So I hit it off with a girl thats 10 years younger than me. Is this going to make me look like a lecherous freak in public?

Not unless she looks younger then 19.

Do you wanna know the truth,


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do you want me to tell ya what you wanna hear

I think you'll be alright. The truth of the matter is you just can't tell someone's age by looking at them. Case and point, I recently had a boyfriend that was nine years older than me. He introduced me to his friends and one of them asked if I went to high school with his sister (who I later found out was 28). I used to go to lunch with him all the time and I'd run into his secretary who once remarked to me, "It's nice to see a girl in her late 20s that isn't married yet or has children." I don't look old for my age (and he doesn't look young for his age either), but people just assume if you're dating you're something near the same age. So I doubt that you'll be getting dirty looks in public. I never did.

Are you going to wear a clown suit?

not at all

My girlfriend is almost 30 years younger than I am. The only people it seems to trouble are young men that think she should be with them and middle aged women that think I should be dating them.

If the two of you hit it off it doesn't mater what anyone else thinks.

Hmmm there is only 6 years between anaconda and i , but I wouldnt care if there where 10 and if it bothered anyone else then just let them suck it up and enjoy yourself.
If we worry what everyone else thinks, we would be watching our backs every second.
Honestly after visiting America, there seems to be a lot of worry about how everything looks to others.

So i would suggest, go out with someone, 40 years older than you, then 30 years younger and then go out with the one who is 10 years younger and everyone will be so relieved that they wont worry.
and if for some reason they do tell them to stuff it down the dunny and then you can just be happy.

Normally I'm the guy that says it going to be okay, and you should do what feels right.

On the other hand, if my 19 year old daughter was dating a 29 year old, I might have things to say.

Oh captain but what if he was really nice and she was really happy , isnt that more important..

hmm now if my 12 year old was dating a 22 year old that would be different.

I dated a man 10 years older than me when I was 17 and that was cool, he was actually much nicer and more settled than the goofy 17 year olds who where more interest in what was in my pants and bra , than what I was interested in.

I say follow your heart as long as you are talking about another Adult.
If you are compelled to ask the question then you may have to do some soul searching in your own mind,,,,in the end you will be the one that knows what is correct.
Cheers and hope it all works out.

Cool, just needed a few opinions. Good feed back, thanks everyone.

It gets pretty difficult to tell how old girls are just by looking at them these days.

prolly but what do care about that for?

I'm in ur corner Ace - I could care less who anyone else is with....as long as I get mine

There always seems to be "something" that is an "issue" with a potential relationship. Age difference, salary difference, you could be a country dude and she is goth, religious difference, etc. And honestly, Goof here has this to say about all of them.

Phuck em!

I get so tired of hearing how other people want to tell you how you should do something. I understand when people want to give advice. I understand when people want to tell you what they feel is best for you. But, unless I missed something in this thing called being a human being, there is only one you. And in the end, you make your own choices. And guess what? On some days, you will make great choices. And on others, you will make bad choices. That is the beauty of this thing called life. I have never met anyone who is perfect. I have met some who think they come pretty close to it. But no one is.

In saying this, my point here is that you have to be man enough to make your own calls. And, you have to be man enough to live with the consequences. Quit worrying about who will think ill about you and a choice you made. They do not live your life, don't feel what you feel, and do not understand why you feel the way you do. You like this chick, then go with it.

I don't see a problem with a 10 year gap. As long as you care for each other; who cares what others think.

Not long ago i dated a guy 10 years younger. People just assumed i was younger and he was older. But i have to confess that the age gap was one of the reasons it didnt work out. Im gonna try to stick to guys my age or older in the future.

I agree, but I do also agree that he prolly needs to be wary of making sure she is at least 18

it is a reason to not go that young - regardless - and it's a good one. I hate to say this but you prolly wanna see her legal ID unless you have some other way to know her age for certain because of potential legal ramifications (but IDK that much about Canada)

19 is awfully young, but if you feel you have enough in common with her to date her, it's your choice.