young for me..im 48, he sent me an email saying that "people that are older, judge younger people, by their age, and not their personality". I wrote back and told him I "was just telling the truth". I think he got his feelings hurt, but my gosh, hes like half my age. What's your secret? I'd give anything to be contacted by some people half my age....! 
Now you wouldnt. (No disrespect intended)... but the minute they start to talk...  the fantasy ends.
Or the fact that they are younger than your children 
Well in my case, that would just be creepy! He is only 12 right now.
Oh for sure,
But it is wierd I get so many 20 year olds mesaging me, saying they like older women.. what are they just trying to remind me that I am older, or do they seriously think I am interested.. Do i have desperate written across my forehead//
at that age most are clueless and just looking for someone to be nice to them and a lot are also just looking to talk dirty and have bought into this "older, more expereinced woman" mythology as tho all we do is sit around waiting to talk dirty to 20 yo guys. uh, ya right 
And then when you do date someone younger.... you get called a "M.I.L.F" or a "Cougar".... or told your "robbing the cradle". Go figure. yes and it's no one's business really - the younger guy takes it too - his friends get ctitical (at first) or jealous and it's a time to remember how immature young men can be - even if ur guy is not - his friends might be and often his family is not too supportive either... yet if their daughter dated an older man they'd prolly welcome it so - just some things to watch out for - gotta be tough, got be stronger, gotta keep it together |
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When meeting someone local from a site like this, how long do you all wait to meet? Hmmm I am always in a hurry to find things out, so for me, i couldnt wait, I have only ever met one person, and that was because I had to see if he was who he said he was. I didnt want to waste months of my life thinking I loved someone if I didnt. but it still took me about 5 weeks to meet him from when he first mesaged me.Hmm but i did have to get from australia to america, so i guess it wasnt that long.
Yep I dont have heaps of patience to wait and find out things, I need to see and know for sure.. |
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What do you do ladies with the men who react badly when you are trying to be careful when first meeting or dating them? Personally, I let it go. I figure if he cannot understand that it isn't personal when I am careful in the beginning then that signifies later problems. What do you do? A man who reacts badly might be a bad man. No man should take it personal if a woman he wants to meet is careful about who she hooks up with. I would think that would be a good thing. It would be a sign that the woman is smart and sensible rather than desperate. I met a man from Denver who was a private investigator and he hired me to transcribe an interview for him. He came to pick me up in his "surveillance van" which had no windows at all. Before I would get into the van with him I asked to see his drivers licence. I made a copy of it and left a note on the table for my mother about who I was with. He did not get mad at all and in fact, he completely understood the precautions. Getting into a van with a total stranger ... never a good idea. Be safe. Always. yes a decent guy will always respect your boundaries - always when u find a keeper - it won't even be an issue |
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What do you do ladies with the men who react badly when you are trying to be careful when first meeting or dating them? Personally, I let it go. I figure if he cannot understand that it isn't personal when I am careful in the beginning then that signifies later problems. What do you do? They are obviously afraid of being rejected. A friendly explanation why you'd like to do things slowly and want to exchange emails or go on Skype first should tell them that you're still interested, but make sure you communicate this. If they need more reassurance and keep pushing for a meeting regardless, well, then I guess they know they're not interesting enough. Bad reactions get ignored by me, that's the beauty of the internet, there are DELETE buttons and I'm not afraid to use them.
I like what you said there, it makes me feel alot better. I always want to email for awhile first, than talk on the phone, than meet them. Guys always make me feel like im taking too much time doing it this way. And now, you just helped me realize, that its ok to take it one step at a time. Thanks.
absolutely it is - but it is worth taking the time when you meet there willl be more of a foudation I think! |
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Thats funny you bring this up.... I just got an email, from a georgous "23" year old man. When I told him I was "flattered", and "thank you" but he was too young for me..im 48, he sent me an email saying that "people that are older, judge younger people, by their age, and not their personality". I wrote back and told him I "was just telling the truth". I think he got his feelings hurt, but my gosh, hes like half my age. What's your secret? I'd give anything to be contacted by some people half my age....!
Now you wouldnt. (No disrespect intended)... but the minute they start to talk... the fantasy ends.
Or the fact that they are younger than your children
Well, I don't have any children, so this is not an issue for me! |
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Thats funny you bring this up.... I just got an email, from a georgous "23" year old man. When I told him I was "flattered", and "thank you" but he was too young for me..im 48, he sent me an email saying that "people that are older, judge younger people, by their age, and not their personality". I wrote back and told him I "was just telling the truth". I think he got his feelings hurt, but my gosh, hes like half my age. What's your secret? I'd give anything to be contacted by some people half my age....!
Now you wouldnt. (No disrespect intended)... but the minute they start to talk... the fantasy ends.
Or the fact that they are younger than your children
Well, I don't have any children, so this is not an issue for me! Ok Lex then you are allowed to ask women old enough to be your Mum to go out with you..
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When meeting someone local from a site like this, how long do you all wait to meet? Hmmm I am always in a hurry to find things out, so for me, i couldnt wait, I have only ever met one person, and that was because I had to see if he was who he said he was. I didnt want to waste months of my life thinking I loved someone if I didnt. but it still took me about 5 weeks to meet him from when he first mesaged me.Hmm but i did have to get from australia to america, so i guess it wasnt that long.
Yep I dont have heaps of patience to wait and find out things, I need to see and know for sure.. good for u
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Sun 05/29/11 07:41 PM
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oops
sorry for the doulbe post it;s my clean install - reinstall of Windows Ima working on it |
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Thats funny you bring this up.... I just got an email, from a georgous "23" year old man. When I told him I was "flattered", and "thank you" but he was too young for me..im 48, he sent me an email saying that "people that are older, judge younger people, by their age, and not their personality". I wrote back and told him I "was just telling the truth". I think he got his feelings hurt, but my gosh, hes like half my age. What's your secret? I'd give anything to be contacted by some people half my age....!
Now you wouldnt. (No disrespect intended)... but the minute they start to talk... the fantasy ends.
Or the fact that they are younger than your children
Well, I don't have any children, so this is not an issue for me! am I reading this correctly an issue free issue for Lex?????????????????????????????????? 
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Sun 05/29/11 07:44 PM
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monumental
cripes doulbe post thought I had her fixed for a machinehead Ima cork 2 nite |
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