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Topic: Self confidence; where does it come from?
navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Fri 02/04/11 11:26 PM
I have been having a lengthy discussion with a friend of mine regarding self confidence, or a lack of it. We agreed that the best (and only?) way to attract other people is to be confident. But what if someone lacks self confidence? Even if they're aware that they lack it? So my question to you good people out there is; Where do you get confidence from?? I look foreward to hearing your thoughts on the matter, from men and women. Thanks I got my self confidence from the military. You can't help but be confident when you are responsible for people's lives.

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Sat 02/05/11 12:01 AM
I have been having a lengthy discussion with a friend of mine regarding self confidence, or a lack of it. We agreed that the best (and only?) way to attract other people is to be confident. But what if someone lacks self confidence? Even if they're aware that they lack it? So my question to you good people out there is; Where do you get confidence from?? I look foreward to hearing your thoughts on the matter, from men and women. Thanks Self confidence...confidence in self, is derived from knowing one's self...the whole warts and all...and ACCEPTING the flaws, as well as the strengths. When one stops looking outside themselves for validation, they learn to develop self validation....that's confidence....when you stop listening to everyone, and I mean EVERYONE else's opinions of you, (including your mum's)...you begin to develop confidence in yourself... in your decisions and actions, and your belief in yourself develops and flourishes....that's confidence. It is not some magical mythical thing...most two year olds know it.

actionlynx Joined Wed 08/18/10 Posts: 5448	Sat 02/05/11 02:48 AM
Self confidence...confidence in self, is derived from knowing one's self...the whole warts and all...and ACCEPTING the flaws, as well as the strengths. When one stops looking outside themselves for validation, they learn to develop self validation....that's confidence....when you stop listening to everyone, and I mean EVERYONE else's opinions of you, (including your mum's)...you begin to develop confidence in yourself... in your decisions and actions, and your belief in yourself develops and flourishes....that's confidence. It is not some magical mythical thing...most two year olds know it. Yup, that's why kids always say "I wanna do it". A smart parent recognizes this early, and begins allowing the child to do for themselves. Then sit down, and watch them beam as they say, "I did it!"

mylifetoday Joined Sat 01/08/11 Posts: 1943	Sat 02/05/11 02:53 AM
I personally get self confidence by doing my best in everything I do. I am doing a great job at work and I know the work I am doing is too complex for my staff to work on. Knowing that gives me a lot of self confidence. So, do your best in all you do and focus on your strengths.

Gwendolyn2009 Joined Thu 04/30/09 Posts: 328	Sat 02/05/11 08:17 PM
I have been having a lengthy discussion with a friend of mine regarding self confidence, or a lack of it. We agreed that the best (and only?) way to attract other people is to be confident. But what if someone lacks self confidence? Even if they're aware that they lack it? So my question to you good people out there is; Where do you get confidence from?? I look foreward to hearing your thoughts on the matter, from men and women. Thanks If you need to ask, you aren't ready for the answers.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 02/05/11 08:21 PM
Self confidence...confidence in self, is derived from knowing one's self...the whole warts and all...and ACCEPTING the flaws, as well as the strengths. When one stops looking outside themselves for validation, they learn to develop self validation....that's confidence....when you stop listening to everyone, and I mean EVERYONE else's opinions of you, (including your mum's)...you begin to develop confidence in yourself... in your decisions and actions, and your belief in yourself develops and flourishes....that's confidence. It is not some magical mythical thing...most two year olds know it. Yup, that's why kids always say "I wanna do it". A smart parent recognizes this early, and begins allowing the child to do for themselves. Then sit down, and watch them beam as they say, "I did it!"

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 02/05/11 08:22 PM
Self confidence...confidence in self, is derived from knowing one's self...the whole warts and all...and ACCEPTING the flaws, as well as the strengths. When one stops looking outside themselves for validation, they learn to develop self validation....that's confidence....when you stop listening to everyone, and I mean EVERYONE else's opinions of you, (including your mum's)...you begin to develop confidence in yourself... in your decisions and actions, and your belief in yourself develops and flourishes....that's confidence. It is not some magical mythical thing...most two year olds know it. Yup, that's why kids always say "I wanna do it". A smart parent recognizes this early, and begins allowing the child to do for themselves. Then sit down, and watch them beam as they say, "I did it!" very true - and that sense of accomplishment will continue to feed confidence - as one moves forward