Thanks so much for your support darlin! I'm not a parent, but a grandparent raising my two grandyounins--they're 5 and 7 years old and I'm a very cute (ha) 50 year old grandma. I've had them almost a year now and it's been a challenge to say the least! I lost my man two years ago due to heart failure, had a few months "alone" and saw my daughter not meeting they're needs and a couple months later, she left them with me, disapeared and I've had them since July last year. I've gotten legal custody of them two months ago and we're struggling, but I'm working on getting them--and me--the help we need so desperately.
I just wanted to tell you how much your post meant to me. It was so nice to read such caring support for single parents caring for the kids alone---I'm kind of in that same catagory---and I just wanted to thank you for taking the time to post what you did. You have a good, caring heart and I thank you!!!
Bobbi J

oops, guess I'm not so savy on this site yet and I apologize, didn't mean to "reply" 3 times!!!!

I am not sure how to say this:

I guess technically I am a single father. We share custody and I have him every other week. Not sure If that qualifies for this thread. Seems everyone here is totally responsible for their kids. I think it is truly sad that the fathers are so absent in their kids lives.

As far as being a father: I have found I am a better father now.

I can help my son understand what it means to be a man without his mom's interference. I am so glad for that. She was starting to encourage him wearing makeup because at two he liked watching his mom put it on. She said this is the modern age. There is no difference between a boy and girl.

I am so glad I can get him away from that and let him know it is ok to be a boy. While we were married, she used every feminist argument whenever I objected to her feminizing our son.

I am so glad we are now father and son the way it should be.

I raised 3 sons alone...their grown up now and are wonderful

people, wonderful young men. All the times I was hard on

myself making all the decisions alone...worth it all!!

The most challenging and rewarding thing I have ever done was

raise those boys....

I learned sooo much from them, much more than I could have

ever taught them.

I've only been a single parent (daughter) for a couple years, its kinda difficult, but I've not yet been able to hold down a real relationship due to scheduling

yep im a single mama now of two boys....and boy o boy is it hard at times.

So I am a mother of two wonderful girls who's father adores them even though we are not together. Recently I got engaged to a new man and we decided to have a baby. I am now 6 months pregnant with twins and he decides it is too stressful for him, and tells me that all he ever does is screw up my life and I am better off without him, and leaves me. I understand his point, and I am probably better off without him but really, how much better off can I be emotionally raising twin babies on my own. With no one to share my joy in being pregnant or watching them grow. Who is going to want a girl with newborn twins, I am afraid I will always be alone. My children bring me joy, but part of having kids, to me, is sharing that joy with someone else. I hate being a single parent!!

Thnx so much 4 ths ! i hv bn hurt b4 n really appreciate it mo if a guy understand me !smtimes wen he does smthng nice 2 me if i break dwn n cry it dsnt mean am hurt ! wl b cryng 4 e wasted tym i spend wth e wrong person !

Same here; raised five alone; had three more and I've raised them on my own for the last 5 years. I love my kids - we actually enjoy being in each other's company - and I prefer it that way.

I would never choose single parenting either , but children can get love from many places, we have to learn to accept love into our lives to give them that chance...

.thnx dear,am a single mom and it hurts me so much to see my kids missing their dad like tht,cnt force him to spend time wth his kids ,cn i ? no.have told my kids i am their mom as well as their dad ,wth my God am going to pull through .hav found love on line and i hope its gonna work ! have bn alone and lonely for too long

Is it hard to be a single parent, Yes but its also very rewarding.
I lost my wife to cancer so I am raising my two daughters by myself they are only 4 and 6 but they are so loving and special to me I would love to have the situation different and give them a mother but so far its not been easy to find.
I have to fill both shoes and at times its very difficult. I am so thankful for family and friends who have been helpful in many ways.

This has a been a problem for me too. I was on that site singleparentmeet but I found dating other single parents was increasingly difficult between all the kids schedules..It's hard finding time for yourself as a single parent let alone both single parents finding that time at the same exact time...good luck

I was supposed to be married, but the father of my daughter choose alcohol over me and our child. Now I am a heart-broken, single mother wondering if I will ever find real love. I have so much love to give, so much love to give and no man to shower it all on. I often think "What's wrong with me? Why can't I have prince charming come along and ride me and my daughter off into the sunset?" I want to love and be loved so bad. When Mr. Right finally does find me, I'm never going to leave his side because of all the time I've been without him. I wouldn't trade my daughter for all of the riches in the world and hopefully one day soon she will have a father in our home to help me lead, guide and protect her. One day!

i am a single dad of 2 lil guys one is 3 and one is 1 years old i have them most of the time cause mom has no house now and sleeps at her sisters ex husbands house its a huge mess the boys both dis like there mother very much and my oldest cries everytime he has to go with her it is very hard to be a single parent thank god they are both boys i dont know if i could do it if they were girls it is so hard on them you guysa are right there mom works but makes very little money and always throws it in my face cause they get what ever they want from me i was wondering if this is wrong i find myself spoiling them more then normal cause i feel guilty for what happened between there mother and i even though she was the one that was cheating i feel like i should not feel that was but i feel guilty for there parents not being together does that feeling ever go away we split up when my oldest was 7 months old i took her back it was going good for the sake of my son then she got pregnant with my lil one and it went sour again and i said no more thats it does the guilty feeling ever go away

Be encouraged arcticdad, I feel the guilty feeling with my child too, but am confident that it will go away once the right person comes along to replace that guilt with peace, love and happiness.

I am a newly single male patent of one 2 year old girl and one 3 year old boy. My hats off to all those single parents and the tough times, giving things up, and the lack of sleep for the kids. I dont have time for myself, but when I see my kids eyes, its worth this adventure many times over. I feel in order for me to even find someone new, it will be a total accedent. Here to a long adventure and an education you cant get in any school. Advise is always welcomed!

I have been a single father for over 4 years now to 3 beautiful and smart girls. I will admit that it has been challenging (especially when my oldest hit puberty last year) but I love my kids and will do whatever I can to give them a great life, even if it means reaching down deep and pulling out my feminine side to help support them emotionally. Life has a tendency to throw us a curve ball once in a while but being a father is the most rewarding experience I have ever have and I will cherish every moment I have with them.
Thank you for the support!!