As you get older, how have your values, wants, or needs changed?


Do you look for different things in a partner as you age?


Is maturity important? Or is it just an overused word?


What do you expect from a responsible partner?

My values, wants, and needs have not changed, and I don't see them changing. Those are pretty determined at my core. What I look for has not changed either, since I look for compatibility.

Maturity is important to me. I don't mind playfulness, young at heart types, but You also have to know when to take care of your business and be an adult.

I just expect a responsible partner to put in as much effort as I do. I don't think it will work if one partner is making an effort, and the other isn't.

agree. I think yes, as a couple we should enjoy be able make each other laugh but there is a time and place for everything including a time to be serious.

my values havent changed, but as I have gotten older I am learning more about what it means to apply and have those values applied

There was a poem called 'if' that I always heard growing up and put the roots in my mind of what it meant to be a grown up, every year that passed by that I watched my elders those concepts were reinforced, every time I turned to my bible, they were also reinforced

Now that I am an adult with a child of my own, I want to give that example and foundation to my own children, so my actions and choices are even more SIGNIFICANT in nature because they stopped even having the appearance of being strictly 'my business'

It is extremely important to me now to temper maturity with compassion. When I was younger and alone, I would have probably hung out with just about anybody,, but now I wont let just anyone into my life because it impacts upon my childrens lives. In reality, I was impacting upon the world with everything I did or didnt do , even when I was alone, but it was harder to actually REALIZE that before I had another little face looking up at me, another little voice asking me questions.


Maturity is VERY important to me. There are different lessons and blessings to be learned at each stage of our life so I feel it is important to allow our lives to move forward from one stage to the next so we can grow in our knowledge and our contribution. I expect a partner to be respectful and respectable and not one who speaks before they consider what impact their words have. I expect a partner to CARE about others and to love God. I expect a partner to be a good example to the kids instead of just trying to be their friend or remain a kid themself. I expect a balance in my partner that I didnt place so much importance on when I was younger.

my basic values have not changed tho I am more flexible & understanding now

wants and needs are relative so I think they always change - but in terms of dating & relationships, no they have not changed at all- I have always been a relationship person and these past 2 years as a single is the longest I've ever been single since I was 15 or 16 - srsly - if there has been a change, it's the need to feel like "all the pieces fit"

maturity is very important as one ages - it is gained thru experience, perspective, and understanding

I think I expect the same things anyone would as far a responsibility, but I have few expectations of someone changing

interesting questions BTW

Of course your values change as you age, otherwise we would still consider baseball cards more valuable than money sometimes...lol Now I not only think about the past and present but I also look forward to the future.


As you mature and have different relationships with people you learn what things you like and do not like, and hopefully you do not repeat bad mistakes from your youth.


Maturity is important to me, there is a time and place for having fun. These are things that you learn as you grow older and going more experience.


To be responsible for their own actions is important. It might be cute for girls to act helpless at times but you want to know that if you have to leave town for a few days or something that everything is not going to fall apart while you are gone.

To quote the movie Waiting to Exhale, "Once you get used to being treated well, you can't go back to ********."

That's my new campaign slogan. Bring it on!

To quote the movie Waiting to Exhale, "Once you get used to being treated well, you can't go back to ********."

That's my new campaign slogan. Bring it on!

Yeah, being treated well will spoil anyone

I'm more relaxed. I know what I'm willing to put up with and what I'm not. Things are more clear now.

I'm still the kid I always have been life is to short to worry about somethings. Have things changed, yes from when I was a teen I only think with one brain now

I have inexplicably stopped aging. It's weird but it's great.

Not sure if my wants/needs have changed, but I have been through enough wrong partners to realize what I actually need from one. I need someone that is independent like myself and does not expect others to do everything for them. A man that doesn't have things to hide so is not inclined to fabricate lies & stories (I want the what you see is what you get man)! Would love to be with someone still young at heart, yet responsible enough to take care of his business, children, etc. Both of the LTRs I have had the men leaned on me to take care of everything and be everything to them and that is just too much pressure. I want a man that can handle being in charge and that will let me "just be the girl" at times! I want the one that makes me feel giddy & lets me be my funny, crazy self, not the one that sucks happiness from my soul leaving me too depressed to be me!!!