Topic: Trust
Lovelace21's photo
Mon 01/31/11 10:05 AM
How can one learn 2 trust?

BettyB's photo
Mon 01/31/11 10:09 AM
I think it more earned than learned.

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Mon 01/31/11 10:10 AM
keep your mind empty...

Totage's photo
Mon 01/31/11 10:21 AM

How can one learn 2 trust?


Overcome whatever it is that is preventing you from being able to trust people. Unless it's something like you've been cheated on, lied to, taken advantage, etc. Then you just accept that you can't trust those that have betrayed you. But, if you can't trust anyone, then there may be a bigger issue to resolve.

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Mon 01/31/11 10:35 PM
Edited by Randy350R on Mon 01/31/11 10:37 PM


How can one learn 2 trust?


Overcome whatever it is that is preventing you from being able to trust people. Unless it's something like you've been cheated on, lied to, taken advantage, etc. Then you just accept that you can't trust those that have betrayed you. But, if you can't trust anyone, then there may be a bigger issue to resolve.


Thats right, if you can't trust anyone there probably IS a bigger issue. If you start with someone new, remember that the slate is clean.

And ACT like it. It might be hard but it's all in your head. Until someone betrays you or exhibits suspicious behavior. You gotta trust them or it will cause major problems.

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Mon 01/31/11 10:45 PM
trust is earned. We can trust no one till they've earned it. Or trust anyone unless they do something to betray it

I think I'm somewhere in the middle -

wouldn't choose a man I felt I couldn't trust but we each still have to continue to earn and positively reinforce the trust we're granted to start with - so it's real important not to play games

that is the biggest trust killer

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Mon 01/31/11 10:46 PM

keep your mind empty...


don't worry I'm an expert therelaugh

Totage's photo
Mon 01/31/11 11:05 PM



How can one learn 2 trust?


Overcome whatever it is that is preventing you from being able to trust people. Unless it's something like you've been cheated on, lied to, taken advantage, etc. Then you just accept that you can't trust those that have betrayed you. But, if you can't trust anyone, then there may be a bigger issue to resolve.


Thats right, if you can't trust anyone there probably IS a bigger issue. If you start with someone new, remember that the slate is clean.

And ACT like it. It might be hard but it's all in your head. Until someone betrays you or exhibits suspicious behavior. You gotta trust them or it will cause major problems.


But,becareful, "suspicious behavior" can be tricky if you have trust issues.

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Mon 01/31/11 11:08 PM
i don't trust anyone.
it's a horrible way to live.
but eh.

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Mon 01/31/11 11:17 PM

How can one learn 2 trust?
One would NEVER have to learn to trust, IF they were not already educated on the definition of distrusting!:wink:

If you have been lied to,,someone has made you feel used and mis-truths and dishonest people have filled your mind with doubts of ever believing in another human to be HONEST AND TRUTHFUL WITH YOU FACTIALLY...

Then,,,OK,,,I gotcha ya,,,,noway ,,,,,,,,,,,laugh

Never stop believing that ONE will be honest!!!

and like someone has already said,,,TRUST truly is EARNED through their pratices in BEING TRUTHFUL WITH YOU,,and THAT'S SEEN THROUGH YOUR EYES, EARS,and ACTIONS...they fully give you to see and know THEM,,to just be.

TIME my friend,,and witness,,,,and even THEN,,if their really GOOD AT IT,
nope,,,,your be lead and blinded to their REAL TRUTHS..until that one day YOU HAVE A FACT,,that proves them,,,UNTRUSTWORTHY???
Thats my best,,,,,drinker :wink: laugh Good Luck man..drinker



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Mon 01/31/11 11:22 PM

i don't trust anyone.
it's a horrible way to live.
but eh.


tend to sleep with one eye open myself, but time will tell, when it comes to trust time will tell

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Mon 01/31/11 11:27 PM

How can one learn 2 trust?


but to answer the OP directly. With my experience as a map, I'd say to make it a concious practice to surround yourself wiht trustworthy people, and distance yourself from less trustworthy associates who bring u down

if you are in a difficult milieu this can take time & effort but be ultimately worth it

I think it's hardest for the types who like drama & the center of attention but I guess it depends on where one chooses to place priorities - I'd rather have a few trustworthy associates than dozens of untrustworthy ones

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Tue 02/01/11 12:32 AM
Thanks y'all. U guys r awesome.

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Tue 02/01/11 12:36 AM

trust is earned. We can trust no one till they've earned it. Or trust anyone unless they do something to betray it

I think I'm somewhere in the middle -

wouldn't choose a man I felt I couldn't trust but we each still have to continue to earn and positively reinforce the trust we're granted to start with - so it's real important not to play games

that is the biggest trust killer

ur right