Maybe it's a sign of my age, or maybe it's the fact that there isn't a whole bunch of courtesy going around these days. Would you prefer someone tell you they aren't interested, or just ignore you??

I prefer to know rather than be brushed off but hey, people suck in general. The real job is finding the ones that don't!

I think an ignore is a response, basically telling you that they're not interested. There may be other reason why they ignore though, such as they didn't receive the message, they get too many messages to reply to them all, or even read them all, etc.

If you plan on staying online for a while, expect to get ignored most of the time. That's just the way it goes.

Unless ur knockdead gorgous / handsome or of course rich don't expect much

Totage is right. It happens, and it sucks that it happens. We all have to deal with it though.

I prefer being told rather ignored. It's simple courtesy. More than that, I like to know why I am being rejected. That's because maybe I will learn something about myself and what I am looking for in the process. If people were willing to take time to have that courtesy, it would make it easier for some of us to find someone special.

JMO

it doesn't really matter to me either way, i just look at like its their loss, and there are the ones that do answer back, so i just forget about the others

I'd appreciate the courtesy if I took the time to message someone rather than no response. However, I do understand that sometimes, even with the best of intentions, people will respond negatively to a respectful "I'm not interested" so it's understandable why many don't respond. It may feel a little awkward sending a reply. But it's not good to get too hung up on whether someone doesn't reply. If they're not interested, as much as it may be annoying, then they're just not interested. As they say, just got to let it go as hard as it be to do so.

Well then I am out of luck :)

oh pffffft!

want some cheese with your whine?!?!?!

I had 62 different ladies trying to reach me on singlesnet today many without pics and I requested only ones with pics on my profile sooooo yea if they dont have the courtesy to put up a pic then why type a rsponse for every one I'd have to hire a secretary and by the way guys arent the only ones who dont read profiles there can be some pretty important info there you would think people might want to know like ''I'm a widow my last 15 husbands died in hunting accidents'' or ''I'm in prison will be out in 2045 emsil me at decapitation 666 @ hotmail.com''

To many lazy and irresponsible people out there. If someone takes the time to send you a message, take the time to reply back. Especailly if it looks like they read your profile. I know I am tired of no replies back. People need to quit looking for Ken/Barbie, and get back to reality and go with a real person.

precisely.....but if i had to chose, i would rather be told, im not really their type than to just be ignored, or worse, told i am their type and then brushed off anyways, because they just didnt want to to hurt my feelings or something, that would be awkward...

i brought up this same concern a long time ago. apparently, since you aren't face to face with anybody you can be as rude as you want.

i think it's repulsive.


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i'm on another site that rhymes with patch.com. i find it funny the number of women that are looking for "someone like" me, yet don't return any of my messages. apparently, "like" me still doesn't mean ME.


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Considering the amount of men I've had who don't take a polite "thanks, but not interested" response and will actually argue with me, ignoring has worked for better for me. There's definitely a vibe that comes through with the way he writes something that will either get a response, or not.

If being ignored, obviously their NOT interested.

What's the big deal...who cares. NEXT!


People say, yeah I'd rather be told the truth than just

be ignored...then a thread gets started and the whining

begins... they didn't take the time to get to know me

they just wanted barbie or ken, they are soooo shallow.

Get over it!!

What others do has nothing to do with you, so why let it

get to ya at all...

Me personally, I think if they take the time to wrote you more than "Hi". Its only right and good manners to answer even when not interested. But what about nudges? Do you also consder it rude to ignore those? I think its more exceptable to ignore the nudges, Because there is not a response for no thanks.(except kick in the butt). But if i message someone and get noe response, WELL their loss not mine, So I don;t sweat it and cross that one off the list..

I ignore nudges and mutual match, and state that in my profile. Idiots still try for MM and nudges. It's different if one has communicated, but otherwise that's kind of rude and somewhat creepy, especially the nudges.

Hope you guys don't mind if ask about something along those lines. I need a lesson in dating site etiquette.
I recently had someone view my profile and message me. (and I was as surprised as you are!) The only thing she said was 'Hi'. Am I being a crumb by not saying Hi back? I do feel a little guilty by ignoring her. But I also feel like, if she really wanted to make friends with people, she'd muster up a little more than a 'Hi'. I'm a guy, true, but I'm one of those odd few that enjoys a meaningful conversation.