Topic: Do Women Lose there Femininity
krupa's photo
Thu 01/27/11 04:26 PM
Some women just dont have feminity. My Uncle Becky is a great gal and one of my favorite family-in-law members. She has zero feminity but, it just seems natural cause she is who she is. I love her.

On the other hand, I have seen some awesomely feminine WOMAN women.

But, it matters not....people will like what they will like and think what they think.

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Thu 01/27/11 04:31 PM

Hmmmm Just a question, I read in one of the other posts that someone believes that women lose their femininity as they get older, so he likes women in their 20's, Just wondering what peoples opinions where on this.

I dont feel any less feminine and i am definately not growing man parts, so what does everyone else think.



I think someone has a very narrow view of what constitutes femininity.


msharmony's photo
Thu 01/27/11 04:42 PM

Hmmmm Just a question, I read in one of the other posts that someone believes that women lose their femininity as they get older, so he likes women in their 20's, Just wondering what peoples opinions where on this.

I dont feel any less feminine and i am definately not growing man parts, so what does everyone else think.



I guess if one equates innocence with femininity as many probably do, than it would be true. If one considers maturity just as feminine, however, than it would not be true.


I think also our culture does not do much to encourage, support, or promote the domestic side of men, and even to the point of belittling men for having domestic skills in many cases. So the comparison to being domestic is similar to being not masculine.

Likewise, with women, our culture does not encourage, support, or promote financial independence or careers, even to the point of belittling women for having careers(particularly if they have children or if they have spouses who feel they dont get the complete attention that they wish to get) in many cases. So the comparison to being career minded or money driven is similar to being not feminine.

I think adults should have domestic and career skills. I think it is significant once someone is in a relationship to divide those skills according to ability(the MORE domestic concentrating on those responsibilities and the MORE career minded concentrating on those responsibilities). I think it is often a clash when both people continue to try to do it all as if they are still alone. There is a certain vulnerability and trust required on both parts that often doesnt happen or when it does happen it is often taken for granted that one partner has to handle ALL responsibilities which are domestic or ALL responsibilities which are financial.


I tend to think of nurturing women as more FEMININE, and protective providers as more MASCULINE, but I think there are many levles of Feminine and Masculine that fall in between. Older women probably have had to do more of the things that men were traditionally trusted to do and instead of stepping up their own game men have come to flip it on the woman and hold it against her.

seamac's photo
Thu 01/27/11 05:05 PM


Hmmmm Just a question, I read in one of the other posts that someone believes that women lose their femininity as they get older, so he likes women in their 20's, Just wondering what peoples opinions where on this.

I dont feel any less feminine and i am definately not growing man parts, so what does everyone else think.



I guess if one equates innocence with femininity as many probably do, than it would be true. If one considers maturity just as feminine, however, than it would not be true.


I think also our culture does not do much to encourage, support, or promote the domestic side of men, and even to the point of belittling men for having domestic skills in many cases. So the comparison to being domestic is similar to being not masculine.

Likewise, with women, our culture does not encourage, support, or promote financial independence or careers, even to the point of belittling women for having careers(particularly if they have children or if they have spouses who feel they dont get the complete attention that they wish to get) in many cases. So the comparison to being career minded or money driven is similar to being not feminine.

I think adults should have domestic and career skills. I think it is significant once someone is in a relationship to divide those skills according to ability(the MORE domestic concentrating on those responsibilities and the MORE career minded concentrating on those responsibilities). I think it is often a clash when both people continue to try to do it all as if they are still alone. There is a certain vulnerability and trust required on both parts that often doesnt happen or when it does happen it is often taken for granted that one partner has to handle ALL responsibilities which are domestic or ALL responsibilities which are financial.


I tend to think of nurturing women as more FEMININE, and protective providers as more MASCULINE, but I think there are many levles of Feminine and Masculine that fall in between. Older women probably have had to do more of the things that men were traditionally trusted to do and instead of stepping up their own game men have come to flip it on the woman and hold it against her.




Very nicely said! Thanks!

kissablekiss's photo
Thu 01/27/11 05:15 PM

knew their was gonna be a thread about this ,but if he likes a 20 year old ....at least he is being straight forward
but i think your problem is because he don't date older women ....
that kinda hit a nerve ....
there are women out there the same age as this fellow ,even on this site that dont date older men ,
its a win win situation
well some people do lose their femininity the older they get
.....just saying

krupa's photo
Thu 01/27/11 06:08 PM
I will date you, your niece and your grandma...in theory, that should make me seem more attractive to women ....cause I am not age biased. But, the reality is chicks WILL gripe about it.

