wow, soufie, amazing, i had goosebumps

iphoneguy, i say, it's never too late to find your prom date

Oh! Oh! I ABSOLUTELY agree with this! I am speaking from experience. :)

For sure :-)

FROM PERSONAL EXPERIENCE: There are people out there, you just have to keep looking...I told this to someone else and I guess I will say it to you:

If someone can't see past the outer shell of your body, they don't need you and vice versa. Don't worry about the judgmental people and someone great will come along.

I was born totally paralyzed from the waist down, have a tube in my head that basically keeps me alive and also a few other issues. Yet, I have met some great guys who were willing to give me a shot. Sure they all ended badly, but it had nothing to do with my "disability".

haha yeah it's never too late I guess, sue the one advantage you have is that there seems to be way more guys willing to give a handicapped person a shot than girls, thx for replying to my thread everyone =]

Nah, I don't consider myself handicapped..just don't give up

much of this I do agree with even tho, oddly enough I'm on reasonable terms with all of them -also really never see them either tho

a lot of people will tell you a lot of stuff about why they do and don't pick you.

My personal opinion, from experience, the bottom line is unless you get into a person's life and let them see more of you than your disability it is going to be tough to date or have a relationship.

Not impossible just probably going to take a lot more effort than the average person. But some of us are never born to be average.

I don't exactlly like the "special" or "exceptional" labels or any of the others that most people are smart enough to figure are more approriate stuck on a jar than a person but "we" are different and "we" are still able and have to own that as much as possible because that is the hand we are delt.

So you can get all weepy about it every once in a while, that's allowed, but you are probably going to fair better if you do that in a peer support group which I highly reccomend because they will understand but not buy into pity overload. And they can help shake off the enevitable "crip freaks" that think they are somehow doing the world a service by giving you a few hours here or there and then sending you back to your own world rather than living in it with the PERSON you are FIRST.

Yea it is a lot to ask an other person to date and care about you. Some where along with the misinformation that is out there about disability someone stuck progressive, profound, and early morbidity on your condition when so much is realy not known and life could be so different than the predictions. Mine was; and so are a lot of other people but you will have to live it before you believe it. Even if it isn't I can guarantee you there are people out that that would be glad to have you, however you are, or however long you are interested or able to be with them. So go on and live your life.

Get out do things you like, are good at, and can share. You may have to go at some of it a different way than some do but so what. People will connect with you, and some will like you, and then bingo when you least expect it someone will love you. It happens every day. People with disabilities meet and marry, have or adopt kids, build homes, run businesses all the time.

It will be easier to believe if you get out in the community and look around. Go to some "crip culture" things and you will see lots of couples. Some cool and yes some really screwed up but how is that different than the real world. Just keep in mind some of the couples you think are so "normal" ; well Darlin they aren't.

And that BS about Hawkin's with a Hooker. Sorry I don't buy it. I met him and he is way too cool for stupid stuff like that. Yea he is a man but don't kid yourself he is so real and so kind if he wants a realtionship he would have one. And if some jerk off took a picture he was just smart enough and decent enough not to make them feel like the ignorant assess that would do that kind of crap.

I knew a family who adopted a boy who had Osteogenesis imperfecta (brittle bone disease). He was very intelligent but died at 24 because his skelital structure wouldn't grow but his internal organs did. We visted them often and my daughter use to play Monopoly with him.

Many people can't see past the physical condition enough to enjoy the human being inside. I taught my kids not to take that viewpoint. There are people out there who do look beyond but you have to continue looking. When you find her she will be a prize to you.

lol yeah thanks for sharing your story everyone =] i've heard all this before just differently