I have recently noticed that most ladies turn down guys proposal for relationship,most impotantly online.You messaged them or talk personally but no reply to your proposal.Is it that he's not handsome enough,not wealthy,or he approches you wrongly.If he approches you wrongly just know that he is a newbie,dont wait for one that would say who he's not or fellings he dint have for you.It's a great shock for a guy to messaged a lady and got no answer.Yes or no may not hurt but please answer him.Please tell me why?

Your first message to a woman shouldnt be a relationship proposal. It makes you seem a little creepy. How could you want to be in a realtionship with someone when you don't even know them yet?

IF,,,,YOU SAID HELLO to a HUNDRED women on HERE,,,


twenty MIGHT,,,,,MIGHT------Reply back to you with a hello..

But truly,,probably only about FIVE...


Because YOU SIR,,,have to KNOW HOW to talk to them w/o making THEM feel your different from a person who MIGHT JUST BE PLAYING or someone who is REALLY AN HONEST MAN SAYING HELLO.
WHY,,you may ask..
BECAUSE THEY GET """"""THAT"""""" twenty times a day on a single site.


Let THESE women know your mind, through ALL THE LABOR YOU PUT INTO "WANTING TO SPEAK TO THEM",,,,,
Nothing happens over one email,,and your FIRST GREETING TO THEM,,,MAY BE YOUR LAST THEIR EVER READ,,,so IT needs to have YOUR HEART IN IT,,,alone with NOT allowing THEM to THINK,,your wanting anything MORE from them,,,except their Friendship....

From a woman's point of view...if you just say "hi" and that's it...don't expect a whole lot in return. I haven't been on here long and unfortunately (or fortunately, however you wish to perceive it) I am new to the dating scene. Already what I'm seeing is guys messaging me with nothing more than "hi" or giving me nicknames (sweetie, honey, etc) without ever talking to me first. Ask me questions...get to know me...let me get to know you...but you gotta say more. And NO propositions. Seriously...if I was looking for a "hook-up", I'd go to my local bar.

You really gave all the guys a great advice.Thank's!

this street runs both ways. I have sent many a message to men that have gone unanswered. Simply put, if you look over the profile and just don't find anything there that sparks your interest, then by not responding you are giving your answer of no.

I tried sending some notes to women when I first got here -- never got a reply. Not once. And I'm an author with 5 books published so far, so it's not like I don't know how to write a little bit.

I started posting in the forums, and, after awhile, they started writing to me. Much easier that way. But you have to be out here in the forums, you have to make yourself known.

I think you need to put yourself in the lady's shoes, if you're a guy, and approach things individually. If she is somebody who everybody would consider very attractive or seems to be very popular in the forums, you can figure that she gets lots of approaches. Many of them offensive, too eager or just plain inept. If she is not active in the forums, she will wonder why you even know about her, unless you were just browsing the pictures and came across her's. It may be rude, but I probably wouldn't want to respond every time, either.

For myself, I have had some very nice exchanges with women who, obviously, are way out of my class.My message will be something like, "I couldn't help commenting. Your profile is very attractive. I especially liked what you say about [fill in the blank]. I know that you are going to find what you are looking for Cheers, Art. " Everybody likes a compliment. It's the agendas that make them wary.

As to whether to respond, once you have agreed to enter into an extended exchange, you are obligated to respond to every message. You don't have to be prompt. You don't have to match her enthusiasm. You just have to be polite and control the direction that the exchange is taking. If you're skillful, nobody gets hurt.

When are you proposing these relationships? How much effort have you put into getting to know these women?

Often times, when a woman replies with "Sorry, I'm not interested, but thanks for the email", the guy gets insulted and writes back with harsh or negative words. So, therefore....I just leave the so called "proposals" unanswered!

I once got an initial email that went
something like this:

'Who the **** do you think you ***ing are?
You think any ****ing dude of 18 is gonna
want your **** ***? You are a piece of ****
that deserves ****.
**** my ****.'

It struck me as so bizarre that I replied.
I said, the age range (18-300 or so) is so
that people from the forums can contact me,
no matter their age.

He replied back.

'**** that. You ******* are all ****.
I **** all you ****ing *******.
Go **** yourself.'

Now, I don't reply, get the picture?

I have tried to reply stating I'm not interested and some don't get it. They continue to write. If I tell them I don't want to date men with younger children they get offended and then go off on a tirade of how I'm missing out and I'm all wrong.

Some guys just don't like being told no. I'm starting to think the no response at all message is the easiest for all involved. It gets time consuming to continue to try to be nice when you are not interested.

One of the best rejects I got was from somebody I had just winked at. She said. "I looked at your profile and I don't think we have a match". I don't think she did look at my profile, because it says I'm only looking for friends. She needed only to say, "Sorry, I'm only looking for a serious relationship".

EXACTLY!

I think sometimes it's forgotten that we all have choices regarding whom we choose to date

If you just winked at her, did you really expect an actual response?

No I didn't. This was in the earlier days with my dating site career. I was just winking at anybody that looked good to me.

I wasn't born knowing everything I know today. I like to think that I learn as I go along. Winks are a waste of time, and probably only make you look like a fool.

i said i was sorry on the very next email

@esebulldog

You're wasting your eyelids bub. I ain't going to date you.