a,,,excuse me here also,,but,,,SHE RESEAVED THAT,,from ME,,wink,but shared well with HE,,,,lol
I was just Mr. Fix-IT,,,but not ****-IT,,,

Oh heavens I don't have any one to ask for help for most things. (have to say a big thanks to Jeff and his plow after yesterdays blizzard! and my dad is very handy) but by and large if I want it done I just do it, be on my mouse of myself!

If the job falls apart(shelf falls down etc etc) I have no one to blame but me, that part sucks!!!

Well. Maybe you could teach me patience then. I keep telling my resident that I care for at work who keep telling herself be patient that if she gets tired of being a patient she can be a resident. The female aides keep telling her to be patient and that is why she keeps saying her name and be patient. I might not be all there like she is but that doesn't mean I am all here, either.

Sounds like my ex-husband! Except he didn't get mad when I fixed something--he was rather relieved.

I finally figure out that when he said, "I'll do it tomorrow," it was a case of tomorrow never coming. It was also a case that if he procrastinated too long, I would do it.

For some reason, I could read somthing dirty into every part of that statement...........

OP, the whole thing could have been a situational delay, with the beef who did not put up the shelf. (Beef = bf, or boyfriend)

He wanted to do it in front of you. But when you two were both at home, you probably pestered him for sex or asked him to sing Himalayan Lullabis to you from the Ming dynasty.

Why he wanted to do it in front of you? there are numerous possible reasons.

1. He wanted to show you he can stand pain for you, and not show it, when he hit his thumb with the hammer. This was a covert plan by the guy to further give evidence that supported his thesis of "his manliness".

2. He wanted to show off with his repertoire of loud cussig words in such hard times as when he hit his thumb with the hammer. He had secretly hoped to impress you with his store of contempoary English words that are remnants from the legendary Ole English lingual epoch, when "f..." meant "luvy-duvy-dub, dahling", "c..." meant "I wish to cherish you forever" and "c... g..... g.... t.. r... a..... is y... m.....'. stick" meant "I shallt goe now and kut ye wheat with mine sharp scythe untilll ye breke of ye nighte."

You had me at "I had offers from boyfriends and male friends" and you lost me at "to help me."

Your story here has good potential, but you must keep up your readers' interest by taking your blouse off.

I think you are missing the point. I did not ask my ex-boyfriend or my male friends for help; didn't even hint at it. I was prepared to do the jobs myself and never at anytime asked for help. They just offered to help me. How is that using someone when they make the offer? I think my only mistake was accepting their offer in the first place. Now when a man offers to help me; I just say no thank you.

Well, you are right that I did pester him for sex so guess I am partly to blaim for him not putting the shelf up. LOL

We were fortunate growing up, that dad was willing to do the carpentry work around the place after he came home from work. All sorts of nifty things from a hope chest he built when I was a year old, to tables, to the bookcases and main library.

It's only been the past couple of years that my brother has taken over the main work and dad only gets things done when its a major repair.

Short of a body to sleep next to and sex, I really am not seeing much use for men anymore. They claim they'll do something for you and don't. I had a lot of this crap when I had injured my back and wasn't supposed to lift, move or twist with anything, and was still having to get things done because the bf said he wouldn't but didn't.

olny time I got upset was when my bank account was empty and my credit was shot, she blew the motor in my pickup truck,the bills had not been payed for three months, yep helped herself real good.

had this happen many moons ago.

oh ya you can use the tools in the pink box but leave the rest alone.

I think most anger is based in fear. So, my guess is that you have caused them to be fearful in some way when you do the job they felt they were supposed to do.

Don't need to, I have my own set of tools and power tools.

I went through the same thing with a back, neck, and knee injury from a car accident. I couldn't even walk for almost 4 years and all the so called promises didn't happen. It was a struggle enough just to walk but I managed to get my stuff done around the house on my own. Its amazing what you can do when you are determined.

I have the most highest respect for a woman that can accomplish anything she sets her mind to do.

My wife (when she was alive)had the knack of having the womans touch for decorating.

She also knew how to use tools for her D.I.Y. projects.

I did not feel that it was a shot to my ego because she knew how to do these things.

There were other projects that I did for her that were out of her capabillities to do. I.E. minor plumbing or minor electrical work.

I miss her womans touch around the house.

So to you ladies that are D.I.Y.`ers.

Cheers

Always been one to do it myself.
Waited for a week for some one to help take down a tree in back yard. Finally gave up, couldn't get the chain saw started so used a hand saw. Took me a while but it came down. Then they show up and want to know what tree I wanted down, I just told him the stub in back yard. I think I'm to inpatient?

Thanks for your input. Men like you are rare and I sure hope I can meet someone like you. Its nice to know there are men that don't get mad because a woman can do something herself. That shows the sign of a real man in my opinion. Thanks; you made my day. Cheers

My hat is off to you. Using a handsaw is hard work. I wouldn't even attempt that without a power saw.

Just a smaller tree, probably only 20-25 inches around. But still enough to break a sweat.

I didn't enjoy using a hand saw with a mitre box for my baseboards as it was long tedious work. I finally broke down and got an electric one. Now I only use handsaws for the tiniest jobs.