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Thu 01/27/11 06:17 PM
I am more woman now at 50, than ever before, i know myself and feel confidant about who I am, what I like and dont like and dont hesitate to make my needs known...if by "femininity" one refers to being male identified...IE: living up (or down) to male-sexist stero-typical standards of what and how a female should be..well then the answer to that is HELL NO...shades

ChangeofHeart's photo
Thu 01/27/11 06:18 PM

Hmmmm Just a question, I read in one of the other posts that someone believes that women lose their femininity as they get older, so he likes women in their 20's, Just wondering what peoples opinions where on this.

I dont feel any less feminine and i am definately not growing man parts, so what does everyone else think.
No. But some Men believe Woman lose thier Attractiveness, and in some cases thier Sexual Appeal. A Woman over 30 has to have exceptional genes, and good looks to continue to hold the same interest she did in her Teens and early Twenties.

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Thu 01/27/11 06:21 PM


Hmmmm Just a question, I read in one of the other posts that someone believes that women lose their femininity as they get older, so he likes women in their 20's, Just wondering what peoples opinions where on this.

I dont feel any less feminine and i am definately not growing man parts, so what does everyone else think.
No. But some Men believe Woman lose thier Attractiveness, and in some cases thier Sexual Appeal. A Woman over 30 has to have exceptional genes, and good looks to continue to hold the same interest she did in her Teens and early Twenties.


uuhhh..maybe for you...I dont even try to go that rout..Im 50...the warranty on the body expired some time ago..what I have is confidence, experience and a hell of an independent spirit that many find waaaay more attractive than what a 20-something has to offer.

kissablekiss's photo
Thu 01/27/11 06:22 PM
krupa your such a man...w
lmao

Beachfarmer's photo
Thu 01/27/11 06:22 PM
love

Beachfarmer's photo
Thu 01/27/11 06:23 PM

love




and you TOO Sonic

ChangeofHeart's photo
Thu 01/27/11 06:25 PM



Hmmmm Just a question, I read in one of the other posts that someone believes that women lose their femininity as they get older, so he likes women in their 20's, Just wondering what peoples opinions where on this.

I dont feel any less feminine and i am definately not growing man parts, so what does everyone else think.
No. But some Men believe Woman lose thier Attractiveness, and in some cases thier Sexual Appeal. A Woman over 30 has to have exceptional genes, and good looks to continue to hold the same interest she did in her Teens and early Twenties.


uuhhh..maybe for you...I dont even try to go that rout..Im 50...the warranty on the body expired some time ago..what I have is confidence, experience and a hell of an independent spirit that many find waaaay more attractive than what a 20-something has to offer.
At times antiques hold there values more than something modern

Cheer_up's photo
Thu 01/27/11 06:26 PM

Hmmmm Just a question, I read in one of the other posts that someone believes that women lose their femininity as they get older, so he likes women in their 20's, Just wondering what peoples opinions where on this.

I dont feel any less feminine and i am definately not growing man parts, so what does everyone else think.
Well i think you look beautiful just as you are my friend and as people grow older no they just turn more into a woman:) i never saw people lose femininity i see people choose the choice of liking football or liking figure skating stuff like that some like skirts some like dresses and some like jeans but thats all a choice what you like not a loss of femininity :banana: i think hey look at us guys some like jeans and a t-shirt and leather jacket and some like dress clothes all comes done to what a person likes:) and let a person be them selfs but heyyyyyyyyyyy you sure look awesomeeeeeeee my sweet friend BIG HUGSSSSSSSSSSSflowers

kissablekiss's photo
Thu 01/27/11 06:27 PM


love




and you TOO Sonic
[/quote so are you J ..
king of manw..........ness lol

Beachfarmer's photo
Thu 01/27/11 06:29 PM
yeth i am

metalwing's photo
Thu 01/27/11 06:32 PM
Just like so many other things, it depends on the individual. Some women get nothing but sexier. Some never were and never will be.

It's a state of mind.

Ruth34611's photo
Thu 01/27/11 06:32 PM
Most guys I know want a woman between 25 and 35. It's just a fact I've pretty much accepted.

kissablekiss's photo
Thu 01/27/11 06:32 PM
Alice your such a wonderful woman ,Let me just say this 'if everyday is an awakening, you will never grow old.
you will just keep growing ......

kissablekiss's photo
Thu 01/27/11 06:38 PM

Most guys I know want a woman between 25 and 35. It's just a fact I've pretty much accepted.
hugs Ruth ...
the guys i know only date between woman 30 and up
and they are under 25
have accept that also flowerforyou
J you should be ashame of yourself !!! lmao