Oh, what's your question :)

im i considered a mother even tho i had a miscarrige and and abortion (didnt know i could stop my mom when i was 17 from makeing me have an abortion)

I don't really think anyone can answer that for you. The question is, do you consider yourself a mother? You were pregnant, the pregnancies didn't result in the birth of a baby but it sounds to me as if the pregnancies didn't end because of decisions you made? That's a tough question, probably one you might want to consider discussing with a professional counselor. They might be able to shed some insight better than anyone.

ok

I agree with unsure...one of my hardest parenting moments telling my 3 children I had stage 4 melanoma (skin cancer)
But it was a hppy ending. I had surgery and no cancer now for 7 yrs.
One other hard moment was having my youngest arrested for stealing. It had been an ongoing issue and I told him if he stole again I would call the police. And I did.
As hard as it was 3 yrs later he is a totally different young man and he has great respect for me. I always keep my promises.
He knows I'm tough on him But Im the one he can always count on to be there no matter what

everyday something new comes about... tonight watching my daughter hang out with my sister like friends, and talking all about the girl stuff... in know shes 14 now, but i still want her to be my baby... <sniff,sniff><daddy flashes back to when she use to say daddy!>

so far nothing major has really occurred thank GOD...but i would say the hardest so far was having to explain without unintentionally hurting her when she asked WHY she wasnt going to 1st grade with the rest of her class.
Then there was that question...so mom why didnt you tell me I had a brother ?

the hardest thing for me was watching my kids stand by the door and wait for their father when he promised he was coming to get them and he never shows and they still havent seen him in a year now and believe me i know they would like too he only lives 13 miles away

Hard moment(s): Inability to will away pain. Whether it is due to them taking on a lil grief, or the SUPER drama of teens which gets to be as if the world is ending over a broke nail.

Or the bigger things. (hard moment) Seeing it all move by so fast.. One day you are on your knees, five steps away from ur wobbly toddler with ur arms stretched out as far as u can get them to go, all the while coaching them in your cutsie voice, come on, come to mommy/daddy, lol tryin to get them to take the first few steps in life. Then (blink) ur with ur video camera 50 yards away recording them graduate.

That could VERY well be one of the hardest moments.. exciting yes but very hard emotionally wise.. ::sobs:: thinkin bout it..

Letting go...

Hardest moments:

Having to choose between open heart surgery or catheterization and knowing you can't kiss this away for your three year old.

Facing the reality that I can't help a child that doesn't want my help because he is 18 and knows it all. So letting go is really hard too.

One of the hardest for me was going to where my ex and daughter was living on Thanksgiving morning 1998 and telling my daughter who was 10 at the time, that her aunt, my sister who was 25 died that morning.To this day if I think about that moment, like now just makes me tear up, breaks my frigging heart

I've had alot of hard moments but I think it was when my middle son was hospitalized as an infant and I couldn't stay there the whole week and a half because I had to take care of my oldest son. I was a single parent then too. I had the hardest time walking out of the hospital room every night wondering if that will be the last time i see him alive

Ok, I guess that my hardest parenting moment isn't all that bad. But right now we are trying to find a dress that fits a 13 year old that is built like a 19 year old.

I guess i will answer this for my Pops.
One of his hardest moments with me is when he and I started to realize I have the same personality as my Mom (AKA his ex wife)
They had a pretty nasty marriage for the few months it lasted.
They were too different personality wise.
My mom is quiet, into intellectual things, and easily annoyed, as am I.
My dad however is the complete opposite, and ever since my personality shifted from like his to my mom, our relationship has been like a frolic through eggshells.

Also when he realized he couldnt be my friend anymore after i turned 15, after an innocent incedent with boys he decided he needs to be more "parent-ish".

all of my babes were born early. alex was 38 wk.andrew was at 27 wks and lily was the worst by far she was born at 2&1/2 mo.
dam near 3 mo.s in the hospital NICU. alex was 2 when i had to have my mom help. there was just no way to take care of lil and still be at home for alex..... they told me she wouldnt make it.
I was there every day all day till i had to go to work. then back to the hospital i'd go. pray and sing and talk to her.
the doc said all that and i breast fed as well had to have been what kept her hear. even then wacthin them work on her.....

My hardest parenting moment was watching my daughter being born. I think it was worse for me than it was for the mother. Considering I had never seen child birth before witnessing it live!

Haven't really had a hard moment, Kylie is only 4 months old.

Now wait a minute, your 19, already have 1 child & looking for a different lady to date. Parenting moments, son they have just begun. Slow down & learn some of life before you make anymore babies. I been there done it, married the baby's mother & tried to make it work for 14 yrs. Your apparently not married, so slow down & learn life .

Mine has not come yet...but it is soon on it way and I am STILL getting mentally prepared for it.

And that is telling my step son that I am not his Biological father.I raised the boy since he came out of the womb.I am the only dad he has ever known. And his Bio- Dad has no Interest and has never met his son ( In this case that is a good thing ).