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| Topic: Being friends after the relatioship ends? | |
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Do you actually talk to them about it before you make the assumption? Or do you assume that anyone who is friends with an ex is not over their relationship?
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I think most times for myself...i have a strong sense of what is going on. I can tell when someone is feeding me bologna or if they are being genuine...based on that i may or may not mind if their ex gf is hanging around. I guess you can also refer to that as assumption but I call it a gut feeling....and it's often right.
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I try and talk about as much as I can before making assumptions but sometimes I forget that not everyone views the world like I do and arent thinking what I believe they are when I am saying things...definitely fail on the mind reader test lol, I like all of your points of view it gives me plenty to work with and things to talk about with up coming relationships or even current friends what i should learn about and all taht thanks keep em coming :)
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I think most times for myself...i have a strong sense of what is going on. I can tell when someone is feeding me bologna or if they are being genuine...based on that i may or may not mind if their ex gf is hanging around. I guess you can also refer to that as assumption but I call it a gut feeling....and it's often right. I think a gut feeling is different than assuming. If you just thought that every single person who was friendly with an ex was lying about not being over a relationship, that would be assuming. But like you said, you have a good idea of who is being genuine with you and who is not, so I see that differently than just making assumptions. |
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I think if you were FRIENDS before the Relationship then it is possible to be Friends after, In most cases, Not all but most. They werent friends prior to the relationship. I think it depends on the people.
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Hey man,,to be very REAL here with ya,,,its really ALL about the reasons for the split,,,and the KIND of people they BOTH ARE? And ALL the posts have their own meanings to each one of us reading it. Yours is one of the many topics we go through and or have-had,,so its all good and minds are read through their words on it... 95 percent of the ladies I have ever dated,,STILL remain my today FRIENDS through life...even after they have married,,,wink. or I become involved in my own.....Thats what GOOD TRY'S AT IT do for the ones really trying to find a sincere partner to be with.... well as it was something that i have never tried until i heard about others views on it...it didnt work for me...its almost like being friends with someone after saying you like them or love them and expecting nothing to change...but only taking it further than that more than once...I dont believe both parties leave unscathed just if its not gunna work it wont work, move on, make new adventures. I think it works best for me that way, but i really think it would depend on the way the person behaves toward me if im comfortable with maintaining a friendship or will give that trust up again. Cant have friendship with people you cant trust, turning off the comfort zone from a relationship is harder then losing trust in a stranger... |
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I think most times for myself...i have a strong sense of what is going on. I can tell when someone is feeding me bologna or if they are being genuine...based on that i may or may not mind if their ex gf is hanging around. I guess you can also refer to that as assumption but I call it a gut feeling....and it's often right. I think a gut feeling is different than assuming. If you just thought that every single person who was friendly with an ex was lying about not being over a relationship, that would be assuming. But like you said, you have a good idea of who is being genuine with you and who is not, so I see that differently than just making assumptions. well that depends on what u are assuming |
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Silliness right there! LOL
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